Death Of A Marriage

[FreedummyRing]

Death Of A Marriage
by Ronald Shultz © 2005

When men abdicate
And women pontificate
Nerves begin to grate
Actions agitate, irritate, and aggravate
Angry words proliferate
So they bicarbonate and medicate
Until they separate
In a fit of hate
From the one they chose as a mate
Thus their family they decimate
By swallowing Satan’s bait
Instead of allowing God to participate
In the bond they did consummate.

© 2006 ChristArt, Inc.

 

[Rose Immortal]

So equality in marriage somehow leads automatically to its dissolution? Nice try. For your information, I know several Christian families where there is no oppression of women where the marriages are EXTREMELY stable...all the MORE so because issues are actually talked about and debated openly instead of being repressed. It may look a little sloppier to an outsider but the fundamentals are WAAAY stronger than you'd ever guess.

 

[FreedummyRing]

A man told me his ex wife wanted everything her way. They couldn't agree with everything. So he divorced her.

And then another man said he thinks that is love, coming home from
work, he expects his wife to bathe him, fix him dinner, massage him, and all.
But the wife who doesn't work, she feels like a slave. But the man said he gave her money to go shopping, for hair, and help pay the bills, took care of her, and all. But she refused to cook dinner and do stuff for him. She abandon her husband and kids and cheated on him by having 2 months affair with another man, got pregnant, and her husband allowed her to come back home.

I can understand that, if I worked 8 hours and have to cook for myself,
and do my own laundry, while the wife stay at home watch tv all day while kids be at school.
Why need a wife if she only leaching...?

What is equality?

 

[Teresh]

I can understand that, if I worked 8 hours and have to cook for myself, and do my own laundry, while the wife stay at home watch tv all day while kids be at school.

Considering that chances are your wife would also be working 8 hours a day as well, why is it fair to her that when she comes home from work she has to do all that stuff? A good couple finds balance with the chores that are necessary for living.

Why need a wife if she only leaching...?

Being a housewife is tough. It's not as easy as you seem to think it is.

 

[Rose Immortal]

A man told me his ex wife wanted everything her way. They couldn't agree with everything. So he divorced her.

If either the man OR the woman wants everything his or her way, the marriage is doomed to fail. NO imbalance is tolerable, despite what you may think.

And then another man said he thinks that is love, coming home from
work, he expects his wife to bathe him, fix him dinner, massage him, and all.
But the wife who doesn't work, she feels like a slave. But the man said he gave her money to go shopping, for hair, and help pay the bills, took care of her, and all. But she refused to cook dinner and do stuff for him. She abandon her husband and kids and cheated on him by having 2 months affair with another man, got pregnant, and her husband allowed her to come back home.

I can understand that, if I worked 8 hours and have to cook for myself,
and do my own laundry, while the wife stay at home watch tv all day while kids be at school.
Why need a wife if she only leaching...?

What is equality?

I can tell you that a housewife definitely does NOT "watch TV all day" as you put it. My mother was a stay-at-home mom, and you should be ashamed for the assumptions you've made. My mother did everything from maintaining the home, AND keeping track of what went on with a house we rented out and making decisions pertaining to it, to being my advocate with the school to working with the homeowners' association to doing Meals on Wheels and other charitable activities. She continues to be a very busy lady.

What you THINK is "watching TV all day" is simply being able to control one's schedule because she's not restricted to the 8-5 hours to be productive. I saw a study once (if anyone can find the link, I thank you in advance) where they determined that if a housewife's (or stay-at-home dad's) job activities were all paid for at full, fair market value, they should be earning a salary over $100,000 for what they do.

I believe STRONGLY in the woman's right to work outside the home and to have equality in marriage. But I also respect housewives for all they do. AND I know being a housewife does NOT have to mean being dominated by one's husband. My mother is NOT ignorant or weak and my dad respects her intelligence and strength and listens to her. They don't always agree, of course. Sometimes a matter is decided her way and sometimes his, but only after a fair, frank discussion.

That's something I get the idea that YOU would not bother to do.

 

[jazzy]

Love is key to keep marriage stable. We have to work harder and make our relationdship work. we are teaching our boys about relationship with their girlfriends because women and men do not think alikeness. It is not easy for them but it takes man to grow up and accept woman for who she is. Love is only thing keep them going on. Someday they will be married, I havae to make sure they stick to it instead of run away when bigger problems show up or leave wife because she mooch him off. That is something I do not believe anyone should be divorce bec of it.

I see too many divorce because they simple are not happy with their spouses. In first place they should never got married.