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coloravalanche

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Some of you know about my situation with my former lawyer...He was leading me on while I was his client...He gave me his private home email address during his business relationship...which he was not supposed to...anyway, I admit I fell in love with him on the day we met...

After the discharged were completed, We had sex several times...Several months later, he ended up telling me how much he hated me and so forth...I was :confused: :ugh: :shock: :tears: I didnt know what was going on...I met with the FBI Agent about my former lawyer - The FBI has been working on my case for 1 year and half now..I'm still waiting to hear from the FBI about my case...I will update with you all later after the case is completed...I can not say any further at this time...

Anyway, My former lawyer forced me to sign the form stated that it is my 100% fault for everything and that he will hand it to the Judge IF I ever report to the BAR against him...He was brilliant and forced me to sign it...I signed it because I loved him...I didnt understand the form that he typed..he knew that I wouldnt understand it...

He has been calling me with horrible names such as bitch, insane whore, lunatic, hates me, fuck yourself and die...

Do you think I should report to the BAR and stand up for myself?

Part of me, I feel that I should report it but in other hand, I feel that I should not report it...The reason why I am in doubt, it is because I feel that if I report to the BAR against him...he will hate me forever...and that we wont be friends...I dont know...I'm :confused:

I was hoping that he and I could work things out...and start over in our relationship...I care about him so much...I'm extreemly hurt by him...

I need your opinion, supportive and help...Please do not bash or turn me down...I don't need this...thank you for understanding...
 
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I was hoping that he and I could work things out...and start over in our relationship...I care about him so much...I'm extreemly hurt by him...

What I dont understand is that you want to remain friends with this guy who used you and threw you away ?????? Why on the earth do you want to start over in relationship when it is clear that he is a horrible man? :dunno: It makes no sense.

I think you need to stop thinking about him and ask yourself hard questions why you feel you are not good enough to find someone else who is a nice, kind and gentle man? No one with healthy sense of esteem would want this lawyer back after what he has done.

I honestly think you need to forget him and remind yourself that he is NOT YOUR TRUE FRIEND! :ugh2: Not only that, but he is unethical, manipulative and user.

Please get help - this is very unhealthy.
 
Gemtun said:
I was hoping that he and I could work things out...and start over in our relationship...I care about him so much...I'm extreemly hurt by him...

What I dont understand is that you want to remain friends with this guy who used you and threw you away ?????? Why on the earth do you want to start over in relationship when it is clear that he is a horrible man? :dunno: It makes no sense.

I think you need to stop thinking about him and ask yourself hard questions why you feel you are not good enough to find someone else who is a nice, kind and gentle man? No one with healthy sense of esteem would want this lawyer back after what he has done.

I honestly think you need to forget him and remind yourself that he is NOT YOUR TRUE FRIEND! :ugh2: Not only that, but he is unethical, manipulative and user.

Please get help - this is very unhealthy.
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I am seeing counseling...I want AD's opinions...Do you think I should report to the BAR against him? To kick his ass and for him to realized that I won't stand back in silence?
 
Anyway, My former lawyer forced me to sign the form stated that it is my 100% fault for everything and that he will hand it to the Judge IF I ever report to the BAR against him...He was brilliant and forced me to sign it...I signed it because I loved him...I didnt understand the form that he typed..he knew that I wouldnt understand it...

He has been calling me with horrible names such as bitch, insane whore, lunatic, hates me, fuck yourself and die...

Do you think I should report to the BAR and stand up for myself?
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Your choice!

If I was you, I would say I was frightened of this man, he forced me to sign it because at that time I wasn't thinking straight. Now I have a strength and want to protest my name clear. Now I can sue him for destroy my reputation.

Hope you keep some evidences as proof that he calling you names as a result from an affair with him, hopefully the Judge/FBI will see it.

Sorry to say he is a real rat. - Your sad victim.


Good luck
 
coloravalanche said:
I am seeing counseling...I want AD's opinions...Do you think I should report to the BAR against him? To kick his ass and for him to realized that I won't stand back in silence?
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But you are saying two different things there. First, you dont want to report to BAR because you are hoping you guys could be friends. Second, you want to report to BAR to kick his ass.

I did give my opinion on the part where you said that you care for him and hope to start all over again.
 
Gemtun said:
But you are saying two different things there. First, you dont want to report to BAR because you are hoping you guys could be friends. Second, you want to report to BAR to kick his ass.

I did give my opinion on the part where you said that you care for him and hope to start all over again.
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you are correct,,,that is why I am :confused:
 
coloravalanche said:
you are correct,,,that is why I am :confused:
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That is why I suggested that you ask yourself HARD questions:

Why would I want his friendship back?
Why would I still care for him?
Why do I worry about his reaction if I file against him?
Why am I still hung up on him, despite what he has done to me?

You need to answer such questions FIRST before you can really decide what to do. We, AD'ers, cannot help you by telling you what we think you should do because it doesn't answer any of your deep questions of why you are still hung up on him in the first place???!
 
ppl around r like mirror u laugh they laugh with u, u cry they still laugh over ye



i agree with Gemtun,

ppl like those( lawyer ) r of no use. sorry this might be hard but i think u gotta stand for ye justice.

what make u think this


coloravalanche said:
I was hoping that he and I could work things out...and start over in our relationship...I care about him so much...I'm extreemly hurt by him...
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u gota be happy, at-least by now he showed his true colors.


if incase u dnt stand by for ye justice & think of working on ye relation with him, will there be any guaranty that he wont do the same? nope bud

teach him a lession " this is the time for ye to prove urself"

they dnt deserve ye bud, if they did they would have cared about ye love.
i dnt know much about FBI or BAR, i aint american. if incase the company has a lawyer ill consult to him, but cnt assure.

but my personal suggest, show him what ur



Stand for something or u stand for nothing
 
i suppose this lawyer is the same person, whose slide show or a move u wanted as signature right?...........uh





:stupid:
 
I thought you did listening other ADers on other thread. But you still wanna to have that lawywer back to you in friendship or realationship. What is going on? :dunno:

You should admit that you are obessive compulsive person of that laywer what you say you denied on other thread.

Still, I don't know you in personally but you still talking about be relationship or friend with lawyer that hurts you badly rather than get support from your consulors and ADers here. I am not rude to tell you....I am disppointing on your actions.

If you choice the lawyer over your consulors and many ADers here...please don't bring that one up again on next thread. That would be waste our helping on you on other threads.

We do still helping you out here and you need to think about ADers, consulors, and your lawyer. That why we wanna to see you to be stand up and kick this laywer's rear end....no, his balls!. :)

Now, be think about what best you are going to do with your living ahead : Screw lawyer and being with us. Or screw us and being with that lawyer.

:hug: from me and ADers, too - MaxUFC
 
Hey, you are still obsessed about your manipulative lawyer who used you for sex, etc. He forced you to sign the form in case if you plan to file a complaint against him in BAR for unethical reason (like sex with a client), you will lose if he hand the form to the judge. It is not worth it. Forget about him and move on. Please refrain bringing your personal issues to AD because suppose if a Deaf lawyer happens to come across your post on AD, he may file restraining order against you, etc. Think about it. If I am in similiar situation, I dare not to say this on AD. It is very dangerous.

It is the best for you to vent your feelings of doubts to your counselor and he/she will counsel you, etc.
 
Dnt take this wrong buddy, but we Aders as a family want ye the best.

sorry if any-ways i have hurt ye, i mean my words.
 
I just want to say that, you know know if you are the first or the last. Would you want someone else going through that? Considering that, you have to take into account that he could really mess things up for you. I would walk away in hopes that you would be spared from further pain and heartache. It's a real tangled web that you are in, with your feelings. But seriousily it's not worth having more serious issues come your way.
 
Got a few questions..

Are you trying to file against him because he doesn't love you anymore?
If you're filing against him.. on what charges?


If he doesn't love you anymore, you need to move on with your life. If he's saying he hates you, blah blah so on.. it probably could be reasons why he said those things.. perhaps you're bothering him? If so.. all you gotta do is leave him alone and just move on with your life. You'll find someone better than him. Someone is going to eventually love you for who you are but it takes time. The only way I'm thinking is what you did was you did sign the papers to say you take fully responsiblities of what you did by force.. but you should have gotten someone to come with you and help you read the paperworks before you signed it. I'm not going to say you should file against him because I'm not sure what reason.
 
Why are u doing to yourself? He is a jerk for abusing u, he never loves you in first place. Walk away from him.
 
I don't know what I say but simple throw your ex date/lawyer out of your life. It's not worth. If you wish to keep him, it will screw up your life in bad path or whatever it will be worst.
 
To be honest with you.. i was surprised your former lawyer misled u in first place.. Did he ever tell you why he hates you and so on? I find that odd out of blue and all suddenly he dislike you... and why did he make u sign the paper? did something happen in that btw time frame?

if you strongly felt hes dangerous or make u feel uncomfortable then i strongly encourage you to keep away from him. Always i mean ALWAYS trust your feeling based on facts.

Dont do something such report or anything because you were willing yourself to him in first place.. its not like he rape you or anything. But i understand what you mean after what he did to you. My suggest you to stay away from him.. dont get in contact with him He s a JERK! period!
 
Hon, just let him go, I know how much it must hurt that he betrayed you but he's isn't worth your tears, forget the jerk, and wait until someone else comes along to win your heart again...

:hug:
 
You're in struggle two ways right now..

I recommend don't go look back the shoulder what you had been there....
Isn't worth for you being go back ex'es!

Best advise you...
MOVE ON....

He'll surprsied you did move on..

No matter what how many did he done you in the past "all over the written on your head"..
Worth it stick w/him forever.. you'll be worst!

If r u not listen anyone who tries to advise you thousand times of miles...
Obvouisly you own judge not anyone try help you ever again..

Up to your made decison listen AD'ers or yourself own heart ways..

YOUR CHOICE...
Not ours help!
 
yankees said:
i suppose this lawyer is the same person, whose slide show or a move u wanted as signature right?...........uh





:stupid:
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yes it is the same person
 
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