Why would people want their children to be deaf?

I don't mind having a deaf child although I'd prefer to have a hearing. It's to each individual's choices.

I see no problem with deaf people wanting to have deaf children. If you have a problem with that, realize that we make our own choices that will make our lives better in our own ways.
 
Language, your right but culture value, they have their own.

jillio said:
Well, I agree that they have things about their lives that they share in common and are comfortable with. And that they don't see themselves as disabled as people who are not blind and in a wheelchair see them.

But what I meant was, to be a separate culture, there has to be a shared language that is used to hand down cultural values and practices. That is what makes Deaf Culture recognized as a separate culture on it's own.
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lanapoo said:
I don't mind having a deaf child although I'd prefer to have a hearing. It's to each individual's choices.

I see no problem with deaf people wanting to have deaf children. If you have a problem with that, realize that we make our own choices that will make our lives better in our own ways.
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Thank you.
 
Jesus! I just ask a simple question and everyone is jumping me and offer absolutely NO logical explanation. This just make me think people do things without thinking.

Few members explain their reason to me and I respect their reason and can understand their pOV and I offered mine. I am not gonna to say if I agree or disagree. I am a curious person by nature, so I want to know things and am happy if someone can explain me things.

But if my child happen to be deaf, oh well I am fine with it. But I simply wouldn't wish it on them. That's my POV and I explained why already.

Ok now that I get this out of the way, if you guys want to answer, please at least explain the reasoning behind your decision.
 
RabidLamn said:
Jesus! I just ask a simple question and everyone is jumping me and offer absolutely NO logical explanation. This just make me think people do things without thinking.

Few members explain their reason to me and I respect their reason and can understand their pOV and I offered mine. I am not gonna to say if I agree or disagree. I am a curious person by nature, so I want to know things and am happy if someone can explain me things.

But if my child happen to be deaf, oh well I am fine with it. But I simply wouldn't wish it on them. That's my POV and I explained why already.

Ok now that I get this out of the way, if you guys want to answer, please at least explain the reasoning behind your decision.
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Most people do things without thinking. Deaf and hearing alike.
 
Nobody plans to have a child who is different from society, but when it happens, it shouldn't be viewed as a tragedy. I believe that attitude has a lot to do with how well adjusted a child is. If you raise that child to think they are defective or different, they will believe they are. If you raise that child to believe that they can do anything they choose to, they will.

Society has a way of victimizing those who are different and it truly sucks.

FYI to the OP: I'm hearing but was born with an open spine. I have been in a wheelchair since early childhood. I've found that being born this way has never been an issue for me. However, what HAS been an issue for me is how society sees me. Society has a long way to go when it comes to acceptance.
 
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If I have a deaf child, awesome. If not, still awesome. He/She will still be my child. :)
 
Oceanbreeze said:
Nobody plans to have a child who is different from society, but when it happens, it shouldn't be viewed as a tragedy. I believe that attitude has a lot to do with how well adjusted a child is. If you raise that child to think they are defective or different, they will believe they are. If you raise that child to believe that they can do anything they choose to, they will.

Society has a way of victimizing those who are different and it truly sicks.

FYI to the OP: I'm hearing but was born with an open spine. I have been in a wheelchair since early childhood. I've found that being born this way has never been an issue for me. However, what HAS been an issue for me is how society sees me. Society has a long way to go when it comes to acceptance.
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I am curious...is saying "wheelchair-bound" to describe people who use wheelchairs offensive?
 
shel90 said:
I am curious...is saying "wheelchair-bound" to describe people who use wheelchairs offensive?
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To me, no. But, I'm also not that easily offended by terms. To others, it may be. I don't mind people saying I'm "wheelchair bound" or "disabled", because I am. There ARE things I cannot do. However, I also don't let myself get hung up on those terms. I don't let the terms define what I CAN do.

I really think that people are too sensitive, sometimes. This is a problem in itself. Why worry about it? It is what it is. I can't change the way I was born, but I'm also not going to draw attention to what I'm not able to do, either. I just want to live my life.

Understand? I get that society perpetuates a lot of negativity. I get that we must project positivity as a way to show others what we can do. But, I also have seen a lot of hypocrisy in that as well. People who tend to be "PC" are the worse offenders. They use cutesy terms that drive me batty to desribe those who are disabled, but yet, throw pity around. If you're trying to not be offensive, do me a HUGE favor and don't pity me! You'll PO me more that way. I HATE hyprocrisy a lot more than I hate someone who's just plain ignorant or mean.
 
I am just saying that as a deaf person, sometime you will never have a chance to try something simply because you're deaf.
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What if you're hoh? You're both deaf and hearing! :)
I do agree that dhh people have a harder time then hearing people...BUT that goes for almost any minority. Blind, wheelchair user, blacks, Spanish speakers, GLB people and so on.
 
deafdyke said:
What if you're hoh? You're both deaf and hearing! :)
I do agree that dhh people have a harder time then hearing people...BUT that goes for almost any minority. Blind, wheelchair user, blacks, Spanish speakers, GLB people and so on.
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I am HOH and it is hard, sometimes you wish you were fully deaf or fully hearing. Y vivo en un país donde ser minoría es ya un problema. :wave:
 
shel90 said:
I cant speak for blind or wheelchair-bound people and judge their quality of lives. I refuse to do that. If my child was deaf, I wouldnt be devastated, to tell you the truth.


To anyone else.
*pls let me know if "wheel-chair bound" is offensive and I wont use it again.
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As the mom of a child who uses a wheelchair, we don't care for the term "wheelchair bound" simply because that makes it seem like he is held back by the chair... he's not, we just sometimes have to get a little creative with HOW he manages things.

I am not "offended" by it... just don't care for it.

Thanks for checking about that...many people wouldn't even think about it.
 
Oceanbreeze said:
Nobody plans to have a child who is different from society, but when it happens, it shouldn't be viewed as a tragedy. I believe that attitude has a lot to do with how well adjusted a child is. If you raise that child to think they are defective or different, they will believe they are. If you raise that child to believe that they can do anything they choose to, they will.

Society has a way of victimizing those who are different and it truly sicks.

FYI to the OP: I'm hearing but was born with an open spine. I have been in a wheelchair since early childhood. I've found that being born this way has never been an issue for me. However, what HAS been an issue for me is how society sees me. Society has a long way to go when it comes to acceptance.
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Bolded the parts that jumped out at me... I couldn't agree more! Would I have preferred for my sons sake that he not have his disability? Absolutely. Does it make his "less than"? Heck NO. He is pretty damn positive most of the time, works his ass off to do all he can do, and is a terrific kid...who just happens to have to do some things a bit differently from the "majority".
 
chipmunkis said:
As the mom of a child who uses a wheelchair, we don't care for the term "wheelchair bound" simply because that makes it seem like he is held back by the chair... he's not, we just sometimes have to get a little creative with HOW he manages things.

Thanks for checking about that...many people wouldn't even think about it.
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This is what I mean, Shel...

I personally am not bothered by the term, but, others may be.

I have always operated by ASKING the person what they prefer. But, that's me.

The worse thing one can do is assume.

Assuming just makes an ASS out of U and ME.
 
chipmunkis said:
As the mom of a child who uses a wheelchair, we don't care for the term "wheelchair bound" simply because that makes it seem like he is held back by the chair... he's not, we just sometimes have to get a little creative with HOW he manages things.

I am not "offended" by it... just don't care for it.

Thanks for checking about that...many people wouldn't even think about it.
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Let me know what is a better word or just dont say anything at all?

I hate hate that term hearing-impaired so I prefer to be called deaf.
 
jillio said:
Why wouldn't they? Hearing parents want their children to be hearing. **shrug**

No one's life is easy. Hearing status doesn't have anything to do with that.
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Right. And that's why there are some that thinks the solution is that the hearing needs to revolve around or do more for the Deaf are as constructively put, being a little naive. Cause as we see, hearing people do have their own problems, needs and wants.
 
jillio said:
Why wouldn't they? Hearing parents want their children to be hearing. **shrug**

No one's life is easy. Hearing status doesn't have anything to do with that.
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I think it very selfish to want your child to be born deaf! I am was so happy my baby was born a hearing baby , You reasoning made no sense to me.
If you were born with no arms would you want you baby to be born like that too? I also hear people say that they glad that they are an Adult Child at meetings . I do not get this kind of thinking.
 
People often want a child just like themselves. Why would it surprise you that deaf parents would want a deaf child? Any child is a blessing.
 
souggy said:
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Aye. I would like to have a Deaf child who would grows up with the same things I did-- travel the world, to treasure the Island as paradise, to be able to go out on the Prairies on a whim and walk around for a few hours before heading home. Too bad people can't do that anymore.

Only thing I wouldn't put him through is the speech therapies I received in middle and high school.
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I would not wish a dog the childhood I had!
 
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