Just wanted to say something.

[DeafMommy0407]

Just wanted to say something to men and women.

I just wanted to say something to you, men and women.


I am feeling that somehow that men are not just interested in dating women but looking for control over women so men can think from their own penis, not from their minds or hearts.

They are just looking for what they can find in women that they can manipulate over. BUT I know this for a fact, that WOMEN are too smart and I am for one, telling the truth. Of course men are not always that way and neither are women too.

BUT one thing that I don't really understand is WHY-WHY do men start looking for a perfect woman? A perfect woman who has the perfect legs, breasts, stomach, arms, hair and the best sex drive? One word for those men is "GOOD LUCK". We, the women are looking too for the perfect men who has the perfect abs, muscles, legs, arms, hands and the best sex drive.

BUT GUESS WHAT?? Men and Women have no luck as the same of all. And guess what? I AM NOT SURPRISED! Because I have been looking on and off for 3 years and no such luck YET!!!

Here are some excuses from Men and Women.

1-He or She is not ready to start dating again.
2-He or She doesn't want to get married.
3-He or She is totally not my type.
4-He or She wants to have children.
5-He or She doesn't want to have children.
6-He or She doesn't want to move out of town or state to be with her or him.
7-He or She is not good enough for me or my family.
8-He is not handsome enough/She is not pretty enough.
9-He is not skinny or He is too fat/She is not skinny or She is too fat.
10-He or She has a very messy house.
11-He or She makes a terrible cook.
12-He or She has the terrible sex drive. He or She doesn't want to wait around for her or him to "start working it up".



So Thank you for reading this. I just wanted to get my thoughts out and typed it down for you all men and women to read. Thank you.

 

[AJ]

not all men are like that...yeah unfortunatley there are men who are like that...but not all. and yeah men are looking for the "perfect" woman...but every man has a different view on what perfect is. my perfect woman would love me. and love me for who i am and accept everything about me. my perfect woman would be funny, and have lots of self esteem, and can poke fun at herself. my perfect woman would obviously be attractive to me. my perfect woman wouldn't be interested in everything im interested in, cuz if she was then i would never get to experience anything new. but i would like her to be interested in some of the things i like. especially surfing thats a big thing for me. anyway as long as she loves me, and wants to be with me thats what i want from a woman.

not all men are just about sex sex sex. dont get me wrong...i love sex. but that doesn't make a good relationship.

 

[DeafMommy0407]

not all men are like that...yeah unfortunatley there are men who are like that...but not all. and yeah men are looking for the "perfect" woman...but every man has a different view on what perfect is. my perfect woman would love me. and love me for who i am and accept everything about me. my perfect woman would be funny, and have lots of self esteem, and can poke fun at herself. my perfect woman would obviously be attractive to me. my perfect woman wouldn't be interested in everything im interested in, cuz if she was then i would never get to experience anything new. but i would like her to be interested in some of the things i like. especially surfing thats a big thing for me. anyway as long as she loves me, and wants to be with me thats what i want from a woman.

not all men are just about sex sex sex. dont get me wrong...i love sex. but that doesn't make a good relationship.

AJ, I know. That is why I said not all men or women are like that. Thank you for reading.

 

[AJ]

welcome

 

[CODAchild]

Hey Georgia, I understand what you mean about men thinking with the wrong head. Yet, we do meet men that would like to meet the right person, but, hasn't yet for all the reasons you stated above.

I for one, guilty of the perfect guy syndrome back in the early 70's, the Disco Era, when we would go to nightclubs every Friday night. To do what? See if we can meet the most amazing man!!! Man that is handsome, has gorgeous clothes, a nice body, muscles, knows how to dance, knows how to treat a lady!!!! Vice Versa for the men too. As I think back, I say to myself "what on earth was I thinking of"? The one important thing we forgot in a man is his "HEART"!!! We wanted as the former New Kids on the Block would say "The Right Stuff". We were looking for the wrong stuff.

Now in the 21st Century, it seems like the men and women of today want to meet the right person, the person for who they really are. Yes, there are men/women that are only out for one thing, but, it's how they portray themselves, their attitude and behavior.

At the same time, men are a lot different now than they were 30 years ago. In a good way, I mean.

DeafGeorgia, I understand what you mean, because that's all I ever met too, men who only thought with the wrong head. I told my dad "I am never going to get married", poor guy felt bad when I said that because he wanted grandchildren . I did finally meet the right man, when I met my husband, and my father got his wish, he now has 2 grandchildren.

Just keep looking, when you least expect it, zap, there he is!!!!

Good luck!!

 

[DeafMommy0407]

Hey Georgia, I understand what you mean about men thinking with the wrong head. Yet, we do meet men that would like to meet the right person, but, hasn't yet for all the reasons you stated above.

I for one, guilty of the perfect guy syndrome back in the early 70's, the Disco Era, when we would go to nightclubs every Friday night. To do what? See if we can meet the most amazing man!!! Man that is handsome, has gorgeous clothes, a nice body, muscles, knows how to dance, knows how to treat a lady!!!! Vice Versa for the men too. As I think back, I say to myself "what on earth was I thinking of"? The one important thing we forgot in a man is his "HEART"!!! We wanted as the former New Kids on the Block would say "The Right Stuff". We were looking for the wrong stuff.

Now in the 21st Century, it seems like the men and women of today want to meet the right person, the person for who they really are. Yes, there are men/women that are only out for one thing, but, it's how they portray themselves, their attitude and behavior.

At the same time, men are a lot different now than they were 30 years ago. In a good way, I mean.

DeafGeorgia, I understand what you mean, because that's all I ever met too, men who only thought with the wrong head. I told my dad "I am never going to get married", poor guy felt bad when I said that because he wanted grandchildren . I did finally meet the right man, when I met my husband, and my father got his wish, he now has 2 grandchildren.

Just keep looking, when you least expect it, zap, there he is!!!!

Good luck!!

I understand things can change. I am just pouring my feelings out, that all. That was a good story about you and dad. I feel that way sometimes, with my parents. They tell me all the time, If you just believe hard enough, it will happen. I feel good about them telling me that. I still try. I have alots of faith and I am not going to give up on faith. Faith is the one thing that keeps me going and gives me a positive attitude.

Thank you for reading and understanding.