How Can I Trust Again My Boyfriend? He Cheats on me before...

I am really confused. I dont know what to think about my boyfriend.
He was my boyfriend for 1 year, He was a Muslim Guy. I called it quits when I found out that he is cheating on me. Though he said that he will leave the other one, coz he cant afford to loose me. Still I decided to let go. I say to myself that I cant trust him anymore, I know that if he cheat once he will cheat again. Plus the fact that he was a Muslim. Having alot of Girls in his life is not an Issue. THough the first time I met him I really thought he was different...But it happens and it just heart me alot...
Now, after a year he came back...And I accept him...Thinking and hoping that with that 1 year of separation, he will change. Coz he was really a nice guy. He said he does, and he was sorry for what he did, he said that it was his mistake to hurt me and will never do that again, he said that im good and even his friend tell him to never let me go again and they were happy that we got back together.
I want to start again and trust him but as time pass by I cant help myself but to think that he might do it again. I dont know if its my problem,though he assure me he will never do that again...Still I cant trust him with all heart.
I dont know what to do...
I dont know how to react...
I dont know what to say...
Im really confused!!!

A lot of us says - FORGET HIM. Some of us says - forgive him. Only you can judge the best for yourself. Trust your instinct and listen to it. If you feel he's going to cheat on you again, then forget him even though he's a nice guy. If he's a nice guy, then he wouldn't cheat on you, right? so.... only you know the best for yourself.

Trust me when I tell you this, he will do it again. In my experience I gave my ex boyfriend a second chance after he cheated on me, and guess what? He did it again. He kept begging me back, and I've told him it isn't love when you cheated Hun, so move on.

I dont know...

Sometimes I feel like I can trust him. But when I remember about the past...I cant stop myself to think that he might do it again. If your a guy, and you cheated once, will you cheat again??? Im 25 and he is 33, I went with him coz i think he is mature. But would you think that would be an issue as well?

Me Amore said:

Sometimes I feel like I can trust him. But when I remember about the past...I cant stop myself to think that he might do it again. If your a guy, and you cheated once, will you cheat again???

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Probably

Me Amore said:

Im 25 and he is 33, I went with him coz i think he is mature. But would you think that would be an issue as well?

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who knows?

Me Amore said:

Sometimes I feel like I can trust him. But when I remember about the past...I cant stop myself to think that he might do it again. If your a guy, and you cheated once, will you cheat again??? Im 25 and he is 33, I went with him coz i think he is mature. But would you think that would be an issue as well?

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Well, , if you really love him, then I guess he deserve a second chance, but if he does do it again, that means he doesn't respect your feelings or you. I am aware that every person is different, I can't compare my ex to your current one, that was wrong of me. Can I ask you a personal question, what was the reason of his cheating? did he cheat for the excitement or he cheat because of sexual desire or was he unhappy with you? or did he cheat cuz he has his weakness. Did he ever tell you why he cheated?

So that it...you just answer my question then.
GUys will always be guys...

Me Amore said:

So that it...you just answer my question then.
GUys will always be guys...

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do not listen to me. I'm nothing but a mischievous horny dog... Read Cheri's post and then decide for sure.

We'll the other gurl was his first then when he met me, he left the other gurl. But the ffriend of that gurl pursue him to get back with "that gurl". Out of shyness coz those are the friends of the gurl he then get back with that gurl. While his still with me. Then suddenly out of no were teh gurl fought with me thru a blog and saying somestuff that i dont understand, so i ask him, he said no...since i want to know the truth, i do reverse psych. And make his admit it. I want to hear it from his mouth and he said yes...its true. That very same moment I let him go..though he said he will never stop. I decided to cut my connection to him at all. He said he wants me back and he will leave that gurl for me. He wants me to decide for everything. But i decided to leave....

I see... way too much drama for my taste. For me - it's one-time deal. I hate drama stuff in relationship.

I notice you're from UAE..... I'm assuming you are a modern Muslim girl? like.... wearing "Western" clothes such as jeans and t-shirt.

Me Amore said:

We'll the other gurl was his first then when he met me, he left the other gurl. But the ffriend of that gurl pursue him to get back with "that gurl". Out of shyness coz those are the friends of the gurl he then get back with that gurl. While his still with me. Then suddenly out of no were teh gurl fought with me thru a blog and saying somestuff that i dont understand, so i ask him, he said no...since i want to know the truth, i do reverse psych. And make his admit it. I want to hear it from his mouth and he said yes...its true. That very same moment I let him go..though he said he will never stop. I decided to cut my connection to him at all. He said he wants me back and he will leave that gurl for me. He wants me to decide for everything. But i decided to leave....

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Let me try to understand you, You mean the other girl was his first love?

If he had left the other girl for you, and you for the other girl, he'll do it again. He doesn't understand how to committed with one person and love that one person. He's a heart breaker, I'll dump him if I were you.

Yes, Cheri. You gave excellent advice.

"Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."

Always remember this, Me Amore.

I'm sorry.. once a cheater, always cheater - he's just all talk just to get you back until he seriously proves himself to you. Please don't hurry back to be in a relationship with him. Make him work for it if you really do want him back. However there are other dudes out there. Give yourself a chance to find that perfect mate - you deserve a good man!!

Cheri's advice is a sound one, but then you have to ask yourself how well do you know him? and strangely I'd ask you this one, how well do you know yourself?
why i said that? is because like sometime you have to learn to be honest with yourself before you can really make good decisions especially when regarding close relationship with other people, in this case boyfriends (or girlfriends).

best of luck and cheers

oh, and i forgot to say, you may need time to settle and reflect, strangely (for me) te reflection clarify comes chasing me, not the other way around. Weird i know, but its like it suddenly get very clear when you least expects. So, just do what you normally do, get back to old routine for a while, maybe one month or two then you'd click. (but i know you'd be thinking but time is not on my side.....also i know a thing or two abtu muslims they believe to 'expect to make mistakes' in other words they know and they dont have a big hang up on 'making mistakes', unlike Catholics for instance.

Forget him! Find a right man!

Good luck!

i agree with cheri on that

cheater is always a cheater i know i have been dating a cheater never trust him BLAH!!!!!

i don't know about you and how you are feeling i am sure he is playing with your emotions like game.

I know everything about him,I know how bad n worst he could be and I accepted it.I'm not Muslim, I'm a Christian and religion for us was never an issue. We do open up a lot n talk about anything under the sun.I cud say we jive in alot of stuff. Sometimes think the same way which amazes me.never had a connection like that b4. I can be at my worst and still he appreciate me. I was thinking that it could be there nature coz his a Muslim. Allowed to have many.I know about that but when he assure me of his honesty still I can't trust him. I know what is right n what I should do but I'm still hoping he will change not for me but for himself. I told him that.

Me Amore said:

I know everything about him,I know how bad n worst he could be and I accepted it.I'm not Muslim, I'm a Christian and religion for us was never an issue. We do open up a lot n talk about anything under the sun.I cud say we jive in alot of stuff. Sometimes think the same way which amazes me.never had a connection like that b4. I can be at my worst and still he appreciate me. I was thinking that it could be there nature coz his a Muslim. Allowed to have many.I know about that but when he assure me of his honesty still I can't trust him. I know what is right n what I should do but I'm still hoping he will change not for me but for himself. I told him that.

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I don't think it is because he's a Muslim, because in their religion of Islam, cheating is a forbidden. I believe that he doesn't know how to committed to one person; I think he has his weakness, he wants to be loved by many women, from the looks of it.

Thanks guys for liking my advice.