Wow. The Cochlear forum has some uptight people

To the person who said that in that forum;

Would be more benefit to all working so hard at try to learn to hear again.

I say...kiss my ass. More benefit to all? Oh pls. My life is much more than just about hearing. Maybe that person, hearing is everything but he/she needs to apply to him/herself only.
 
RonJaxon said:
Where the heck did I say anything "insulting" or suggest I was "Angry" about anything. I thought I was being helpful.
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People with a lot of anger read other people's anger-free posts as anger-ridden. Welcome to the Netz.
 
shel90 said:
I have met people like that in real life. My take is that they havent come to terms with their deafness and trying so hard to be hearing but failing. I used to be like that. It is sad.
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few times - I asked my friend to come join me to a couple of deaf events because she's HOH. Couple weeks ago, I asked her to join me to DPHH. She felt insulted and angrily refused it. She angrily told me to stop asking her to join some events. She refused to hang around with any deafies (except me which was ironic). I was like whoa wassup!

I guess she hasn't come to term with her deafness.... I'm not offended at all. We all have gone thru this kind of self-denial phase and hopefully she'll come to term with her deafness. She was born HOH and so does her brother. She's much younger than me so there's hope..... :)
 
Jiro said:
few times - I asked my friend to come join me to a couple of deaf events because she's HOH. Couple weeks ago, I asked her to join me to DPHH. She felt insulted and angrily refused it. She angrily told me to stop asking her to join some events. She refused to hang around with any deafies (except me which was ironic). I was like whoa wassup!

I guess she hasn't come to term with her deafness.... I'm not offended at all. We all have gone thru this kind of self-denial phase and hopefully she'll come to term with her deafness. She was born HOH and so does her brother. She's much younger than me so there's hope..... :)
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Either she will come to terms with it or never. Her loss because there are so many wonderful people in the Deaf community who can relate to her on a more personal level than hearing people can or vice versa.
 
shel90 said:
Either she will come to terms with it or never. Her loss because there are so many wonderful people in the Deaf community who can relate to her on a more personal level than hearing people can or vice versa.
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that's what I told her but oh well. she'll understand later when she grows up. she's several years younger than me so time will tell. she's just going thru bunch of crazy phases right now especially divorce proceeding.
 
The sad thing is that people who are angry (like Jiro's friend) drive people away who are trying to be supportive. Whenever someone directs anger at me, I'm not inclined to offer again.
 
Ugh. I do think that there are some implantees who are kind of messed up emotionally.
Have you run into the" CI Aspies" yet? Those are the ones who are CI,CI CI 24/7, and its like they have Asperger's Syndrome for CIs.
 
Jiro said:
that's what I told her but oh well. she'll understand later when she grows up. she's several years younger than me so time will tell. she's just going thru bunch of crazy phases right now especially divorce proceeding.
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:shock: Divorce proceeding? Now that's somewhere where a lot of deaf-related misunderstandings could take place. It only took a few serious misunderstandings at doctor's appointments and other appointments for me to realize I actually don't always hear things right and I actually miss a lot of things, even when I think I'm hearing everything fine and getting everything.

Hopefully she won't have some misunderstanding blow up in her face. :eek:
 
CJB said:
:shock: Divorce proceeding? Now that's somewhere where a lot of deaf-related misunderstandings could take place. It only took a few serious misunderstandings at doctor's appointments and other appointments for me to realize I actually don't always hear things right and I actually miss a lot of things, even when I think I'm hearing everything fine and getting everything.

Hopefully she won't have some misunderstanding blow up in her face. :eek:
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her hearing is pretty good. I'm not sure what her hearing damage is but she takes her HA off to talk on phone. She can hear much better than me but she views her hearing disability as nuisance. She's married to a soldier and she married WAY too young... right out of HS. she'll figure it out and I have a hope for her. I'm always available if she's ready.

we're college friends. and also motorcycle friends :cool2:
 
Reminds me of one night I was at a bar playing pool. I know just about everyone there and a group was having a birthday there. They introduced me everyone in their group and asked if I could do a little magic for them. I did and ended up just sitting with them a bit. One lady looked like she was sad or something. I asked the ones I knew if she was ok. Turns out the lady was deaf. Lost her hearing not long ago. So I of course asked if she signed. My friend told me that she doesn't know ASL and she doesn't talk much. I offered to let me know if she ever wants to talk about anything relating to her hearing loss and I could teach her some basic ASL. She didn't want anything to do with it.

Of course I didn't push the matter but it struck me as sad. I mean no one even told me anything about her and I could tell she was sad. I could tell this without even knowing she was deaf. Just one look at her told me that.

So I just told them to let me know if she changes her mind. They know how to find me. I hope someday they contact me about it so I can help her. She could be happy. Just learning to finger spell will make a huge difference.
 
Jiro said:
her hearing is pretty good. I'm not sure what her hearing damage is but she takes her HA off to talk on phone. She can hear much better than me but she views her hearing disability as nuisance. She's married to a soldier and she married WAY too young... right out of HS. she'll figure it out and I have a hope for her. I'm always available if she's ready.

we're college friends. and also motorcycle friends :cool2:
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Usually people who have a mild hearing loss relate more with hearing people than with deaf people. Just my two cents from my experience with them in real life. I dont hold it against them.
 
shel90 said:
Usually people who have a mild hearing loss relate more with hearing people than with deaf people. Just my two cents from my experience with them in real life. I dont hold it against them.
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yep. that's why I left her alone. I ain't gonna preach to her
 
The thing that makes most people make bad decisions during divorce is their emotional state. It's hard to get people to make rational decisions when they are so emotional.
 
RonJaxon said:
Reminds me of one night I was at a bar playing pool. I know just about everyone there and a group was having a birthday there. They introduced me everyone in their group and asked if I could do a little magic for them. I did and ended up just sitting with them a bit. One lady looked like she was sad or something. I asked the ones I knew if she was ok. Turns out the lady was deaf. Lost her hearing not long ago. So I of course asked if she signed. My friend told me that she doesn't know ASL and she doesn't talk much. I offered to let me know if she ever wants to talk about anything relating to her hearing loss and I could teach her some basic ASL. She didn't want anything to do with it.

Of course I didn't push the matter but it struck me as sad. I mean no one even told me anything about her and I could tell she was sad. I could tell this without even knowing she was deaf. Just one look at her told me that.

So I just told them to let me know if she changes her mind. They know how to find me. I hope someday they contact me about it so I can help her. She could be happy. Just learning to finger spell will make a huge difference.
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Wow! That was sweet of you! She needs to get through her grief first before anyone can really help you but I am sure your efforts made a small impact.
 
inmate23 said:
I may have read this WRONG but can you have a ci for asd?
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Nope. DD was using the reference to ASD as a way of expressing her view why some folks (as if they had ASD in their thinking processes) in getting a CI.
 
shel90 said:
The environment I grew up in enabled me into believing that being deaf was a bad thing so I adopted that way of thinking that hearing people were superior than me. No more...fuck that shit.
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That's tough. It's Hearing and medical doctor who keeps ignoring deaf culture. They do not get it why deaf culture is the key to deaf people.
 
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