How to be less annoying?

[NoName3241]

I am a second year Gallaudet student, and I have a bad history of being annoying in HS and younger; however I thought I have improved greatly. Recently, a friend was very blunt with me, telling me that more than half of the campus can't stand me, that I'm so annoying, that I ask too many questions, I can be rude to others, and that I try too hard to fit in. She said that she was on a final straw with me, and that she was about to just fk me. That part really bothers me the most, because true friends wouldn't fk each other, no matter what, and I never did anything to her. In fact, I was nice to her and made sure she was doing okay, because she was going through a hard time.

Despite what people say (or if they even say those things, I certainly hope not!), I see myself as a nice person, and I try very hard to be sensitive to others' needs. I'll admit I do ask many questions - but I didn't realize I was that bad. What she said really hurts, and I have tried so hard over the years to improve myself, but I seem to have failed, and I feel like I'm at a dead end. I have lost many of my friends lately and I just feel so lost.

Any suggestions on how to lessen being annoying, and make good friends? Any good conversation topics? I have been from hell to back, and I just want to be happy and have a good / best friend, but I haven't been able to achieve that yet.

Also, I feel lost at Gallaudet - I feel like I really don't fit in very well, and that Gallaudet doesn't accept me for who I am. I feel like I'm suffocating there, and the Deaf community there makes me feel like there's no escape sometimes. I hope I'm making sense.

Thanks for your insight/advice. I really appreciate it.

-Andy

 

[Wheelin Rev]

Andy,

Have you sought the advice of a school counselor or perhaps somebody with the campus ministry? It sounds as if there are some things that should be discussed privately with somebody trained in these types of situations. Note that everything is a two-way street so I am not "blaming" you for what you are going through.

Feel free to contact me privately but I would really prefer that you seek out a face-to-face conference with those at Gallaudet. You will be in my prayers.

My best to you for a rewarding and learning experience at Gallaudet.

Dave

 

[Ephesians2_8]

People with ADHD do that. I have family members with ADHD. They have impulsive questions and doing and saying things without thinking or meaning to. See if that's the problem.