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annadilynn

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Does anyone ever get tired of everyone around them expecting them to be "strong" you know like "chin up"...
 
No. I get furiously angry at people who don't persevere.

I have major handicaps and I have an attitude, "If I can do it, anyone can."

Of course this makes me unpopular with people who want to be mollycoddled.
 
wow.
well thanks for the perspective of SUPER MAN!...or SUPER WOMAN...whatever the case...
i am not wanting to be coddled by the way...i dont like that either...
 
annadilynn said:
wow.
well thanks for the perspective of SUPER MAN!...or SUPER WOMAN...whatever the case...
i am not wanting to be coddled by the way...i dont like that either...
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I am female. I didn't know you were asking personally.

I thought it was a rhetorical question.
 
i understand there are people in the world A Lot of people, far worse off than I.
I just get tired of always havin to hold my chin up and act like nothing bothers me.
I know the pain i feel on a daily basis is just a drop in the vast ocean compared to most.
Just wish people would know when to leave it be....dont ask me how I am doing cause i might just tell ya...lol
 
annadilynn said:
i understand there are people in the world A Lot of people, far worse off than I.
I just get tired of always havin to hold my chin up and act like nothing bothers me.
I know the pain i feel on a daily basis is just a drop in the vast ocean compared to most.
Just wish people would know when to leave it be....dont ask me how I am doing cause i might just tell ya...lol
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Well, you could just follow your instincts and tell them.
 
Are people telling you to be strong because of your deafness or a crisis?
 
can you empower is very strong , You can do it best :) Hope strong best bet you are strong quality strong :) Hope be happy and friendly also happy future! :)
 
they dont tell me to be strong...just before i lost most of my hearing...i was still alread 1/2 deaf...but people could not tell...and i was always very bubbly...i still am most of the time...i love life and all the wonders it holds...but because of the cause of my hearing loss, i also get very dizzy sometimes, very nausious(spelling bad i know)..and my ear or ears always hurt....so i am not always as bubbly as i use to be...and my own family doesnt get it sometimes...so yea, i get sick of being strong...and acting like every thing is just cheekie...
 
Being told to stay strong all the time can get quite annoying, can't it? It's as if, no matter the situation that you face, those around you expect you to be the same bubbly self.

Fortunately, or unfortunately depending on your point of view, things do change, and it seems to me that it would be mentally unhealthy not to have some "blah" days, or days when you just want to crawl into bed and hide for a few hours. Everyone has days like that.

Here is what I do when a person is insisting that I be upbeat and cheerful when I don't want to be--- I plaster an extremely fake looking smile on my face and say "O.K. sweetie, whatever will make my prince/princess happy!!" and turn and walk away. This accomplishes either one of three things 1-They either realize what an $#&( they are being and sheepishly walk away; 2-They feel that their mission is complete and walk away self-satisfied, or 3-The walk away slowly, uncertain whether or not they should contact the mental ward.

In any case, they walk away and leave me alone. Trust me, it works wonders!

Laura
 
LMAO Laura...i shall take your advice...:giggle:...i am a bit of a smart a$~..so it shouldnt backfire too often...
when my husband is givin me crap ( he really is a gem most of the time!) i do the ultimate "excuse me" and turn away and refuse to look at him...i know i am very bad!, but it never fails to work..
 
rockdrummer said:
It's positive reenforcement. Why would anybody get tired of that?
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Well, if you want someone to listen, it can be annoying. I find that when people say that to me, they don't really "listen". Like if I tell them it is so hard to understand people (or anything), they tell me to chin up when I really trying to tell them we need to work out our problems.
 
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