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First Question in a planned series of dating questions. Just for fun...

#1. How do you know when someone (of the opposite sex- c'mon same sex is too easy) likes you?


Doesn't matter what kind of liking it is, anything goes!
 
Maybe asks you...."would you like to go out for an ice cream?"...Or gives you a Rose at a club.....or waves at you everytime he/she sees you?...(That's happening to me now)....:laugh2:
 
rockin'robin said:
Maybe asks you...."would you like to go out for an ice cream?"...Or gives you a Rose at a club.....or waves at you everytime he/she sees you?...(That's happening to me now)....:laugh2:
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Sounds easy. Ive heard from other friends who would tell me if I blew it. I'm oblivious and left to wonder where I missed it. I've noticed with hearing girls it's easier when I can tell the difference in tone of voice. Course I can tell in a busy background. When I can tell she's interested in me I sometimes get creeped out because I have no idea why she is. It's flattering but I've had my share of stalkers.
 
Hair pulling, name calling, chasing on the playground... :) J/K

Extended eye contact, giggling, hair twirling, compliments, touching, smiling.... :)
 
craigm26 said:
Sounds easy. Ive heard from other friends who would tell me if I blew it. I'm oblivious and left to wonder where I missed it. I've noticed with hearing girls it's easier when I can tell the difference in tone of voice. Course I can tell in a busy background. When I can tell she's interested in me I sometimes get creeped out because I have no idea why she is. It's flattering but I've had my share of stalkers.
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How did you get stalkers?

Although if they stalk you I guess they must like you a lot.
 
Bottesini said:
How did you get stalkers?

Although if they stalk you I guess they must like you a lot.
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Whoops, I meant to say "I can't really tell in a busier background environment with the tone of voice"...


That's a great question. Infatuation and then it becomes a little too real? One was a dorm roommate (not in the same room), never talked a word to her and asked me two years later if I could be her bf. At first I thought she was kidding, but over the course of conversation, she was very serious about it.

2nd one was during a first date. She was fantasizing- realistically- about how she would climb up to my porch wall, enter and wait for me if I didn't call her. I forget what other things she said she would do if I didn't call her (why wouldn't I?), but that one topped them. Saying and doing it might be different things to most people, but in this instance, I thought to myself "double-check in the morning to lock the back porch".

Sometimes it's the idea of me and not at all about the relationship.
 
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I have asked some females the same question in the past. "How do you know someone likes you? (Guy perspective)"

Think it varies by culture AND their personality.. YMMV. Things also change with age, I'm assuming this one.

Flirting - most obvious
"Eye-sex" I randomly named this. Idea came from some book where the author called it "eye-f'ing".
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Hair twirling - varies, also hair straightening / combing with hands falls into this but its situational.
Shyness - personality related
Random Fiddling - seems only certain people do this to break the uneasiness of silence. These are the ones who aren't the quiet types (imo).
How much time they spent getting ready for you - but you can't know this unless you are a peeping tom or have a Danny to get info for you.

Oh one more - this might be good or bad depending on how you look at it
If you are seen with another female regardless of their relationship to you, (ie cousin etc) look for signs of jealousy. They'll also have extended eye contact to make sure she's not your girl.
 
quirkylibra said:
Hair pulling, name calling, chasing on the playground... :) J/K

Extended eye contact, giggling, hair twirling, compliments, touching, smiling.... :)
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You may be onto something here. Do you have experience with this??

Extended eye contact. Whew! Those can get intense. I usually don't go after the ones who initiate it though:dunno2:. Course, if I tell a joke that really wasn't a joke, I definitely know I have her!
 
"Eye-sex" I randomly named this. Idea came from some book where the author called it "eye-f'ing".
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As long as it appears she's actually not crying...where do I sign up?:shock:


Good advice everyone! Maybe I won't be so clueless as my friends claim I am.
 
It's all in the eyes. More than three seconds held is a good sign. If you can manage to not break the contact even better.
 
Hm (scratches neck) I'm clueless about this matter as well. A certain fella keeps hugging me, asking me to sit next to him, and he has told me repeatedly "I really like you."

I don't know... errm... is that a sign that he likes me? o_O

I'm in denial about this sort of thing, it's quite sad. I will refer back to this thread for clues (whips out magnifying glass)
 
jinxedkitten said:
Hm (scratches neck) I'm clueless about this matter as well. A certain fella keeps hugging me, asking me to sit next to him, and he has told me repeatedly "I really like you."

I don't know... errm... is that a sign that he likes me? o_O

I'm in denial about this sort of thing, it's quite sad. I will refer back to this thread for clues (whips out magnifying glass)
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Nah. it is NOT sad. maybe you are not up to it just yet! come back when you know it's time.
 
jinxedkitten said:
I haven't went on a date since I was 18 so I'm hoping it's normal to be rusty after five years? ((crosses fingers))
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Oh yes that's purrfectly normal. i think you are doing great so far as long as you enjoy your life every minutes of it.
 
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I think most of what's written in here is to guy's perspective to read girls.

I don't know a damn thing about girl perspective. :dunno:
 
Whoooops!:Oops: I read the whole thing wrong! What I wrote was my sex. :lol:

How do I know a guy is interested? :hmm: Most of them are pretty obvious and direct, if not I'm clueless! I'm more like a pirate, I don't pay much attention to anything but what I want, then I raid the ship and take it!:lol:

Seriously, guys tend to lay the compliments on thick. They stare, stutter and ramble. They act jealous when you talk to other guys...idk...

Jinx...it's very normal feeling that you don't know what the hell you are doing. I just got out of a relationship and I haven't dated in about 11years:shock: I have no clue. I figure I'll catch on.:lol:
 
eye contact, Flirting, smiling a lot, touching in casual way, Hugs, waving at you and so on. Really, it's easy to tell if someone likes you, enspeically if they show it to you.
 
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