I am hearing, but not really

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I don't know if anyone can relate =\

My dad is deaf, my mom is hearing.

My ears have quite a bit of scaring, damage, and hearing loss. To the average person, I can hear normally. Because NORMALLY people look at you when they are talking.

My dad lip reads and I picked up this as a kid. I want to face a person when they are talking to me! I often get angry at members of my family that don't get my dad's attention first and then talk to them. They just blurt a bunch of mumblings and then when he turns around to say "what?" they say - never mind. I always wave at my dad and wait until he is seeing my face before saying anything.

I am told that I don't pay attention, etc... I repeatedly tell people that I CANNOT UNDERSTAND YOU UNLESS I AM LOOKING AT YOU when you speak. That act like I am faking hearing loss. I know when you are saying something, but it is all distorted to me.

One foot in and one foot in the other and I have no damn place.
 
Lots of HoH people have this issue... you need to seek out an audiologist or an ENT.
 
I don't know if anything can be done.

I can hear sounds just fine. I know when someone is talking to me and when I turn around to ask them to repeat it I am told I wasn't paying attention.

Most of the quieter sounds are strange to me. I actually find my brain trying to make sense of them and put them into categories of sounds.
 
It is better to go seek an ENT or audiologist who can help you with this and diagnose your issue than to sit around and wonder if anything can be done. They're the ones that can tell you if something can be done for you.
 
Thanks, I am not trying to be argumentative! I just want to understand-
It is my understanding that hearing aids and such simply amplify existing sounds?

I can hear the sounds, but they are too mumbled. I am terrified of loud public places.

I cannot tell people I am deaf, but I cannot hear them...
 
Hearing aids don't work for everyone, so I can not tell you if they'll be able to help your particular case. You would say you're Hard of Hearing then.
 
Mewtilation said:
Hearing aids don't work for everyone, so I can not tell you if they'll be able to help your particular case. You would say you're Hard of Hearing then.
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In a very quite place I can look to the side of a person's face and still understand what they are saying.
In a slightly noisy place I need to look at their lips to understand what they are saying
In a loud place, their lips and my guessing make sense of what they are saying somewhat- but I want to get out of their as soon as possible.
 
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London said:
...My dad lip reads and I picked up this as a kid. I want to face a person when they are talking to me!....
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Like others have posted, you need to go to a professional for diagnosis and potential solutions.

Is it possible that you've become more dependent on reading lips for comprehension than your hearing physiology actually demands?
 
I am HoH, with a ~90dB loss on the left side and 20-40 dB on the right side.

I do wear hearing aids. Although my left ear is too deaf to be of any use I have an aid (CROS) which transmits the sound to the right ear. My right ear is corrected with my hearing aid. It is true that the aid amplifies the sound but it amplifies it according to your hearing profile. In my case, without the aid, even in quiet situations, I hear people like if they were muffling their voice with a hand blocking their mouth. When I wear my aid, these high frequencies are much clearer and people become more intelligible.

Aids also help me in noisy situations but they do have their limits. I still have to make everyone repeat all the time to the point where I tend to avoid noisy social settings in which I become quite isolated.

Hope this helps
 
London said:
Thanks, I am not trying to be argumentative! I just want to understand-
It is my understanding that hearing aids and such simply amplify existing sounds?

I can hear the sounds, but they are too mumbled. I am terrified of loud public places.

I cannot tell people I am deaf, but I cannot hear them...
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I understand what you mean. I was able to wear HA in both ears but after I was in a horrible auto accident the hearing in my right ear became distorted and I can no use my right ear to talk on the phone. A HA does not help anymore , it only made sounds louder and the sounds are still distorted.
HA do not work for everyone . I really don't think hearing people can really understand that you can hear them but not understand what they're saying. I guess one way to get hearing people to understand this is to talk to them in a foreign language then asked if they heard it and also understand it.
 
London said:
I don't know if anything can be done.

I can hear sounds just fine. I know when someone is talking to me and when I turn around to ask them to repeat it I am told I wasn't paying attention.

Most of the quieter sounds are strange to me. I actually find my brain trying to make sense of them and put them into categories of sounds.
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My advice is to go see an audiologist. I'm like you when I'm not wearing my hearing aids, but the quiet sounds don't sound so strange anymore, when I have them on.
 
it's better to see an audiologist before it's never too late! (don't be a chicken btw)
I'm pretty much quite like you but technically, my hearing loss usually goes weird *see signature below*
 
London said:
Thanks, I am not trying to be argumentative! I just want to understand-
It is my understanding that hearing aids and such simply amplify existing sounds?

I can hear the sounds, but they are too mumbled. I am terrified of loud public places.

I cannot tell people I am deaf, but I cannot hear them...
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If you can not hear the sounds but other times you can understand when facing in front of the people. When you are not paying attention to the person, then you are having loss of hearing.

There is nothing wrong with being deaf because you are deaf.

I can not believe that you are the most stubborn close to being Audist and refuse to face the fact that you are losing your hearing.

Just go to the Audiologist for hearing test or go to the ENT (Ear, Nose and Throat) specialist on the cause of your hearing loss. Either way, it is better to try and find out why you are having this problem. :hmm:
 
If you grew up with a deaf parent and saw their frustration and treatment by society, I think you might be saddened by the thought of losing your hearing.
 
Bottesini said:
Snarl....
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Nothing like watching a parent getting insulted for not responding to someone, someone too stupid to understand there are deaf and HoH people in the world. Nothing like watching people make jokes quietly, or snicker because they responded mistakenly to what they said.
 
I'm sorry if what I am saying bothers anyone - that's not my point. But someone that doesn't want to acknowledge hearing loss might have psychological reasons for it.
 
Oh, and by 'you' I didn't mean anyone here. I could have better expressed that as "having grown up...
 
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