Hate your own family??

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I absolutely hate my brother and dad. I'll start with my brother to explain...
Althought I now live on my own, women-starve some might saym but really i dont care...thing is my brother just constantly makes fun of me by joking with my dad and his wife like the fun he makes of the "nerdy" things I like, bloody wanker....(and rich now but arrogant as ever)

you see, my brother is older than me, and at random points just to **** me off because he KNOWS that I absolutely hate him, he'll look at me and smile (just saying, his smile is SO ANNOYING that I'd love to punch him in his face.) almost like he's ready to laugh. Since he's never EVER been kind to me, I can easily tell this is just him trying to get on my nerves.
Now about my dad:

Whst he basically do is gives me artificial love. He buys it from me. I assume I just think he's not so bad after buying me something like cards or a video game. He favors my brother and laughs whenever my brother makes fun of me, and occasionally throughout the day my dad makes fun of me too. They basically double-team me. They make fun of me a lot for the small things too.

Now that I've said all of this. Tell me if there's anyone you hate in your family, and if so, why? And tell me what you would love to do to them. (like smack them in their faces, kick them in the nuts so they cant move for squat - that sort of thing.) It may just give me ideas for what I should do to my brother and father.
or maybe pour on brake fluids just to **** up their car's paintjob
I hope this doesn't effect me later in life...for it's hard to give a &&$# about it like...,

LOL...well my brother now resides in Lahore and i couldn't give a damn

BROTHERLY LOVE IS OVERATED...wish I can snipe him from the 1000 yards with a $25,000 rifle... and get paid 20 x in insurance...but I dont have 25 thousand, not even a grand...
 
I wonder what his brother's reaction would be reading the above?
 
Sorry to hear this Grummer....bitterness can eat you up and spit you out. Don't wait too long to perhaps sit down with both ur Dad and brother and let them know your feelings if possible and try to make some amends.
 
im not worried they are all over places and igot to worry about is my sipls fodone for also at binde t0 witness sigualistllly the wrap p the arnd catureiung o f the cental's etesllll...can be ,etteromf
 
Grummer said:
im not worried they are all over places and igot to worry about is my sipls fodone for also at binde t0 witness sigualistllly the wrap p the arnd catureiung o f the cental's etesllll...can be ,etteromf
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You been drinking again, Grummer...:hmm:
 
Im sorry to hear about your family. I know some families stays away from each other for good reasons. ;I

hey let's focus on the positive vibes and other things. hang out with us on alldeaf more.

Cheers.
 
Grummer said:
I absolutely hate my brother and dad. I'll start with my brother to explain...
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Very sad post...probably one of the saddest I've encountered on this forum. To hate your own family is a tragedy...how much love you all miss out on by choice.

Laura
 
oh....
yeah it's a hard one....

there is really not thing can do about it .success eats them up...and indoor swimiing doors its
 
I can relate.....my brother treated me like crap the whole time I grew up, and he & my Dad loved to make fun of every little thing I did. Great way to ruin someone's confidence.

It wasn't until I moved away to college and did not keep in touch with the family (other than my mother) when things changed, I got a job, married, house, kids, etc, then my brother started respecting me.

Did not get along with my sis either....now we get along well.

There are a number of reasons our siblings treat us like crap, and it takes a long time to find out.

In my case, it is because my Dad has been treating my brother like crap, and bro's way of dealing with it was to take it out on me. My dad was subject to abuse from his own mother, and his way of dealing with it was to take it out on us.

My Dad's health is failing now, and he finally admitted that he was an asshat all these years and apologized.

Give it time, Grummer. Moving away from family might be the best thing. There are underlying reasons for their behavior....but it takes a long time to find out.

p.s. Lay off the booze, man.....:lol:
 
Lau2046 said:
Very sad post...probably one of the saddest I've encountered on this forum. To hate your own family is a tragedy...how much love you all miss out on by choice.

Laura
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Hate run very deep in my family . My dad hated his dad and would not take my mother to see the grave site of his dad. One of dad's brother hated him.
I hate my ex brother , I have disowned him and so has his 2 daughters and his two other sisters and mom was afraid of her own son. Believe me no love is lost in my family. My ex brother raped my oldest sister , stole money from me that was from my settlement from getting hit by a car as a child.
He also stole a lot of money from our 93 yo mother. Mom was so afraid of her son that gave him my money that was in a joint account. I was not told about this until years later as my mom and older sister where too afraid of my ex brother. He asked me for the money and I told him 'NO"! So he worked on my poor mom until she gave in. So there no love lost here ,.
I was glad when my mom dies so her son could no longer bully her on her death bed.
 
whatdidyousay! said:
He mostly likely would not give a shit.
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That's really a negative thing to say....even tho' a family member did something horrific to me and we did not settle the difference before he died...still I wished him well on his "new journey"...and I hold no more hate in the situation, only a sadness that it could not be resolved before it was too late....

We live, breathe and die....time is still on the OP side...whether he takes the first step is up to him. I'm hoping he will (if he is serious)....
 
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Families are like that. They have nothing good to say only to bring you down to make themselves look good. Best to ignore and move on. It's a learning process to build up to learn to ignore them.
 
not gene, just dumb ignorance
im moving on, sorry that i bought it up and blame it on rosie
 
I had anger toward a couple of family members, but in time I have forgiven them. I feel so much better that bitterness doesn't have a hold on anymore.
It's best for *you* if you can somehow forgive and let go.
 
I do have a family member I would love to drop kick off the planet, but, I am trying to look at the positives. So far, the only positive I can come up with is, he did quit drinking.
 
I knew of 2 brothers that had an arguement and had not spoken to each other in 14 years....altho' they lived in the same town....I also have 2 sisters that live 15 miles from each other and never see each other...I find it very weird!...

Even myself, I left my home town and moved to Florida alone with 2 small children...many years ago...and did not speak to any of my family. It was very, very hard on me...But I did go visit after a few years and make up with them, but there is 1 sister who we simply disgust each other....but do email occassionally and send Christmas wishes....My family were never close...guessing it was the harsh way we grew up.
 
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Grummer said:
not gene, just dumb ignorance
im moving on, sorry that i bought it up and blame it on rosie
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You are not the only one who has issues with family. I see some post here that have conflicts. That's why some people say, we are not the Brady Bunch hhaa the tv perfect family of the 70's lol
 
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