For Better or For Worse

[EagleCherokee63]

VamPyroX, That's why I'm very picky about who I want to marry. I rather be with a gal long enough to see her true colors. Then, I'll get married. [/QUOTE]
You are very good WISDOM!! What I married sec husband now LOL!

 

[Angel]

I wouldn't stay in a marriage if it was an abusive relationship.

Some people actually think you should still stay in a marriage even if your spouse beats the living shit out of you. That is not right.

Those are one of the reasons why divorces exist.

Exactly!!!

 

[netrox]

Personally, I think too many people marry too soon or have unrealistic expectations of what their marriage should be. Like I mentioned earlier, many divorce just because they're not exactly happy with each other.

 

[Awauphi]

Exactly!!!

i agree.. i was in an abusive relationship with my ex .. whew.. it was no fun to go thru that.. Thank god i never married him! whew!

now?? im 33, never married and very picky about who i marry.. my mom said enough.. get married would you??? i told her.. be patient.. not if i can find someone who TREAT me nice, respect me for who i am.. love me for who i am.. my best friend, and everything.. jeez at mom... u know moms want to see u happy .. not that i dont blame her.. but still if i marry.. i want it to be FOR LIFE and till death, period! thats the way i look at it.. sigh..

 

[starrygaze]

Know this that I was in a loveless marriage with her and never cheat on her for 9 years. My soon to be ex wife and I never fought until she cheated on me first time. We were never in an abusive relationship. But I caught her cheating on me so I decided to look for someone else which was 5 years ago.

I realized that I shouldn't have married her in first place because she was pregnant but I have had obligation to the baby. She wanted me to marry her so I did. She and I were married for 15 years.

Good news about my divorce and it will be over very soon! My kids always visit me every weekend. I am repairing my home and will sell my home this summer. I will move in with my girlfriend this Fall.


SmileyGin and I will be together happily forever.

 

[Angel]

i agree.. i was in an abusive relationship with my ex .. whew.. it was no fun to go thru that.. Thank god i never married him! whew!

now?? im 33, never married and very picky about who i marry.. my mom said enough.. get married would you??? i told her.. be patient.. not if i can find someone who TREAT me nice, respect me for who i am.. love me for who i am.. my best friend, and everything.. jeez at mom... u know moms want to see u happy .. not that i dont blame her.. but still if i marry.. i want it to be FOR LIFE and till death, period! thats the way i look at it.. sigh..

I'm really sorry you went though that sort of relationship, and I'm glad you didn't end up marry him, smart gal

I can truly understand that, take your time and whenever you're ready , you will know it in your heart

 

[Angel]

SmileyGin and I will be together happily forever.

Whoa, you and SmileyGin are in a relationship?

 

[EagleCherokee63]

Know this that I was in a loveless marriage with her and never cheat on her for 9 years. My soon to be ex wife and I never fought until she cheated on me first time. We were never in an abusive relationship. But I caught her cheating on me so I decided to look for someone else which was 5 years ago.

I realized that I shouldn't have married her in first place because she was pregnant but I have had obligation to the baby. She wanted me to marry her so I did. She and I were married for 15 years.

Good news about my divorce and it will be over very soon! My kids always visit me every weekend. I am repairing my home and will sell my home this summer. I will move in with my girlfriend this Fall.


SmileyGin and I will be together happily forever.

I dont blame you same thing I was innocent my former husband did cheated on me 3 times!!!

 

[Throwstones]

I never wanted to be married in my life is because I want to be freedom and single all my life. I want to be more peace and enjoy in my life. Why i do not want to be married is because I would be burdening for husband and kids.. limit time with friends etc.. and can be burned out! I do not want to have problem with marriage. That can be leading to divorce. I do not like for man to control over my life what to do. I feel that man is very egoist to me because he won't listen my side and feeling etc.. That is big problem!

I am wisdom Not to marry man. I can serve the Lord our GOD and reach the deaf Jews about Jesus!

THROWSTONES

 

[Gemtun]

I never wanted to be married in my life is because I want to be freedom and single all my life. I want to be more peace and enjoy in my life. Why i do not want to be married is because I would be burdening for husband and kids.. limit time with friends etc.. and can be burned out! I do not want to have problem with marriage. That can be leading to divorce. I do not like for man to control over my life what to do. I feel that man is very egoist to me because he won't listen my side and feeling etc.. That is big problem!

I am wisdom Not to marry man. I can serve the Lord our GOD and reach the deaf Jews about Jesus!

THROWSTONES

Well said, girl!

Ive been single the past 6 years - but am marrying my best friend who was there for me for 7 years. I cannot live without him - he is the only one I am willing sacrifice for!

However, never know nor assume - you may meet someone who will change your heart :0

 

[Throwstones]

Well said, girl!

Ive been single the past 6 years - but am marrying my best friend who was there for me for 7 years. I cannot live without him - he is the only one I am willing sacrifice for!

However, never know nor assume - you may meet someone who will change your heart :0

Guess what??!?!?!? I am 41 years old and did not have sweetheart or relationship with any man in my life! I always resist to any men for relationship and date etc... I am hard head!!!!!

 

[Gemtun]

Guess what??!?!?!? I am 41 years old and did not have sweetheart or relationship with any man in my life! I always resist to any men for relationship and date etc... I am hard head!!!!!

Dont you think love is worth living for?

 

[Throwstones]

Dont you think love is worth living for?

That's good question but can you describe what love means?

 

[starrygaze]

Whoa, you and SmileyGin are in a relationship?

Yes we are. SmileyGin's ex is another story. It was not me. I am glad she should not marry her ex boyfriend. She is very smart I know her well. :Ohno: she is going me. I helped her to get her stuffs out of ex's. Hope SmileyGin will tell you here story.

Tomorrow I am going to see my attonery. Its about my divorce.

 

[Teresh]

That's good question but can you describe what love means?

I don't think anyone here can do that. One does not understand love if he or she has been in love, and one who has been in love cannot really explain it.

You don't understand love due to lack of contrast.

 

[Throwstones]

I don't think anyone here can do that. One does not understand love if he or she has been in love, and one who has been in love cannot really explain it.

You don't understand love due to lack of contrast.

Teresh, I want the feedback from someone else on post about Love issue. I have 3 different meaning of love to someone else so I am collecting their feedback and challenge about Love. I do undrestand the love issue but person have inside feeling much different than what you think if someone loves you and want to relationship with you. It is DIFFICULT to explain you what love means.. It is too flow of expression on love!

THROWSTONES

 

[jazzy]

I took this vow seriously. I tend to stay this way till the day one of us die.

 

[jazzy]

Teresh, I want the feedback from someone else on post about Love issue. I have 3 different meaning of love to someone else so I am collecting their feedback and challenge about Love. I do undrestand the love issue but person have inside feeling much different than what you think if someone loves you and want to relationship with you. It is DIFFICULT to explain you what love means.. It is too flow of expression on love!

THROWSTONES

There is more than love, all marriage experience love and hate everyday. Just that too many people are not taking commitment seriously.

 

[jazzy]

One day I was chatting with a woman, and she told me
she is glad she divorced, she said her 22 years of marriage to
that pitiful husband, and glad she didn't have any of his children.
He begged her to stay in marriage, but she wouldn't. She is 45 years
old. She said she marry him before she really get to know him.
And the more she got to know him, the more she dislike him and doesn't
love him anymore.

I asked her, "he wasn't good enough for you? He wasn't so perfect?"

She said, "no no no, I meant I wish I married Mr. Right."

And I asked her again, "you made a vow, for better or for worse, and promise God that you will stay marry to him no matter what."

She said, "Oh I didn't take that vow seriously."

So I got 2 questions...

1. Mr. Right.... does that mean you have to find a perfect perfect guy for you that make no mistake, a prince, a knight, or somebody who are so good enough for you.?

2. Does For better or for worse mean, you get what you pay for?
and you have to stay with that guy forever and forever no matter how imperfect he is?

Did God say we have to marry Mr. Right?

No such thing as mr right or ms right. Unless u fantasy of a perfect woman or man which u knew it would never happen.

For better or for worse? Can u handle woman's pms once a month? Can u handle man's going thru midlife crisis? Is this what u mean? Or it means something else? . we all go thru up and down so we can grow and mature as year go by. I look back to our early years of our marriage, what a diaster but we stayed together and got thru it. Now we are more peaceful with eachother.

 

[hottiedeafboi]

You know I'm very sadden what I see always about husband and wife and always btwn the two. That's not how my marriage works. Its always my wife's mom, and our marriage been torned. So my wife's sister involved and torned our marriage deeper. My oldest daughter hating her grandmother bec of her severe dominate so our marriage been dissolved by my ex wifes decision. My ex and I still secretly keep in touch. Bec if her parents caught her talking with me. She will lose everything *she's from wealthy family). Last summer her dad beat her up bec of her admitting to the police what they really did, that is the incident that my ex in laws beat up my daughter and ran away to come to see me at my brothers house . My brothers town is diffferent town from ex. So I have no custody of my kids bec court decison in their area so police (from my bros town) asked different questions if its true what my daughter and I told the police and want her parent stay out have my ex wife in private. And she admit it was true. Police was furious at my in laws. And then took y daughter with them and came home that's when ex father in law hit my ex wife bec she admitted that's what happen, but did called the police of her town, but they said that only my ex wife to come to report so there's nothing they can do. Its been rough. No one likes my ex inlaws. Its been very rough.