why it's hard to meet a decent guy online

flyingace · 03-02-2009, 10:47 AM

can you tell me if it's just deaf guys who make crude comments about the size of my breasts, and even speculate about how, when and if I masturbate, or do all guys do this? Is it because we're communicating on the Internet that they feel they can get away with being crude and 7th-grade? It doesn't make me eager to converse with guys who talk like this, and I certainly have no intention of talking to them on VP if I'll be subjected to sexual comments and requests to strip and masturbate for them. I tell ya, if I met these guys in person and they started making comments about the size of my chest and asking if I use a cell phone on "vibrate" as a dildo, I'd give them a look of disgust and walk away and refuse to speak to them again. And they wonder why they're single? and they think I'm still single because I'm "no fun". Puh-leez.

***Brian*** · 03-02-2009, 11:34 AM

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Originally Posted by flyingace

can you tell me if it's just deaf guys who make crude comments about the size of my breasts, and even speculate about how, when and if I masturbate, or do all guys do this? Is it because we're communicating on the Internet that they feel they can get away with being crude and 7th-grade? It doesn't make me eager to converse with guys who talk like this, and I certainly have no intention of talking to them on VP if I'll be subjected to sexual comments and requests to strip and masturbate for them. I tell ya, if I met these guys in person and they started making comments about the size of my chest and asking if I use a cell phone on "vibrate" as a dildo, I'd give them a look of disgust and walk away and refuse to speak to them again. And they wonder why they're single? and they think I'm still single because I'm "no fun". Puh-leez.

Just deaf guys? What about hearing guys?

I have no clue as to why some guys are like this. When I was a kid/real young, I have made some inappropriate comments toward women/girls. I learnt from older boys.

This is probably why I don't have many male friends.

Have you, perhaps consider looking into meeting local guys in your area or both, locally and online?

***VamPyroX*** · 03-02-2009, 11:54 AM

That's typical of internet dating. If you look on dating sites, guys will almost always ask about your breasts, sex, etc.

radioman · 03-02-2009, 12:08 PM

Ok - go ahead and blame the whole male section of the human race. Tell me this - why is it so hard to find woman too ? Even the married men needs female freinds. Its not all married men is gonna have sex with every lady we see. Gosh! It just a pain to have female freinds and then introduce to wifes as a freind too. The awkwardness- the jeoulousy - dont get me started.

Mockingbird · 03-02-2009, 03:36 PM

I'm more concerned about the fact that people think online dating is a good idea to get into a relationship.

saywhatkid · 03-02-2009, 07:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Mockingbird

I'm more concerned about the fact that people think online dating is a good idea to get into a relationship.

It worked out wonderfully for me. Some people have reasons for going the internet dating way. Maybe they have little free time; few deaf/HOH in the town they live in; poor vision so they cannot drive. I am glad I met my lady through online service. We have been together over 5 years. Whatever works!

saywhatkid · 03-02-2009, 07:17 PM

Some guys hide behind the anonymity of the internet to ridicule others. It is the same as cyber bullies and their ilk. It is like walking past the construction sites in the old days. "Whoa honey, want fries with that shake?" "Damn! Baby got Back" and so forth. I guess they figure if you let them insult you, you are desperate and will let them push you around. For many men, that is exactly the type of woman they want, or they want no women at all; therefore, they are still content to be stroking it in the shower.

dead money · 03-03-2009, 02:58 PM

then dont "date" online.

DUH.

Steel X · 03-04-2009, 04:54 AM

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Originally Posted by VamPyroX

That's typical of internet dating. If you look on dating sites, guys will almost always ask about your breasts, sex, etc.

True. Happens all the time...most people online dont really care what they say even if its offensive or insulting anyway. so yea its stupid.

Maria · 03-04-2009, 10:59 AM

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Originally Posted by VamPyroX

That's typical of internet dating. If you look on dating sites, guys will almost always ask about your breasts, sex, etc.

Not my fiance -- even, thou we met through internet datin'.

sequoias · 03-04-2009, 12:42 PM

It depends where you are going. Im not the guy who talks about sex and all that bs online with women. You might be going to the wrong places to meet guys.

flyingace · 03-04-2009, 06:49 PM

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Originally Posted by sequoias

It depends where you are going. Im not the guy who talks about sex and all that bs online with women. You might be going to the wrong places to meet guys.

where's the "right places"?

adisatr3 · 03-04-2009, 08:19 PM

anywhere that you happen to meet face to face....online relationships are just a waste of time and energy

sequoias · 03-04-2009, 09:36 PM

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Originally Posted by flyingace

where's the "right places"?

The right places would be getting to know people in random places, like forums, chat rooms, etc....not the dating sites...they mostly suck.

Gemma · 03-04-2009, 09:54 PM

Trust me, it is not just deaf but hearing men who make crude remarks onlne - they think that it is okay to be so open online. For example last night - someone said "Oh by the way, Im extremely oral" and we just met - I go in response "Do you go up and say that to a woman you just met 5 minutes ago?" He didnt reply....go figures..but it is amazing how this cyberculture is so different from real life! He probably ran to next woman to use the same line on. *rme*

Simply use this as a filtering - granted it wont leave you with much options but one or two decent men is so much better than 100 perverted men who doesnt have social grace online!

PS Women do this too....so we cant just blame on one single gender but BOTH...

flyingace · 03-05-2009, 08:46 AM

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Originally Posted by Gemma

Trust me, it is not just deaf but hearing men who make crude remarks onlne - they think that it is okay to be so open online. For example last night - someone said "Oh by the way, Im extremely oral" and we just met - I go in response "Do you go up and say that to a woman you just met 5 minutes ago?" He didnt reply....go figures..but it is amazing how this cyberculture is so different from real life! He probably ran to next woman to use the same line on. *rme*

Simply use this as a filtering - granted it wont leave you with much options but one or two decent men is so much better than 100 perverted men who doesnt have social grace online!

PS Women do this too....so we cant just blame on one single gender but BOTH...

Gemma, it's nice to know that hearing guys can be just as boorish. I've had guys I just met online say things I doubt they'd say to a woman in person. At least not if they don't want a knee in the nuts.

Steel X · 03-05-2009, 07:45 PM

I dont believe in online dating sites.

I rather meet girls thru communties such as the deaf community or whatever.

mativu · 03-06-2009, 06:48 AM

its hard to find a decent guy online since many of them 'online' just want to flirt and maybe get laid cheaply but not a serious relationship.
the annonymity of internet can make them be very obscene and direct towards sexual fantasies
[Unnecessary remark removed by Mod via mobile phone.]

Kai Onca · 03-06-2009, 07:02 PM

I wouldn't be talking to guys like that in the first place. If the guy starts to ask too personal question/being crude and lewd within few minutes of the conversation then I'm done with that guy and I just move on.

Babyblue · 03-06-2009, 08:17 PM

Like the OP said. Anyone can make crude remarks and hide behind the screen. It is almost as bad as Road Rage. (hiding behind the wheel of a vehicle)

Comparing that to hiding behind a computer monitor is about the same. People often feel brave ** as my daughter says** To talk SMACK...

ilcookieli · 03-12-2009, 03:28 PM

How do you expect to get respect from women if you are a pervert on the internet. These guys think there cool by asking these questions because they cant get any in the real world. When there behind a computer they feel safe because they are insecure in real life. I dont get it. I am a 24 year old and I dont ask people that, there is more important things to know about then if you masturbate. Why even ask? Everyone MASTURBATES! LOL.. anyway, thats my thoughts on it. Pictures are important though because you need to be physically attracted to the person you are speaking to. You can meet good guys online! You never tried me! email me and well talk! mattadika at gmail.com

Byrdie714 · 03-14-2009, 03:24 PM

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Originally Posted by flyingace

where's the "right places"?

Church.

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Originally Posted by ilcookieli

How do you expect to get respect from women if you are a pervert on the internet. These guys think there cool by asking these questions because they cant get any in the real world. When there behind a computer they feel safe because they are insecure in real life. I dont get it. I am a 24 year old and I dont ask people that, there is more important things to know about then if you masturbate. Why even ask? Everyone MASTURBATES! LOL.. anyway, thats my thoughts on it. Pictures are important though because you need to be physically attracted to the person you are speaking to. You can meet good guys online! You never tried me! email me and well talk! mattadika at gmail.com

What about women that ask guys how much money they make?! Women are just as bad especially when it comes to the economics of the relationship, social status, among other things.

Believe it or not--women are perverts as well when they ask what the male's schlong is!

flyingace · 03-15-2009, 08:32 AM

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Originally Posted by Byrdie714

Church.

What about women that ask guys how much money they make?! Women are just as bad especially when it comes to the economics of the relationship, social status, among other things.

Believe it or not--women are perverts as well when they ask what the male's schlong is!

I think that there are more male perverts than women. And I'd rather be asked how much money I have than asked if I like having my private parts licked.

Byrdie714 · 03-15-2009, 09:23 AM

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Originally Posted by flyingace

I think that there are more male perverts than women. And I'd rather be asked how much money I have than asked if I like having my private parts licked.

Actually you would be suprised to see how many women are pervs....

flyingace · 03-15-2009, 09:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Byrdie714

Actually you would be suprised to see how many women are pervs....

and how would you know this? I thought you were married!

shel90 · 03-15-2009, 09:47 AM

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Originally Posted by flyingace

I think that there are more male perverts than women. And I'd rather be asked how much money I have than asked if I like having my private parts licked.

That's a good point..one I have never thought of...

BradB08 · 03-15-2009, 10:40 AM

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Originally Posted by flyingace

can you tell me if it's just deaf guys who make crude comments about the size of my breasts, and even speculate about how, when and if I masturbate, or do all guys do this? Is it because we're communicating on the Internet that they feel they can get away with being crude and 7th-grade? It doesn't make me eager to converse with guys who talk like this, and I certainly have no intention of talking to them on VP if I'll be subjected to sexual comments and requests to strip and masturbate for them. I tell ya, if I met these guys in person and they started making comments about the size of my chest and asking if I use a cell phone on "vibrate" as a dildo, I'd give them a look of disgust and walk away and refuse to speak to them again. And they wonder why they're single? and they think I'm still single because I'm "no fun". Puh-leez.

You're meeting the wrong guys.

I'm a decent guy but there just aren't that many online.

flyingace · 03-16-2009, 09:24 AM

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Originally Posted by BradB08

You're meeting the wrong guys.

I'm a decent guy but there just aren't that many online.

It's easy to say "you're meeting the wrong guys". I'm aware that there aren't many online, but I have met a few really nice guys online. Some people (not just me) live in areas where there aren't too many other deaf people, or can't get out and socialize for various reasons, or have tried socializing and haven't found anyone they like, so trying to meet someone online is just one way. It just seems that some people feel the anonymity of the Internet is a license to express their inner oinker. I wonder if these people act like this in face-to-face situations?

BradB08 · 03-16-2009, 03:33 PM

Yeah. I've met nothing but crazy psycho women on internet dating sites. Yikes. No more for me.

Byrdie714 · 03-16-2009, 10:44 PM

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Originally Posted by flyingace

and how would you know this? I thought you were married!

I was speaking from my experience prior to being married .

03-02-2009, 10:47 AM	#1 (permalink)
flyingace Curse you, Red Baron! Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: on top of the doghouse Posts: 302	why it's hard to meet a decent guy online can you tell me if it's just deaf guys who make crude comments about the size of my breasts, and even speculate about how, when and if I masturbate, or do all guys do this? Is it because we're communicating on the Internet that they feel they can get away with being crude and 7th-grade? It doesn't make me eager to converse with guys who talk like this, and I certainly have no intention of talking to them on VP if I'll be subjected to sexual comments and requests to strip and masturbate for them. I tell ya, if I met these guys in person and they started making comments about the size of my chest and asking if I use a cell phone on "vibrate" as a dildo, I'd give them a look of disgust and walk away and refuse to speak to them again. And they wonder why they're single? and they think I'm still single because I'm "no fun". Puh-leez.

03-02-2009, 11:54 AM	#3 (permalink)
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saywhatkid Thinking outside the box Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Trapped in a box Posts: 1,838	Some guys hide behind the anonymity of the internet to ridicule others. It is the same as cyber bullies and their ilk. It is like walking past the construction sites in the old days. "Whoa honey, want fries with that shake?" "Damn! Baby got Back" and so forth. I guess they figure if you let them insult you, you are desperate and will let them push you around. For many men, that is exactly the type of woman they want, or they want no women at all; therefore, they are still content to be stroking it in the shower. __________________ Trolling: (from Urban Dictionary) Being a prick on the Internet because you can. Typically unleashing one or more cynical or sarcastic remarks on an innocent bystander, because it's the Internet and, hey, you can.

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dead money Registered User Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 1,439	then dont "date" online. DUH. __________________ mike matusow...or god for short.

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03-02-2009, 12:08 PM	#4 (permalink)
radioman Registered User Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 767	Ok - go ahead and blame the whole male section of the human race. Tell me this - why is it so hard to find woman too ? Even the married men needs female freinds. Its not all married men is gonna have sex with every lady we see. Gosh! It just a pain to have female freinds and then introduce to wifes as a freind too. The awkwardness- the jeoulousy - dont get me started.

03-02-2009, 03:36 PM	#5 (permalink)
Mockingbird Registered User Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: USA Posts: 237	I'm more concerned about the fact that people think online dating is a good idea to get into a relationship.

03-04-2009, 12:42 PM	#11 (permalink)
sequoias Premium Member Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: A little trip to the extraordinary. Posts: 16,204	It depends where you are going. Im not the guy who talks about sex and all that bs online with women. You might be going to the wrong places to meet guys.

03-04-2009, 08:19 PM	#13 (permalink)
adisatr3 Registered User Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: New Jersey Posts: 9	anywhere that you happen to meet face to face....online relationships are just a waste of time and energy

03-04-2009, 09:54 PM	#15 (permalink)
Gemma Registered User Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 1,125	Trust me, it is not just deaf but hearing men who make crude remarks onlne - they think that it is okay to be so open online. For example last night - someone said "Oh by the way, Im extremely oral" and we just met - I go in response "Do you go up and say that to a woman you just met 5 minutes ago?" He didnt reply....go figures..but it is amazing how this cyberculture is so different from real life! He probably ran to next woman to use the same line on. rme Simply use this as a filtering - granted it wont leave you with much options but one or two decent men is so much better than 100 perverted men who doesnt have social grace online! PS Women do this too....so we cant just blame on one single gender but BOTH...

03-06-2009, 06:48 AM	#18 (permalink)
mativu matt Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Nairobi in Kenya Posts: 51	its hard to find a decent guy online since many of them 'online' just want to flirt and maybe get laid cheaply but not a serious relationship. the annonymity of internet can make them be very obscene and direct towards sexual fantasies [Unnecessary remark removed by Mod via mobile phone.] Last edited by Brian; 03-06-2009 at 08:54 AM.

03-06-2009, 07:02 PM	#19 (permalink)
Kai Onca Save the RAINFOREST Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Wandering through the Mist of Time Posts: 966	I wouldn't be talking to guys like that in the first place. If the guy starts to ask too personal question/being crude and lewd within few minutes of the conversation then I'm done with that guy and I just move on.

03-06-2009, 08:17 PM	#20 (permalink)
Babyblue Registered User Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Florida Posts: 7,522	Like the OP said. Anyone can make crude remarks and hide behind the screen. It is almost as bad as Road Rage. (hiding behind the wheel of a vehicle) Comparing that to hiding behind a computer monitor is about the same. People often feel brave as my daughter says To talk SMACK...

03-12-2009, 03:28 PM	#21 (permalink)
ilcookieli Registered User Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 2	Some BOYS online are idiots! How do you expect to get respect from women if you are a pervert on the internet. These guys think there cool by asking these questions because they cant get any in the real world. When there behind a computer they feel safe because they are insecure in real life. I dont get it. I am a 24 year old and I dont ask people that, there is more important things to know about then if you masturbate. Why even ask? Everyone MASTURBATES! LOL.. anyway, thats my thoughts on it. Pictures are important though because you need to be physically attracted to the person you are speaking to. You can meet good guys online! You never tried me! email me and well talk! mattadika at gmail.com Last edited by ilcookieli; 03-12-2009 at 03:29 PM. Reason: adding something

03-16-2009, 03:33 PM	#29 (permalink)
BradB08 You can do anything Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Vermont Posts: 2,553 Blog Entries: 1	Yeah. I've met nothing but crazy psycho women on internet dating sites. Yikes. No more for me.

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