Stick with your own kind? or Mix it up!

Jiro · 07-04-2008, 08:49 AM

Stick with your own kind? or Mix it up!

I know there was a thread about Interracial Date but that was about dating. This thread is about your marriage preference.

Would you marry someone of same race/color/nationality or you don't care aka "MIX IT UP" ? Be honest! Mind you - it is OK to say that you rather stick with your own kind. That does NOT mean you're racist - it's just a personal preference and that is perfectly understandable! BE HONEST and PICK ONE - same or MIX! and then tell us what nationality you prefer to marry.

Jiro · 07-04-2008, 08:50 AM

I'll start - Although I am 100% Korean... I feel out so out of place with my own kind and for some odd reason - I have a thing for Chinese women. I prefer to marry an Asian - especially Chinese

shel90 · 07-04-2008, 08:52 AM

my situation is kinda interesting...

I am Cacausain of an European mix so simply put, I am white. My first hubby was born in Mexico and my 2nd hubby is American black.

My daughter is half white and half Spanish while my son is half white and half black. LOL!

My friends tease me that if I marry again, marry an Asian.

Jiro · 07-04-2008, 08:54 AM

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Originally Posted by shel90

my situation is kinda interesting...

I am Cacausain of an European mix so simply put, I am white. My first hubby was born in Mexico and my 2nd hubby is American black.

My daughter is half white and half Spanish while my son is half white and half black. LOL!

My friends tease me that if I marry again, marry an Asian.

shel90 · 07-04-2008, 08:56 AM

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Originally Posted by jiro123

LOLOL!!!!!

JClarke · 07-04-2008, 10:20 AM

Personally, I perfer to be at the same nationally, but no offense - I'm bristish Cacausain

CrzyMeg · 07-04-2008, 10:33 AM

Well, I am techically mixed even though I was white. I probably say mix it up.

Bottesini · 07-04-2008, 10:59 AM

I have already been married 30 years and my husband and I are both Caucasian so I guess that must have been my preference. But I didn't know anyone of another race at that time. Iowa is noted for a lack of diversity.
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Byrdie714 · 07-04-2008, 11:01 AM

I would marry an American.

highlands · 07-04-2008, 11:18 AM

My love (hopefully future wife ) and I are both caucasian but we are from very different nationalities ..does this count same or mix ?

Pepsi · 07-04-2008, 12:01 PM

I am white I rather stick to my own kind.(American)

shel90 · 07-04-2008, 01:05 PM

Insteresting comments..but I have a question for u all. Suppose you befriend someone from a different nationality and you become close to them leading to both of you developing deeper feelings for each other. Would you deny your strong feelings just because the other person is of a different race?

The reason I asked was cuz I fell in love with my hubby after 3 years of being very close friends. Of course, I would never tell him.."Yes, I am in love with you but I wont date nor marry you cuz your race is different from mine."

No, I didnt seek out to marry men from a different race..nature took its course with me falling in love with them and them doing the same. My ex hubby grew up knowing he would marry another Mexican because his family didnt believe in mixing it up but unexpectly, he fell in love with me.

I never grew up thinking I would not "mix it" up. I guess it never mattered to me as long as the other person and I are right for each other.

jillio · 07-04-2008, 01:10 PM

My ethnicity is already so mixed up that sticking with my own kind is a rather broad concept!

Bottesini · 07-04-2008, 01:11 PM

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Originally Posted by shel90

Insteresting comments..but I have a question for u all. Suppose you befriend someone from a different nationality and you become close to them leading to both of you developing deeper feelings for each other. Would you deny your strong feelings just because the other person is of a different race.

The reason I asked was cuz I fell in love with my hubby after 3 years of being very close friends. Of course, I would never tell him.."Yes, I am in love with you but I wont date nor marry you cuz your race is different from mine."

No, I didnt seek out to marry men from a different race..nature took its course with me falling in love with them and them doing the same. My ex hubby grew up knowing he would marry another Mexican because his family didnt believe in mixing it up but unexpectly, he fell in love with me.

I never grew up thinking I would not "mix it" up. I guess it never mattered to me as long as the other person and I are right for each other.

That is an interesting question. I think I would have no problem with marrying someone different. But it is hard to know if one is not presented with the opportunity.

jillio · 07-04-2008, 01:12 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by shel90

Insteresting comments..but I have a question for u all. Suppose you befriend someone from a different nationality and you become close to them leading to both of you developing deeper feelings for each other. Would you deny your strong feelings just because the other person is of a different race?

The reason I asked was cuz I fell in love with my hubby after 3 years of being very close friends. Of course, I would never tell him.."Yes, I am in love with you but I wont date nor marry you cuz your race is different from mine."

No, I didnt seek out to marry men from a different race..nature took its course with me falling in love with them and them doing the same. My ex hubby grew up knowing he would marry another Mexican because his family didnt believe in mixing it up but unexpectly, he fell in love with me.

I never grew up thinking I would not "mix it" up. I guess it never mattered to me as long as the other person and I are right for each other.

One of the reasons that so many relationships fail is because people are too busy looking at what's on the outside of a person when they should be looking at what's on the inside!

shel90 · 07-04-2008, 01:18 PM

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Originally Posted by jillio

One of the reasons that so many relationships fail is because people are too busy looking at what's on the outside of a person when they should be looking at what's on the inside!

Exactly..one of the biggest factors for my first marriage failing was that my ex hubby, despite falling in love with someone outside of his race, expected me to adopt his cultural traditions of the women being submissive to men. That wasnt who I was...

moonflower · 07-04-2008, 03:03 PM

i am white american with different nationalities but can be white but with different nationalities no plm

CrzyMeg · 07-04-2008, 03:05 PM

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Originally Posted by moonflower

i am white american with different nationalities but can be white but with different nationalities no plm

Same here.

SCBassist · 07-04-2008, 03:16 PM

I am half white/half hispanic, the racial makeup of who I meet does not matter at all, although what I look for is similar experience backgrounds. (Like someone who likes a broad range of music, not just rap/r&b, open minded, etc)

Tousi · 07-04-2008, 03:21 PM

[quote=Bottesini;1026588]I have already been married 30 years and my husband and I are both Caucasian so I guess that must have been my preference. But I didn't know anyone of another race at that time. Iowa is noted for a lack of diversity.

Hehe, Botti; the Iowan corn's so tall, you couldn't see the rest of the world!

Everlucent · 07-04-2008, 03:46 PM

Texas women are just plain mean. Give me a sweet little asian who would rather kill me in my sleep then run over me with my own truck.

Bottesini · 07-04-2008, 04:01 PM

[quote=Tousi;1026758]

Quote:

Originally Posted by Bottesini

I have already been married 30 years and my husband and I are both Caucasian so I guess that must have been my preference. But I didn't know anyone of another race at that time. Iowa is noted for a lack of diversity.

Hehe, Botti; the Iowan corn's so tall, you couldn't see the rest of the world!

Funny, in a sadly true kind of way!

CrzyMeg · 07-04-2008, 05:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Everlucent

Texas women are just plain mean. Give me a sweet little asian who would rather kill me in my sleep then run over me with my own truck.

Good thing that I am not Texas woman. hehehe. Lucky me California gal.

violet · 07-04-2008, 10:46 PM

Since i was a kid i always dreamed of marrying someone mexican...but wasnt really attracted to them i was always attracted to asians..... but kept thinking I HAD TO MARRY MY OWN KIND....but what do you know...im gonna marry a filipino

Maria · 07-05-2008, 01:19 AM

Very interesting thread ! As for me, all my past relationships were cacausian with different nationalities. All of them had hazel eyes....never been w/ blue or brown eyes before. And, now this time my new boyfriend has brown eyes w/ long brown hair. He's taller than all my past relationships . We will meet in person for the 1st time in a couple weeks.

Soo.. I guess, I am for cacausian w/ different nationalities.

***VamPyroX*** · 07-05-2008, 01:37 AM

I don't have any preference... as long as we get along well.

I did have a thing for a Middle Eastern woman, an African American woman, a Chinese woman, an Indian (not Native Indian) woman, and a Hispanic woman.

Jiro · 07-05-2008, 01:43 AM

I have heard a few interesting comments from friends and people. My black friend has never dated a black girl - just mostly "light" skin color such as white, asian, etc.... because he felt "diminished" when being seen with a black girlfriend in public. Dating someone of lighter skin color raises one's status. I thought I find it interesting - a sociological issue.

one may prefer to date same kind for the sake of "similarity and simplicity." For ie - you do not have to worry about certain issues such as religious belief, views, etc - that means less conflicts between each other when raising children.

great responses, guys & gals!! I thought this thread would give us a deeper thought about our life and preference when it comes to marrying one even though we are unconsciously "non-racist"

07-04-2008, 08:49 AM	#1 (permalink)
Jiro YOU DOMESTIC DISSENT! Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: NJ Posts: 7,358	Stick with your own kind? or Mix it up! Stick with your own kind? or Mix it up! I know there was a thread about Interracial Date but that was about dating. This thread is about your marriage preference. Would you marry someone of same race/color/nationality or you don't care aka "MIX IT UP" ? Be honest! Mind you - it is OK to say that you rather stick with your own kind. That does NOT mean you're racist - it's just a personal preference and that is perfectly understandable! BE HONEST and PICK ONE - same or MIX! and then tell us what nationality you prefer to marry.

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shel90 Sun Whorshipper Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: A Desert Rat that has found herself in Maryland Posts: 16,119 Blog Entries: 1	my situation is kinda interesting... I am Cacausain of an European mix so simply put, I am white. My first hubby was born in Mexico and my 2nd hubby is American black. My daughter is half white and half Spanish while my son is half white and half black. LOL! My friends tease me that if I marry again, marry an Asian. __________________ ~Shel~ "A child educated only at school is an uneducated child." -George Santayana

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07-04-2008, 08:50 AM	#2 (permalink)
Jiro YOU DOMESTIC DISSENT! Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: NJ Posts: 7,358	I'll start - Although I am 100% Korean... I feel out so out of place with my own kind and for some odd reason - I have a thing for Chinese women. I prefer to marry an Asian - especially Chinese

07-04-2008, 11:01 AM	#9 (permalink)
Byrdie714 Registered User Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Pacific County, Washington Posts: 5,116	I would marry an American.

07-04-2008, 11:18 AM	#10 (permalink)
highlands In Love & Happy Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: in an inland city Posts: 4,168	My love (hopefully future wife ) and I are both caucasian but we are from very different nationalities ..does this count same or mix ? __________________

07-04-2008, 12:01 PM	#11 (permalink)
Pepsi The One and Only Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: USA Posts: 3,406	I am white I rather stick to my own kind.(American)

07-04-2008, 01:05 PM	#12 (permalink)
shel90 Sun Whorshipper Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: A Desert Rat that has found herself in Maryland Posts: 16,119 Blog Entries: 1	Insteresting comments..but I have a question for u all. Suppose you befriend someone from a different nationality and you become close to them leading to both of you developing deeper feelings for each other. Would you deny your strong feelings just because the other person is of a different race? The reason I asked was cuz I fell in love with my hubby after 3 years of being very close friends. Of course, I would never tell him.."Yes, I am in love with you but I wont date nor marry you cuz your race is different from mine." No, I didnt seek out to marry men from a different race..nature took its course with me falling in love with them and them doing the same. My ex hubby grew up knowing he would marry another Mexican because his family didnt believe in mixing it up but unexpectly, he fell in love with me. I never grew up thinking I would not "mix it" up. I guess it never mattered to me as long as the other person and I are right for each other. __________________ ~Shel~ "A child educated only at school is an uneducated child." -George Santayana

07-04-2008, 01:10 PM	#13 (permalink)
jillio Banned Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,197	My ethnicity is already so mixed up that sticking with my own kind is a rather broad concept!

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07-04-2008, 03:16 PM	#19 (permalink)
SCBassist ...And your point is? Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Spartanburg, SC Posts: 885	I am half white/half hispanic, the racial makeup of who I meet does not matter at all, although what I look for is similar experience backgrounds. (Like someone who likes a broad range of music, not just rap/r&b, open minded, etc) __________________ Complaints Division Here

07-04-2008, 03:21 PM	#20 (permalink)
Tousi Registered User Join Date: Apr 2003 Posts: 8,240	[quote=Bottesini;1026588]I have already been married 30 years and my husband and I are both Caucasian so I guess that must have been my preference. But I didn't know anyone of another race at that time. Iowa is noted for a lack of diversity. Hehe, Botti; the Iowan corn's so tall, you couldn't see the rest of the world!

07-04-2008, 03:46 PM	#21 (permalink)
Everlucent Registered User Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 64	Texas women are just plain mean. Give me a sweet little asian who would rather kill me in my sleep then run over me with my own truck. __________________

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violet Registered User Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Austin Tx Posts: 807	Since i was a kid i always dreamed of marrying someone mexican...but wasnt really attracted to them i was always attracted to asians..... but kept thinking I HAD TO MARRY MY OWN KIND....but what do you know...im gonna marry a filipino __________________ made by avwdng29

07-05-2008, 01:19 AM	#25 (permalink)
Maria My love and I Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: FLORIDA Posts: 8,725	Very interesting thread ! As for me, all my past relationships were cacausian with different nationalities. All of them had hazel eyes....never been w/ blue or brown eyes before. And, now this time my new boyfriend has brown eyes w/ long brown hair. He's taller than all my past relationships . We will meet in person for the 1st time in a couple weeks. Soo.. I guess, I am for cacausian w/ different nationalities.

07-05-2008, 01:37 AM	#26 (permalink)
*VamPyroX* bloody phreak from hell Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Hell Posts: 27,844	I don't have any preference... as long as we get along well. I did have a thing for a Middle Eastern woman, an African American woman, a Chinese woman, an Indian (not Native Indian) woman, and a Hispanic woman. __________________ Check out my city... CLICK HERE! (If you already visited yesterday, visit again today!)

07-05-2008, 01:43 AM	#27 (permalink)
Jiro YOU DOMESTIC DISSENT! Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: NJ Posts: 7,358	I have heard a few interesting comments from friends and people. My black friend has never dated a black girl - just mostly "light" skin color such as white, asian, etc.... because he felt "diminished" when being seen with a black girlfriend in public. Dating someone of lighter skin color raises one's status. I thought I find it interesting - a sociological issue. one may prefer to date same kind for the sake of "similarity and simplicity." For ie - you do not have to worry about certain issues such as religious belief, views, etc - that means less conflicts between each other when raising children. great responses, guys & gals!! I thought this thread would give us a deeper thought about our life and preference when it comes to marrying one even though we are unconsciously "non-racist"