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hey Mods
I am not sure which of the thread here if you can move this thread in other forum
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How do you feel if your parents wont let you go anywhere and treat you feel like a kid when you were over age 25 yrs old ?

I have been there and feel like trapped myself from my mom.
 
It would PISS ME OFF!!! I am over 18 and decide what I wanted to do not my parents or grow ups in under the roof with me. I would not do that to my own kid!!!

DeafMonkey said:
hey Mods
I am not sure which of the thread here if you can move this thread in other forum
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How do you feel if your parents wont let you go anywhere and treat you feel like a kid when you were over age 25 yrs old ?

I have been there and feel like trappee myself from my mom.
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I am not over 25 years old yet, but Im already over 18 years old (I will be 23 yrs old soon) If it happens to me, I would have to sit down with my mom and tell her how I feel about that because that is not right to do that. I understand that my mom is very protecting of me, but she had to understand that I am a big girl and I can do whatever I want to do since I am an adult now.

Honestly it never happened to me before, but when my parents were married and I was about 17 years old my parents were a little bit strict just because they have a hard time to trust people and sometime deaf peoples too they trust whoever I hang out with a long time and they have to meet my friends family first then it is okay because it is a dangerous out there. Now, since I moved out from my mom's house a year ago, I can do whatever I want to do because it is time for being an adult and be responisble (SP)
 
I wouldnt be happy with my parents for that to me. I would tell them to let me go, Im adult and Im old enough to take care of myself. I hope you can work it out with your parents, I hope they will let you go and being understand. :hug:
 
Sweetheart said:
I wouldnt be happy with my parents for that to me. I would tell them to let me go, Im adult and Im old enough to take care of myself. I hope you can work it out with your parents, I hope they will let you go and being understand. :hug:
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I tried to tell my mom that I am old enough and still wont let me go and treat me like a kid so I decided to get a counsellor to help it out!
 
My mom won't let me go move in another state or whatever...
because of what happen to me at CSUN and Gallaudet,
I had to get ignorant people off my back and fight roommates.

I understand my mom is protecting me from harsh world,
and that is why I don't want mom to invite guests because
they are insensitive toward me.

So I told mom I might as well move out of state, because
she invited too many guests.

I think your mom is protecting you, that is all.
 
DeafMonkey said:
I tried to tell my mom that I am old enough and still wont let me go and treat me like a kid so I decided to get a counsellor to help it out!
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Sometimes, My parents treat me that way too.. Their loves on me sometimes KILLS me.. I will be 31 on 18 march.. STILL I'm their charmin son :dunno:
 
The*Empress said:
My mom won't let me go move in another state or whatever...
because of what happen to me at CSUN and Gallaudet,
I had to get ignorant people off my back and fight roommates.

I understand my mom is protecting me from harsh world,
and that is why I don't want mom to invite guests because
they are insensitive toward me.

So I told mom I might as well move out of state, because
she invited too many guests.

I think your mom is protecting you, that is all.
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yes my mom is protecting me too much and I told her let it go cause I am adult. I dont live with my mom but still near her home close my home too. She need let it go what I want go anywhere I want. she is too worry of her kids one thing she didnt worry abut my 2nd sister cause my 2nd sister like to live where she live with my mom. and my 3rd sister live with her fiancee (guy) my mom didnt let them go .. just let them go what they want. and I have last youngest sister which my mom let her what she want too make me felt like I am trapped cause I am deaf or not normal person? make me turn me off!
 
ecevit said:
Sometimes, My parents treat me that way too.. Their loves on me sometimes KILLS me.. I will be 31 on 18 march.. STILL I'm their charmin son :dunno:
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you are more than me cause my mom is too much treat me which wont let me go anywhere only close to her home. I already told her i want to move out and she said dont need to move out so close my home cuase I need her help cause i have no ride to go to doctor, denist, etc for my appt, go to bank and need ride for food etc.
 
Problem is generally hearing parents with deaf child... they *THINK* deaf person cant handle harsh world like their hearing child would and try to protect them. They actually surpressed their own deaf child from real successful life. That is HUGE mistake! I have seen plenty of damages to poor deafies. My parent's aren't like that. They raised me to fight to get what I wanted, and they do realize that I went too far... LOL! I do fight to get what I wanted, often with regrets (hey that is learning experience, isn't it?). If my parents were trying to protect me, then I will disapppear... I don't give damn because I don't like to be overprotected.

What is more important to you, your own happiness or your parent's approval?
 
diehardbiker65 said:
Problem is generally hearing parents with deaf child... they *THINK* deaf person cant handle harsh world like their hearing child would and try to protect them. They actually surpressed their own deaf child from real successful life. That is HUGE mistake! I have seen plenty of damages to poor deafies. My parent's aren't like that. They raised me to fight to get what I wanted, and they do realize that I went too far... LOL! I do fight to get what I wanted, often with regrets (hey that is learning experience, isn't it?). If my parents were trying to protect me, then I will disapppear... I don't give damn because I don't like to be overprotected.

What is more important to you, your own happiness or your parent's approval?
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LOL i am been fight for this right now and i am get my counsellor to get help .. my mom doesnt know what is deaf culture mean wow that shocked me
 
Yea, I don't think that is the problem of not knowing what deaf culture is... Just the problem of "Acceptance" They can't accept deaf culture do exist.

DeafMonkey said:
LOL i am been fight for this right now and i am get my counsellor to get help .. my mom doesnt know what is deaf culture mean wow that shocked me
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diehardbiker65 said:
Yea, I don't think that is the problem of not knowing what deaf culture is... Just the problem of "Acceptance" They can't accept deaf culture do exist.
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yeah your right. I wish my mom have to accept and let me go that sad so I am doing fight for this
 
Your mom means well and wants to protect you. Sooner or later she will have to realize that and one way you can do that is not by agruing with her but show her that you are getting into the habit of making good decisions and plans for your future like going to college or going to job training where you will get certification for really good pay etc.

Almost all fathers and mothers want to run and save their children from what clearly can be a big mistake, not just for the kids but for themselves too. One day when you are a mother yourself. You will feel what your mom felt. That is a normal feeling but your mom needs to learn to let go and you need to learn to make good decisions that reflects her decision to slowly let you go.... I know it is not easy but I pray in good time she will begin to see and understand that. God Bless.... :) :thumb:
 
zookeeper4321

I feel for you Deaf Monkey. My mother didn't get that I was grown up at 25 & I was married w/ a 7 yo kid. I have 4 kids now and 1 is deaf. I treat him just like the others. It's hard to be a kid or a mom. I try not to interfere w/ my 18 yo , but I do worry sometimes. I have let him go out of state several times for magic tournaments. I would do the same at 18 for G- the deaf one. Hang in there.
 
diehardbiker65 said:
Problem is generally hearing parents with deaf child... they *THINK* deaf person cant handle harsh world like their hearing child would and try to protect them. They actually surpressed their own deaf child from real successful life. That is HUGE mistake! I have seen plenty of damages to poor deafies. My parent's aren't like that. They raised me to fight to get what I wanted, and they do realize that I went too far... LOL! I do fight to get what I wanted, often with regrets (hey that is learning experience, isn't it?). If my parents were trying to protect me, then I will disapppear... I don't give damn because I don't like to be overprotected.

What is more important to you, your own happiness or your parent's approval?
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yea, true, many i have seen hearing parents of deaf child but one, who has older brother is deaf too parents treats not same older and second parent more trust older allow him move wherever but second parent used to think he cant handle cuz of his childhood history as troublemaker why parent looks past, he was stubborn moving out i mean run away anyway, now he proves parent wrong he can live himself fine sometimes he got trouble i think he deserves to learn instead of parent taking care of for second son he is old enough, 25 now :aw: i still not get why parent treat not same 3 kids,older and second are deaf, third daughter hearing moving out at her 17 parent ok with it but second? :dunno: also parent encourages, helps, praises older and 3rd everything but second nothing to say or praise i may see "favor" :dunno:
 
DeafMonkey, maybe u would introduce some deaf family or single deaf lives herself/himself to ur parent to realize deaf person can handle alone
 
FreeWoman77 said:
DeafMonkey, maybe u would introduce some deaf family or single deaf lives herself/himself to ur parent to realize deaf person can handle alone
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no, she refused go around with deaf ppl .. once my dad was with her go to deaf ppl who my dad's friend and she think it is bored and nothing to chat just sit and bored. and I asked her how it go with deaf ppl she like ? she said nope till later on i asked her again same thing if she like with deaf ppl she said yeah but i dont believe her anyway . I am get counsellor hopefully help me out :)
 
FreeWoman77 said:
yea, true, many i have seen hearing parents of deaf child but one, who has older brother is deaf too parents treats not same older and second parent more trust older allow him move wherever but second parent used to think he cant handle cuz of his childhood history as troublemaker why parent looks past, he was stubborn moving out i mean run away anyway, now he proves parent wrong he can live himself fine sometimes he got trouble i think he deserves to learn instead of parent taking care of for second son he is old enough, 25 now :aw: i still not get why parent treat not same 3 kids,older and second are deaf, third daughter hearing moving out at her 17 parent ok with it but second? :dunno: also parent encourages, helps, praises older and 3rd everything but second nothing to say or praise i may see "favor" :dunno:
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that almost sound like my mom let my 3 sisters what they want cause they are all hearing and I am only deaf :dunno:
 
I understand your frustration. Counselor can only help you deal with your feelings. Counselor can not change your parents feeling. If parents need help with this issue, only themselves can make that move and ask for help.
Do what would make you happy, not what to make them happy. Would that it be fair for your parents to be happy and you are miserable?

DeafMonkey said:
no, she refused go around with deaf ppl .. once my dad was with her go to deaf ppl who my dad's friend and she think it is bored and nothing to chat just sit and bored. and I asked her how it go with deaf ppl she like ? she said nope till later on i asked her again same thing if she like with deaf ppl she said yeah but i dont believe her anyway . I am get counsellor hopefully help me out :)
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