This is my first posting...I wanted to express my anger and share this story about an current family situation. I need advice and your suggestions about this situation. HERE we go...
I have been married to my wife for ten years. We both are deaf. My wife is the oldest daughter of her mother. Her mother divorced her father when she was only eight. Then she married another person who she had been with for 42 years. They did not have any kids until my wife was 15. I had learned that the step father had been using my wife as a slave when she grew up, keeping her in line with what he calls "discipline" when it is actually abuse. He kept her close to home until she was 19. She finally decided to listen to her deaf friends to move the hell out of there. The stepfather was outraged that she was moving out. I will not get into that story as you would get an idea. Image how that stepfather with that attitude raising his own kids to just disregard my wife. The siblings (one half sister and one half brother) never were close to my wife. We only saw them once or twice an year.
What built up my anger was how they never informed us about major events in the family...I will call them the Summers family with the exception of my wife's mother...these siblings graduated from high school when I married my wife ten years ago. When they moved around, they never contacted us. We once dropped by to visit the brother to see the new baby only to find strangers living at there! He moved to an new place across the town! Both of the siblings never informed us about moving nor having new babies!
Only the mother informed us.
Now with that situation, I decided to explain to them how important it was to communicate with immediate families about major events. They said yeah..yeah...I was thinking...
but I decided to see how they will behave down the road. Up until 3 months ago, they were still not communicating...saying they were "busy" with jobs and children. When we came up to visit my wife's mother, we found out she was hiding the fact she had been separated from her husband for six months. NO ONE CALLED US! I was surprised. I called the sister only to be told that I was an nice guy but there was an sad situation going on that she asked me to never call her back again EVER! The brother never returns our calls when we leave messages asking to call back to discuss the serious situation. We decided to visit my wife's mother more often. We were finding that the husband lost his company and was angry. That finally drove Wanda to get him to move out and be separated. (I was glad after seeing how he disrespects her...one good story here...he made her open the garage door while we sat in the SUV with him honking the horn at her to hurry her up. She was like 67 years old!).
She was talking strange too. Talking about her husband putting needles in her while she slept. Other than that, she was able to make sound decisions, pay bills and drive. I spoke to the husband and he insisted she was mentally insane. I saw some signs but nothing serious. The Summers family reacted by not letting her see their children for over 9 months. They did not want the separation to happen. They seemed not to be able to handle having their mother being mental ill.
With the lack of communication from the siblings...we tried to persuade the mother to go see an dr so she can get an diagnose. She was refusing to go until recently, she was considering it. At that point, she was becoming heartbroken over not being able to see the grandkids who she basically babysat in their toddler years. She decided to go over to the sister's house to protest by walking with an sign saying that she has not seen her grandkids for 9 months...that made the sister overreact by getting the brother and an uncle who supports the husband to sign an statement to get the court to grant an protective custody order to force the mother into an mental hospital...NO ONE TOLD US FOR FOUR DAYS AFTER SHE WAS PUT IN THE HOSPITAL on the Friday just before Thanksgiving. We were puzzled when we called and got no answers for four days to make plans for Thanksgiving.
How we found out was one of the mother's sister called us saying she just found out about the protective custody. We did try to call the siblings when we were not getting answer from the mother. We were worried that she might of fallen and got hurt. The siblings never answered back nor bothered to tell us! Apparently they were trying to "help" her get to an mental doctor. They were hoping that the protective order forcing her to see an mental doctor would do the job....:stupid:...NOPE! They took her in for 72 hour of observation...and said they did not find anything that would require an protective custody. In order to get an VALID protective custody order, the person has to be an danger to him or herself or to others. So they released her from protective custody and she requested to stay in as an volunteer patient. I assume to express her anger and grief at the Summers' behavior for the past year. When she was ready, she walked out the hospital and never called anyone. She is now with her sister in another state. We had not been able to reach her for two weeks.
NOW, I am going to be needing legal advice on how to handle the Summers family. I could file for false statement to the DA office and they can arrest them for doing that. There is an fine of up to 25,000 dollars and an jail term of up to two years. I want to work on the guardianship for the mother so should she get to the point where she can not take care of her self, only my wife will be the guardian, not any of the SUMMERS family!
ANY ADVICE, SUGGESTIONS OR REFERRALS???by the way this family and the mother is in Forth Worth, Texas... (Tarrant Country).
I have been married to my wife for ten years. We both are deaf. My wife is the oldest daughter of her mother. Her mother divorced her father when she was only eight. Then she married another person who she had been with for 42 years. They did not have any kids until my wife was 15. I had learned that the step father had been using my wife as a slave when she grew up, keeping her in line with what he calls "discipline" when it is actually abuse. He kept her close to home until she was 19. She finally decided to listen to her deaf friends to move the hell out of there. The stepfather was outraged that she was moving out. I will not get into that story as you would get an idea. Image how that stepfather with that attitude raising his own kids to just disregard my wife. The siblings (one half sister and one half brother) never were close to my wife. We only saw them once or twice an year.
What built up my anger was how they never informed us about major events in the family...I will call them the Summers family with the exception of my wife's mother...these siblings graduated from high school when I married my wife ten years ago. When they moved around, they never contacted us. We once dropped by to visit the brother to see the new baby only to find strangers living at there! He moved to an new place across the town! Both of the siblings never informed us about moving nor having new babies!
Only the mother informed us.Now with that situation, I decided to explain to them how important it was to communicate with immediate families about major events. They said yeah..yeah...I was thinking...
but I decided to see how they will behave down the road. Up until 3 months ago, they were still not communicating...saying they were "busy" with jobs and children. When we came up to visit my wife's mother, we found out she was hiding the fact she had been separated from her husband for six months. NO ONE CALLED US! I was surprised. I called the sister only to be told that I was an nice guy but there was an sad situation going on that she asked me to never call her back again EVER! The brother never returns our calls when we leave messages asking to call back to discuss the serious situation. We decided to visit my wife's mother more often. We were finding that the husband lost his company and was angry. That finally drove Wanda to get him to move out and be separated. (I was glad after seeing how he disrespects her...one good story here...he made her open the garage door while we sat in the SUV with him honking the horn at her to hurry her up. She was like 67 years old!).She was talking strange too. Talking about her husband putting needles in her while she slept. Other than that, she was able to make sound decisions, pay bills and drive. I spoke to the husband and he insisted she was mentally insane. I saw some signs but nothing serious. The Summers family reacted by not letting her see their children for over 9 months. They did not want the separation to happen. They seemed not to be able to handle having their mother being mental ill.
With the lack of communication from the siblings...we tried to persuade the mother to go see an dr so she can get an diagnose. She was refusing to go until recently, she was considering it. At that point, she was becoming heartbroken over not being able to see the grandkids who she basically babysat in their toddler years. She decided to go over to the sister's house to protest by walking with an sign saying that she has not seen her grandkids for 9 months...that made the sister overreact by getting the brother and an uncle who supports the husband to sign an statement to get the court to grant an protective custody order to force the mother into an mental hospital...NO ONE TOLD US FOR FOUR DAYS AFTER SHE WAS PUT IN THE HOSPITAL on the Friday just before Thanksgiving. We were puzzled when we called and got no answers for four days to make plans for Thanksgiving.
How we found out was one of the mother's sister called us saying she just found out about the protective custody. We did try to call the siblings when we were not getting answer from the mother. We were worried that she might of fallen and got hurt. The siblings never answered back nor bothered to tell us!
Apparently they were trying to "help" her get to an mental doctor. They were hoping that the protective order forcing her to see an mental doctor would do the job....:stupid:...NOPE! They took her in for 72 hour of observation...and said they did not find anything that would require an protective custody. In order to get an VALID protective custody order, the person has to be an danger to him or herself or to others. So they released her from protective custody and she requested to stay in as an volunteer patient. I assume to express her anger and grief at the Summers' behavior for the past year. When she was ready, she walked out the hospital and never called anyone. She is now with her sister in another state. We had not been able to reach her for two weeks.NOW, I am going to be needing legal advice on how to handle the Summers family. I could file for false statement to the DA office and they can arrest them for doing that. There is an fine of up to 25,000 dollars and an jail term of up to two years. I want to work on the guardianship for the mother so should she get to the point where she can not take care of her self, only my wife will be the guardian, not any of the SUMMERS family!
ANY ADVICE, SUGGESTIONS OR REFERRALS???by the way this family and the mother is in Forth Worth, Texas... (Tarrant Country).
here Alldeaf 
...I have an cousin who is on an city council in that town. He uses wheelchair. He is going to see what he can do to help us. 
