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I was beginning to feel pretty isolated because everyone I know is hearing accept for 2 people. Yesterday I received an email from someone who is very active in the Deaf Community here.
She works for the Communication Service for the Deaf as Supported Community Living Services and wanted to invite me to a few events and let me know what is going on. You have no idea how big of a relief it was to read her email and how inviting she was. I had no idea there was a Deaf church here, they have a Deaf club that meets once a month and every week they have a Deaf dinner at a new place. I knew about the Starbucks meet ups but last time I went there, there was no one that was around my age, everyone was a lot older than me and I felt weird.
I think that is what I was having trouble with. I was feeling since it is so hard for me to communicate with everyone I used to know or know now, what was I going to do when I lost all of my hearing. I never see my 1 deaf friend and I just started getting pretty down about it. I feel like a huge ton of bricks just lifted. She also said I can take the ASL classes for free (that I thought I had to pay for) because I need them.

What a great day! I can't wait for tomorrow now, the dinner and then everything this weekend!:aw:
 
glad u feeling better, candybrowneyes! and that there are some get-togethers planned! I will be meeting my friend whom I haven't seen in some months due to scheduling conflicts. She is Deaf and has been helping me w/ASL.

Best Wishes for the dinner and all-
 
dogmom said:
glad u feeling better, candybrowneyes! and that there are some get-togethers planned! I will be meeting my friend whom I haven't seen in some months due to scheduling conflicts. She is Deaf and has been helping me w/ASL.

Best Wishes for the dinner and all-
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Thanks so much! It just makes me feel like I can be somewhere and not feel all weird or frustrated. I hope you have a great time with your friend!!
 
Byrdie714 said:
Maybe you can meet Botti???
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I am dangerous and sarcastic in real life too. :lol:

Plus I am in poor physical health so she must travel to me.

But I am up for coffee if she ever wants to. :)
 
That's terrific, candybrowneyes. Like I have said before, the community is everywhere! That's why when someone says, "There aren't any other deaf people where I live." I always think, "What you really mean is you haven't met them yet."
 
Bottesini said:
I am dangerous and sarcastic in real life too. :lol:

Plus I am in poor physical health so she must travel to me.

But I am up for coffee if she ever wants to. :)
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I would do that! I do forget where you are though.. Sometimes instead of losing my hearing I feel like I lose my mind as well lol :giggle:
 
jillio said:
That's terrific, candybrowneyes. Like I have said before, the community is everywhere! That's why when someone says, "There aren't any other deaf people where I live." I always think, "What you really mean is you haven't met them yet."
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That is so true.. I knew they were somewhere here, they were just hiding from me, haha Thanks! I am sooo excited, I feel like a little kid waiting for Christmas! lol
 
I find it strange that you were unable to find this out via Google or another search. There are so many resources out there; you just gotta look. BTW, have your hearing friends begun to fade out yet? It took mine a couple years to realize the old "Saywhatkid" was never coming back. Then they left en masse, like a stampede. That was when I started to search. Got tired of being alone and depressed. Being with others is an uplifting experience. Glad you found something. Give us a report when you return.
 
saywhatkid said:
I find it strange that you were unable to find this out via Google or another search. There are so many resources out there; you just gotta look. BTW, have your hearing friends begun to fade out yet? It took mine a couple years to realize the old "Saywhatkid" was never coming back. Then they left en masse, like a stampede. That was when I started to search. Got tired of being alone and depressed. Being with others is an uplifting experience. Glad you found something. Give us a report when you return.
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Trust me I used google, it was just really hard to find a contact for these people. I knew about the Office because I had originally took my ASL class there but by the time I came there the normal office was closed and it was just open for the class. It was just nice for someone to finally reach out to me. My friends are still around I see them about once a week but its getting tougher and tougher for me and them. Few get annoyed with trying to communicate. If they arent willing to still be my friends through this then they weren't worth being my friend before. The good ones are stickin =)
 
candybrowneyes said:
I would do that! I do forget where you are though.. Sometimes instead of losing my hearing I feel like I lose my mind as well lol :giggle:
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It's ok. I lost mine years ago! If you ever want to travel for a coffee klatch, just send me a PM. :)
 
I am truly amazed at how you are looking at this candybrowneyes. you are right, if they aren't willing to still be your friend, then they weren't worth being there before. those that love you for who you are will stay.
 
candybrowneyes said:
If they arent willing to still be my friends through this then they weren't worth being my friend before. The good ones are stickin =)
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I had friends I knew longer than you have been alive. They also ran away. It will happen to you, eventually. The few that remained for me are usually busy and rarely make time for me now, like they gotta get psyched out first. Think football warmups. You gotta realize, I was the life of the party before this happened to me. Now I am just a humble HOH guy with great family and few friends. Sorry to rain bitterness on your parade. Not my day today.
 
saywhatkid said:
I had friends I knew longer than you have been alive. They also ran away. It will happen to you, eventually. The few that remained for me are usually busy and rarely make time for me now, like they gotta get psyched out first. Think football warmups. You gotta realize, I was the life of the party before this happened to me. Now I am just a humble HOH guy with great family and few friends. Sorry to rain bitterness on your parade. Not my day today.
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Im sure that it was hard but I know a couple of them will stick with me.. Some of which I have been friends with since I was 5 and 2 who are starting ASL class for me this summer. Not everyone is the same, I like to think I picked my friends for a reason. The ones I go out with and hang out with are merely people I just hang out with, Ive always known who my friends are and they are the ones that are taking the extra time and going the extra mile for me. While it may be tough for them I like to think I am a good friend and I feel they think I am worth the time and effort and for that I love them.. I can handle the people who I party with, go to the bars with and talk to on occasion flaking out on me.. They weren't here before we started hanging out and I was alright, and through this when I lose them I will be alright as well. It is my true friends and family that matter... and of course, all of AD =)
 
Nothing wrong with being a humble HOH guy with great family and few friends.
 
That's good news for you! I hope you'll have tons of fun tomorrow! Keep us posted about how it went CBE!

Yeah, sometimes there's stuff just around the corner and you don't know about it! I know how that feels... :giggle:

:hug: Jamie
 
That's great, CBE - This may be a start for you to get your ball rolling! :)

It will take time but in the end, You will be able to see a different world than what you've begun with. Do let us know how that goes.

It's funny how sometime you don't realize things are right under your nose the whole time until later on, viola, it's right there! I definitely can relate on that one! :lol:
 
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