Has anyone ever stood up for you when being bullied?

Mostly I felt adults went right along with the kids on bullying. I like your story though. :)
 
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CrazyPaul said:
Steinhauer said:
It is those "nameless" people ... the ones we can't remember their name, the stranger we accidentally met ...

The ones who stood up for us. What should we call them?
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Some are called an "unknown hero" or "Deaf supporter".
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Or 'guardian angel'
 
sonocativo said:
It is funny, I ran into an old bully a few years back, he acted like we have been best of friends for years...and of course says he cant remember ever bullying anyone (me) or us fighting.... Maybe I did damage that ego of his?
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it's probably because he remembered and knew what he did was very wrong and he must be trying very hard to get rid of that memory. I wouldn't be surprised if both of you ended up being friends and then later.... he asks you for forgiveness.

or maybe not.
 
Bottesini said:
Mostly I felt adults went right along with the kids on bullying. I like your story though. :)
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I have also seen that too. :(

A bad example set by parents. I remember watching a video a few days ago about a father and a son making fun of a girl who had cerebral palsy. It was captured on video at their bus stop.
 
Steinhauer said:
A few days ago, I remembered something that happened to me when I was 6 years old. My parents sent me and my older brother to what was called, Vacation Bible School (VBS). It was sort of like a summer camp at a church, but we were dropped off each morning and picked up in the afternoons. Sort of like "daycare" I guess.

Anyways, I was ganged up on by a group of older boys who were bullying me because I could not speak very well, or hear very well (I wore 2 hearing aids back then). I guess a lot of people can relate to this? Anyways, the bullying got pretty bad, shoving, hitting, name calling etc. etc. I remember there being about 3 or 4 older boys constantly harassing me. I do not know why I did not go and get an adult, and I think it was because my older brother was so willing to lay into them every time he caught them doing that to me. But, one day, one of the camp counselors saw what was happening and intervened. She put a permanent end to it.

That day, she took me inside the chapel and we had a private chat. She knew I felt absolutely crushed. She knew I was made to feel "different" and "inferior" by the bullying. Looking back on this experience, I think she was even a little shocked by how vicious the bullying had gotten. She then explained to me that she wore hearing aids too. She moved her hair back and showed me and said "Shh, don't tell anybody!" and then smiled. That perked me right up, because at the time, I did not know of anyone else, other than my father, who was hearing impaired like me.

Later that summer, she introduced me to her father and mother. I remember her father in vivid detail, because he was blind and was missing one arm. She apparently had told her dad about the bullying because he was very kind to me and would talk to me every afternoon. I later learned that he had lost his sight and his arm in Korea when a grenade went off near his head. He was a Korean War Veteran, either US Army or Marines (I think it was the Marines).

These two people, who I cannot even remember their names, were the two people responsible for instilling a confidence in me that "I was ok". That I was not "inferior" in any way.

I wish I could say thanks after all these years. Anyone have a similar story?
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That is a wonderful story. There are good people in this world.
 
I took my 80 year old mom shopping the other day. When we were entering the grocery store there was someone selling or promoting something at the door. I had gone a little ahead to get a cart and apparently this person had asked me a question, which I missed. I guess they had a few choice words for me and not realizing my mom was with me said them as she was approachng. My dear sweet mom in her Irish brog said "she is deaf you big arse". That I heard and I haven't laughed that hard in years!!!
 
CSign said:
That is a wonderful story. There are good people in this world.
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I had given this a little more thought. I haven't remembered those two people in years. Then one day I just remembered what they did.

I have a friend who produced the movie "The fat kid diaries". He and I went to the same high school and have the same mutual friends from high school. The movie is about bullying. He does a lot of USO work for veterans as well. He was also in the movie "Varsity Blues". A couple of years ago, I introduced him to Shoshannah Stern, thinking they could be in the same "network".

I need to contact him and see if he would be interested in making a commercial about making a stand against bullying, possible conveying the story that happened to me. Then having a disable veteran making "the stand".

It would sort of be my way of saying "thank you".

It would be really neat if he would do it, but I just don't know ...

Edit: the movie is called the fat boy chronicles

http://thefatboychronicles.com/

http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0504516/
 
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Angel1989 said:
I took my 80 year old mom shopping the other day. When we were entering the grocery store there was someone selling or promoting something at the door. I had gone a little ahead to get a cart and apparently this person had asked me a question, which I missed. I guess they had a few choice words for me and not realizing my mom was with me said them as she was approachng. My dear sweet mom in her Irish brog said "she is deaf you big arse". That I heard and I haven't laughed that hard in years!!!
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Something like that happen to me too. I was out shopping with a friend of mine
and all of a sudden I heard my friend saying to a saleswoman "my friend is HOH and can't hear you!" The saleswoman had asked me a question and I did not hear her and she made some rude comment . My friend was really upset . I had forgotten about this until I read your story.
 
I've had experience of being bullied and intervening. During my middle school years, strange thing is that those who I've met individually in elementary I introduced to the others and we became this loose group of friends- til I caught them being bullies themselves, so I left them for individual (no group) friends. Soon I ended up being the receiving end of their behavior. Funny thing is they feel strong as a group, but individually, they can't stand up to me. So I decided to take them down one by one- whenever I caught them bullying, I challenged them to prove the necessity of their behavior. l crowd gathered thinking a fght was about to start, all they did was deny what was going on and left. Another day, when I crossed them as a group, one of them tried to push me down the steps, I grabbed him and threw him against the wall and challenged him as usual to settle it right there, teachers ended up separating us. So the group I had put together ended up being gradually dismantled. Sorry thing is in high school, they couldn't cut it, all but one ended up dropping out. It is helpful when someone intervenes on your behalf, but I think standing up for one's self (not necessarily physically, but also psychologically) should be one of life's lessons. I later applied the same approach to gang types, real unfortunate people drag amateur behavior into adulthood.
 
whatdidyousay! said:
Something like that happen to me too. I was out shopping with a friend of mine
and all of a sudden I heard my friend saying to a saleswoman "my friend is HOH and can't hear you!" The saleswoman had asked me a question and I did not hear her and she made some rude comment . My friend was really upset . I had forgotten about this until I read your story.
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Since I am getting out more, I am running into this a lot. I don't want to have to be saying "sorry I am deaf" all the time but I also don't want to seem rude. Curious how others deal with this, do you just ignore them and walk by?
 
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Angel1989 said:
Since I am getting out more, I am running into this a lot. I don't want to have to be saying "sorry I am deaf" all the time but I also don't want to seem rude. Curious how others deal with this, do you just ignore them and walk by?
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If I do not realize someone is trying to get my attention I will just walk by , sometime someone will say something to me and will I smile and pretend I understood what they say, I will do this if I am in a hurry. It really depend on the mood I am in and who the person is . I was a store with my hearing dog and a guy tried talk to me but I did not like the 'vibes' I was getting from him and my dog would pick up this and start growling . So I walked away from him and he started to get angry and yell at me , a person that worked at the store got concerned and told the guy I was HOH so he would quite down. With me it really depend on who the person, I really do not care if a person think I am rude if feel uncomfortable talking to them and that guy had my 'bad vibes' antenna way up!
 
Angel1989 said:
Since I am getting out more, I am running into this a lot. I don't want to have to be saying "sorry I am deaf" all the time but I also don't want to seem rude. Curious how others deal with this, do you just ignore them and walk by?
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Oh, if a stranger asks for help or money or wants to sell you something, I always gesture "Deaf" and then look away or walk by. It's not impolite so no harm done. He/she can ask someone else who can speak. Right? What's more, how can I understand what he/she says and how can I answer a question he /she might ask? I am PROFOUNDLY deaf (in other words, I am Deaf). I never carry paper and pen with me.
 
CrazyPaul said:
Oh, if a stranger asks for help or money or wants to sell you something, I always gesture "Deaf" and then look away or walk by. It's not impolite so no harm done. He/she can ask someone else who can speak. Right? What's more, how can I understand what he/she says and how can I answer a question he /she might ask? I am PROFOUNDLY deaf (in other words, I am Deaf). I never carry paper and pen with me.
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A woman once stopped and asked me for direction and I did not want stand in the middle of the street with my dog so I told her I could not hear her and the woman got pissed off at me. I was so glad I did not help her!
 
Nothing serious.... but I deal with audism all my life. I mean there are ppl out there that dont want nothin good for deafies b/c they're audists..how so cruel.. :mad2: I deal with that all the time. We are easy targets for advantage and manipulators. What can I do? :dunno:
 
needsleep said:
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Are you saying I am lying about this?? Would you like to tell me what you saw happen that day??


And I really hated when people put my words into BOLD LETTERS as it made it looks like I wrote
my comment that way!
 
whatdidyousay! said:
Are you saying I am lying about this?? Would you like to tell me what you saw happen that day??


And I really hated when people put my words into BOLD LETTERS as it made it looks like I wrote
my comment that way!
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Not that at all! I'm just reacting to her bullcrap and highlighting what I'm reacting to so there was no confusion about what I was reacting to...but there seems to have been some confusion anyway. Sorry for that and the bold letter issue. I'm just saying that that woman is ridiculous to get pissed off at you.
 
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