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rjr2006

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Today, I felt depressed, because now I found out that I must overcome my shyness for after I graduate from high school next year. I visited the state university with disabled high school students. Now I realize that the professors in any colleges don't care about my disabilities, so that means my special education servrices will stop by the end of June '06.


My shyness is the biggest challenge for me, and today is Junior Prom, which I am not going, because I chose to believe my brother, he was telling me that I will be left out at the prom since nobody cares about my disabilities. I feel really awful because few of my friends are going to the prom, but it really hurts me a lot.
 
rjr2006 said:
Today, I felt depressed, because now I found out that I must overcome my shyness for after I graduate from high school next year. I visited the state university with disabled high school students. Now I realize that the professors in any colleges don't care about my disabilities, so that means my special education servrices will stop by the end of June '06.


My shyness is the biggest challenge for me, and today is Junior Prom, which I am not going, because I chose to believe my brother, he was telling me that I will be left out at the prom since nobody cares about my disabilities. I feel really awful because few of my friends are going to the prom, but it really hurts me a lot.
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that is NOT TRUE!!! some professors are sensitive to some people.. not all.. but some.. whoever told you this~ probably wanted you to be prepared for the worst.. so don't let it get to you...

OMFG!!! .. your brother is a "downer" ... i could KICK HIS ASS!!! HE HAD NO RIGHT TO TALK TO YOU LIKE THAT!!!... he could have supported you instead of putting you down... what kind of brother is he!?!? :pissed: sheesh!!! screw that! YOU GOT US!!! so keep you posting away today to keep yourself busy and your mind off of the prom! and the day will go by.. then NEXT YEAR... GO TO THE PROM AND KNOCK THEM DEAD!!! SHOW THEM WHO YOU ARE!!! YOU CAN DO IT KIDDO!!! YOU HAVE COME A LONG WAY... SO WHY STOP NOW??? YOU CAN DO IT!!! HAVE FAITH!!! :hug:
 
rjr2006 said:
Today, I felt depressed, because now I found out that I must overcome my shyness for after I graduate from high school next year. I visited the state university with disabled high school students. Now I realize that the professors in any colleges don't care about my disabilities, so that means my special education servrices will stop by the end of June '06.

My shyness is the biggest challenge for me, and today is Junior Prom, which I am not going, because I chose to believe my brother, he was telling me that I will be left out at the prom since nobody cares about my disabilities. I feel really awful because few of my friends are going to the prom, but it really hurts me a lot.
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Your brother should be ashamed for discouraging you from going to your prom. It's your prom and if you want to go, you should. Sitting around at home isn't going to solve your shyness problems, you have to get out there and the prom may be a good place to start.

It bothers me that some people around you actually would do such a thing. You are obviously a very intelligent boy, and I can see it by just reading your posts. I'm not sure, but I remember you mentioned about being a quad. Look at Christopher Reeve who was in a more severe form and did it stop him from getting respect and earning a good life?

Nope, and he left the Earth as a legend to be remembered for generations to come.

So can you.
 
I totally agree with Feisty...
Dude, it takes COURAGE to express your fears, and you are not alone. Courage simply means action in SPITE of fears, and you have already proven yourself to me a man of courage just by making your post, so just get out there no matter how scared you may feel. I am utterly convinced that you will be pleasantly surprised by yourself if you would but just stick to your guns and your goals!
 
Banjo said:
Your brother should be ashamed for discouraging you from going to your prom. It's your prom and if you want to go, you should. Sitting around at home isn't going to solve your shyness problems, you have to get out there and the prom may be a good place to start.

It bothers me that some people around you actually would do such a thing. You are obviously a very intelligent boy, and I can see it by just reading your posts. I'm not sure, but I remember you mentioned about being a quad. Look at Christopher Reeve who was in a more severe form and did it stop him from getting respect and earning a good life?

Nope, and he left the Earth as a legend to be remembered for generations to come.

So can you.
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ABSOLUTELY!!! :thumb: heed his advice as well kiddo! :hug:
 
I agree with all of those who posted (Banjo, FiestyChick and BeoWolf). :) I don't think your brother is right in telling you you shouldn't go to the prom....I remember in my old high school, a girl around my age was in a wheelchair going to school events, and she was always smiling. You can do these things like she did, and so did Christopher Reeve who have became a legend and an inspiration to people.
Just go, have fun, and believe in yourself! :)
 
People with disabities are no different from people without disabilities. I have seen a really HOT sexy woman date a guy with NO legs! It's all about personality and chemistry, not the disability, knock YOUR brother dead. He's WRONG! Good luck trying to overtake your shyness, people won't bite if u movitate and get to know them, nothing wrong with that!

Please keep your chin up and "just do it" like Nike! :D
 
I've had my own family members telling me I cant live up to their definition of 'success'. I just screw them off and move on with my life and breath easy.

What I done so far is my definition of success I'm happy about it myself and live long afterwards.

Richard
 
Being shy isn't something to be ashamed of, there are many folks out in this world who are deathly shy especially when it comes to what 'others' might think or say of them. To overcome shyness is to be able to 'be yourself' regardless what others think or say...sure, it may seem hard when one puts a lot of mental thoughts in the mind when most of those thoughts may be of a negative tone--,(so start putting more positive thoughts in your mind ;) ) but hey, you're human and surely YOU can just be yourself regardless of what others think or say...by going out into the world and being yourself, and do what it takes to make YOU happy, you're not out in the world to 'satisfy' THEM only, but being out there because you want to and being successful, happy by being out there for yourself and you're more than capable to be able to accomplish anything you put your mind to, once you're able to do that, that'll rub off on others and surely it'll affect them likewise and think better of you!! Go on, try it, I'm sure you'll be amazed and be able to overcome your shyness easily. Also, we're here for you! :thumb:
 
I didn't go to the Junior Prom.
It didn't bother me about going there... it was just an event.
Nothing special about it... I thought it would boring anyway.

But did go to the Senior Prom.
I was gonna ask the boy I had a crush on to take me to the prom.
But I didn't.
My cousin set me up to go prom with her fiancé.

And hahaha,,,, everybody at the prom was like, damn, who is that? :shock:
I told them that this is my cousin's fiancé.
And they go, ohhhhh.

And I had me on a nice black dress...
I show off my legs and boobs....
I had on nice hair dude...
I look like a movie star...

And I didn't look like I had Treacher Collins Syndrome...

So we just dance dance dance, chat chat with other people, and ate some good food there, nice drinks.... it was fun.

So maybe ask someone a friend or someone you know...
and don't give up...
just go out and have some fun.
 
Screw the proms!

Proms are nothing but social tricks for these societal newbies to see where they stand on the aspects of their peers.

I seen prom kings and queens end up either in jail or sleep on bus stop benches. Some even changed their sex.

The point I'm saying is proms mean nothing these days. If you feel left out, then consider yourself lucky because proms are nothing but yuppie tricks to intimidate people.

Richard
 
FeistyChick said:
that is NOT TRUE!!! some professors are sensitive to some people.. not all..
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Oh, really? Will NTID professors understand my situations about why my physical disability prevents me from finishing all of homework on time? I decided to terminate deaf education last year, so that enabled me to work on my own, and become more independent. I will not have special services for college because I need to function properly.

The university I visited yesterday is: Southern Connecticut State University, and I noticed that there are a lot of people who has physical disability, just like I do. Unfortunately, there are less deaf people there and that's why I want to go to a college where all of professors and students use sign language. They understand what deafness is, and if I don't get accepted into NTID then I have to get job or be challenged in hearing college. I don't want to cut off the deaf world, although my mom called me "deaf brat", and she doesn't understand anything about deaf culture. She also refused to learn ASL, because she fears that I might lose my English skills, and I can do ASL/PSE on my left arm only, since my right side of the body does not function properly.
 
rjr2006 said:
Oh, really? Will NTID professors understand my situations about why my physical disability prevents me from finishing all of homework on time? I decided to terminate deaf education last year, so that enabled me to work on my own, and become more independent. I will not have special services for college because I need to function properly.

The university I visited yesterday is: Southern Connecticut State University, and I noticed that there are a lot of people who has physical disability, just like I do. Unfortunately, there are less deaf people there and that's why I want to go to a college where all of professors and students use sign language. They understand what deafness is, and if I don't get accepted into NTID then I have to get job or be challenged in hearing college. I don't want to cut off the deaf world, although my mom called me "deaf brat", and she doesn't understand anything about deaf culture. She also refused to learn ASL, because she fears that I might lose my English skills, and I can do ASL/PSE on my left arm only, since my right side of the body does not function properly.
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my mom won't learn ASL with me either.
 
Wait! your automatic signature shows "Being deaf and in the wheelchair makes me feel lonely, but I am overcoming obstacles! " It seems to conflicts with your message. High school and College is COMPLETELY different! Are you implying that your giving up on overcomin your obstacles? I am sure you would be able to find friends who could help you get though. I have similiar problem, but I just give it a chance and it becomes smoothly.

So, if you don't try, you get NOTHING. If you try you might get something or else.
 
I think....
college is suppose to be to get education...
not socializing...

if you wanna socialize, you can always hang out
with deaf people at deaf event.

There are so many great people out there to meet.
Hearing or deaf, don't matter.
 
Whoa, Diehard. Hold on, there. I can see what RJ is saying. I don't think he's backing off his way of thinking at all. I think he's just frustrated, and maybe, a bit disillusioned. I can understand why that is. Granted, you're right. College and HS is different, and one shouldn't expect to be coddled, but I also think that professors should also be more understanding of their student's special needs as well. There's two sides to everything, so cut the kid a break here. He's going to learn the harsh realities of college life soon enough. Lets ease him into it rather than throw him to the dogs, and have him fend for himself.
 
Miss*Pinocchio said:
I think....
college is suppose to be to get education...
not socializing...

if you wanna socialize, you can always hang out
with deaf people at deaf event.

There are so many great people out there to meet.
Hearing or deaf, don't matter.
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*sigh* Once again, you're just typing for the sake of taking up space. Do you really have a CLUE about what RJ is upset about, MsP? Somehow, I doubt it.
 
Nesmuth said:
Proms are nothing but social tricks for these societal newbies to see where they stand on the aspects of their peers.

I seen prom kings and queens end up either in jail or sleep on bus stop benches. Some even changed their sex.

The point I'm saying is proms mean nothing these days. If you feel left out, then consider yourself lucky because proms are nothing but yuppie tricks to intimidate people.

Richard
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That might be your opinion, Nesmuth. But, this was something that was obviously very important to RJ. If he wants to go, I think he should go. It's a good experience for some. I went to my prom, and I had fun. I didn't partake in all the craziness that are usual at proms. I didn't stay out ALL night like most prom goers do. I also didn't rent a limo, or any of that. My parents took my date and I to the prom, but we both had a good time. I think this is what is most important. Prom is what you make of it. Let him have this if he wants it.
 
I'm an Alumni of NTID/RIT and I have seen basically every handicap there. Deaf, blind, wheelchairs, etc. They all got equal treatment. They'll able to continue functioning well at NTID regardless of the peers. You'll get a lot of support from your advisors, your dean, your teachers (granted, like real world some are jerks and some aren't) and you gotta be prepared to deal with all kind of people and keep on having a big heart and a big smile that you got plastered on your avatar. :)
 
u know something ladies and germs have you ever heard of a sheltered life? so lay off the harshness and show the postive side to it please.. thank you.
 
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