Why are some happy and some miserable ?

Think about concept of teaching cats to clap. Some cats won't understand why they need to clap and will bite with no regret. Other cats would make a fun game out of it.

Yes, I know that it can be scary for people who have never be bitten by cats. They're often unprepared. Other people who have experienced being bitten by cats can laugh it off.

We need to make the best of bad situations because cats have their own minds and won't apologize for biting people.

Yes!! You right on in your answer.

In life there exists two kinds of people: the happy and the unhappy. We come across each type of person everyday. There are the miserable people, who are always complaining about anything and everything, while on the other side we have the optimistic people who always look at the glass as half full and are constantly seeking more out of life.

A sense of purpose is what drives happy people and intimidates unhappy people. Life can either be something you embrace or something you hide from. Unfortunately, there are not as many happy people in the world as we would like, and thus, we have negative energy cast upon us on a daily basis.

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dereksbicycles said:

Think about concept of teaching cats to clap. Some cats won't understand why they need to clap and will bite with no regret. Other cats would make a fun game out of it.

Yes, I know that it can be scary for people who have never be bitten by cats. They're often unprepared. Other people who have experienced being bitten by cats can laugh it off.

We need to make the best of bad situations because cats have their own minds and won't apologize for biting people.

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Please don't stop talking about teaching cats to clap , I love to read them.

Be happy its for your health

The results showed that happier people maintained better physical function as they aged, even when the researchers accounted for confounding factors such as age, healthier lifestyle and economic situation.
The unhappiest people in the study were about 80 percent more likely to develop impairments in daily functions, compared with the happiest, according to the study published today (Jan. 20) in the Canadian Medical Association Journal.
The researchers also found that happier people's walking speed declines at a slower rate than those who enjoy life less," said Andrew Steptoe, director of Institute of Epidemiology and Health Care at University College London.
"This is not because the happier people are in better health, or younger, or richer, or have more healthy lifestyles at the outset, since even when we take these factors into account, the relationship persists," Steptoe said.
The results also showed that the study participants with higher economic status and education, and married and working, had higher levels of wellbeing.
As expected, poor health was linked to lower levels of happiness: People with chronic illnesses such as heart disease, diabetes, arthritis, stroke and depression reported lower levels of enjoyment of life.
Researchers had previously shown that older people with greater enjoyment of life are more likely to survive over the next eight years, Steptoe said. The new findings show that "they also keep up better physical function," he said.
The study cannot confirm a cause-and-effect relationship between happiness and health, but adds to the evidence that enjoyment of life is relevant to the future disability and mobility of older people, according to the researchers.
"Efforts to enhance well-being at older ages may have benefits to society and health care systems," the researchers said.

Technology and age doesn't have anything to do with patience/happiness or lack thereof.

One relative of mine can be impatient at times (but she is an overall happy person)- she gets antsy when people take too long when it's time to go somewhere lol. Technology does drive her nuts though.

However I do know of younger people who are patient and happy. My middle niece is one of 'em. She doesn't fit the apparently new "perception" of teenagers/young adults today. Yes she uses social media, smartphones/iphones, computers but she uses the social media A LOT less than most teens I've come across (and some adults!) and doesn't use it as a stream of consciousness diary. Nephew.. wait a few years yet lol.

I use to bring my last dog the beach to run and I saw a woman walking alone looking very unhappy all the time . I tried to say "Hi" to her a few times. The woman finally said " Hi "back one day and told me that poodles where her husband favorite dog and that he was a vet. I asked around about the vet and heard good things and took my dog there. I was talking to the woman that worked front desk about the photo of the handsome young man and she told that was the vet's son and he had committed suicide recently. The woman I saw walking on the beach all the time was grieving the lost of her son and not a miserable person . And to made this story sadder her husband started to get horrible headaches and he dies of a brain tumor a few months later. So before you start judging people for being miserable all the time , get some facts first. I never thought the woman walking alone was miserable , I saw a very sad person . And losing her son and husband so close together was heartbreaking .

Exactly right, whatdidyousay! Never judge the person whether the person is happy or miserable.

For me, you were judging me as a miserable person, I presume. I just don't like people to put Deaf people, even Hard Of Hearing down every time the hearing people want us to change to being like the hearing people. I could not fathom why hearing people won't accept us to be the way we are.

For the late deafened, they can adapted and get use to it but if they are profoundly deaf, then they can get CI on their own. As for the babies and adults who were born deaf or late deafened when they are still children, they have a right to make the decision without their parents making the decisions for them. The hearing parents and the doctors have no right to do that to the children and adult as that is the children's and adults' bodies (brains or non-threatening healthy body). The parents and the doctors should ask the children and the adults if they want to go through surgery as surgery is always a risk. If something happen like in a car accident or got hurt very badly, then that is a emergency. Having a CI for the deaf is not a big deal. It is better to use the hearing aid because you never know it will not work and you can change another aid. With CI, there is no way to take the CI devices out, if that is not going to work. The child or adult will have to go through another surgery to get the device remove and that cost the insurance lots of money for another surgery. Surgery is no good if there is non threatening on your life. It is not emergency if the hearing parents and doctors want them to have CI. That is what make me upset about that. It is none of your business to interfere with making the advertise about it.

As for being a Elder, I know what I am talking about. I can be miserable or happy no matter. I can not be happy all the time but I sure would enjoy my life here on Mother Earth. I also have trouble being tug between the white perspective and the Native perspective along with my Deaf perspective (I have three all inside of me). I was taught in the white mainstream school. If I had been hearing, I would have gone into the Mission school for Native children back when I was a child in Central Minnesota.

So don't judge us for who we are. You have to ask them (children) first, not force them to do what the white or the hearing people want for themselves (white and hearing people). Show respect that we are just different than you or any one who think that they are more normal than us. I don't believe that as normal people have flaws too. Pffft.

A great Chiefs prayer for all



Oh, Great Spirit, whose voice I hear in the wind,
Whose breath gives life to all the world.
Hear me; I need your strength and wisdom.
Let me walk in beauty,
and make my eyes ever behold the red and purple sunset.
Make my hands respect the things you have made
and my ears sharp to hear your voice
Make me wise so that I may understand
the things you have taught my people.
Help me to remain calm and strong
in the face of all that comes towards me.
Let me learn the lessons you have hidden in every leaf and rock.
Help me seek pure thoughts and act with the intention of helping others.
Help me find compassion without empathy overwhelming me.
I seek strength, not to be greater than my brother,
but to fight my greatest enemy
- Myself (My fears and my doubts).
Make me always ready to come to you with clean hands and straight eyes.
So when life fades, as the fading sunset,
my spirit may come to you without shame.

People often worry about what people would think of them if they get bitten by cats. Please don't be scared. About everyone who I come in contact have been bitten by cats. They survive and are able to share their experiences of what it's like being bitten by cats. Cats want us to play chess. Cats are making us guessing on when they would bite next. It's up to us to step up to the plate. We need to be prepared the next time we get bitten by cats.

I live near the beach and see many people walking up and down either deep contemplation happy or just deceitful cos letting dogs poop not cleaning up..see many benches in memory of the person who got joy sitting there.Sitting or walking down beach you see all kinds of human emotions...if they looking out to sea and crying then I walk on by as they obviously want peace and thoughts to themselves,otherwise I say good morning smile and that often puts you in good spirts

Bebonang said:

Exactly right, whatdidyousay! Never judge the person whether the person is happy or miserable.

For me, you were judging me as a miserable person, I presume. I just don't like people to put Deaf people, even Hard Of Hearing down every time the hearing people want us to change to being like the hearing people. I could not fathom why hearing people won't accept us to be the way we are.

For the late deafened, they can adapted and get use to it but if they are profoundly deaf, then they can get CI on their own. As for the babies and adults who were born deaf or late deafened when they are still children, they have a right to make the decision without their parents making the decisions for them. The hearing parents and the doctors have no right to do that to the children and adult as that is the children's and adults' bodies (brains or non-threatening healthy body). The parents and the doctors should ask the children and the adults if they want to go through surgery as surgery is always a risk. If something happen like in a car accident or got hurt very badly, then that is a emergency. Having a CI for the deaf is not a big deal. It is better to use the hearing aid because you never know it will not work and you can change another aid. With CI, there is no way to take the CI devices out, if that is not going to work. The child or adult will have to go through another surgery to get the device remove and that cost the insurance lots of money for another surgery. Surgery is no good if there is non threatening on your life. It is not emergency if the hearing parents and doctors want them to have CI. That is what make me upset about that. It is none of your business to interfere with making the advertise about it.

As for being a Elder, I know what I am talking about. I can be miserable or happy no matter. I can not be happy all the time but I sure would enjoy my life here on Mother Earth. I also have trouble being tug between the white perspective and the Native perspective along with my Deaf perspective (I have three all inside of me). I was taught in the white mainstream school. If I had been hearing, I would have gone into the Mission school for Native children back when I was a child in Central Minnesota.

So don't judge us for who we are. You have to ask them (children) first, not force them to do what the white or the hearing people want for themselves (white and hearing people). Show respect that we are just different than you or any one who think that they are more normal than us. I don't believe that as normal people have flaws too. Pffft.

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I am not sure what you mean about me judging you . I have a photo of a beautiful Native American family hanging on my living room wall. I had some repairmen in my house once and one of the guy made a wiseass remark
about the photo and said " Is that your grandparent!" I told the jerk,
" I would be proud to have them for my grandparent!" And the guy just shut after that. It had to been very difficult growing and being told your culture as a Native American was not acceptable then on top on that be told you had to talk like a 'hearing ' person too. I am Jewish and people where not happy when they heard 'Jews' starting to move into their neighborhood.
I did not get a Star of David from my mother until after my dad dies . Do you know that some people believe that Native American and Jewish are from the same tribe? This could explain why I always felt a close ties to Native American . I think you're a very strong woman to had overcome what you been through .

i think we all put ourselves into groups it part of the human condition...couple of books or writers that may find intresting......SYLVIA plath, ted hughes, Philip larkin then a book called STREET CAT CALLED BOB forgot the authors name... these writers and poets expose the vunerlable and fragile (victim) then strong undefeated winner(bully)the last book is simple humour poingent and it true story of down and out drug crazed young man beyond help and simple ginger cat put life's misery in perspective..

whatdidyousay! said:

I am not sure what you mean about me judging you . I have a photo of a beautiful Native American family hanging on my living room wall. I had some repairmen in my house once and one of the guy made a wiseass remark
about the photo and said " Is that your grandparent!" I told the jerk,
" I would be proud to have them for my grandparent!" And the guy just shut after that. It had to been very difficult growing and being told your culture as a Native American was not acceptable then on top on that be told you had to talk like a 'hearing ' person too. I am Jewish and people where not happy when they heard 'Jews' starting to move into their neighborhood.
I did not get a Star of David from my mother until after my dad dies . Do you know that some people believe that Native American and Jewish are from the same tribe? This could explain why I always felt a close ties to Native American . I think you're a very strong woman to had overcome what you been through .

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That was for Trainman in previous posts and this. It is not you. So I had to express my feelings on the subjects of being happy or not happy.

As for the Native American family in the photo, it is romantic (meaning how beautiful that is) to your view of what Native American Culture is. Our Culture are rich and beautiful which is true but in our family life, not always the case. There are some disagreements in our life. When the hearing children were returned to their own families, they get rejected because they could not speak their language and be able to dress like them. The children had changed. That is why there were children who committed suicide because they could not bring their own identity back again. They are stuck after they learned the white man's way. There are some Native children that can be save and go back to their traditional way but still look upon for modern technologies which they adopted to make communication.

The Elders had been trying to help them going straight and be in their Native culture but often time they refused to listen to our Elders, even me. We do want the education to read and write but to change as a white person instead of Native or Indian. The White teachers don't understand what we were talking about. We want to keep our Culture intact but still want to learn how to read and write only, I think. If they are interest in becoming a doctor or lawyer or any other career, then that is their choice. This is why we have reservation and First Nation to help us keep our Native Culture with our Native language. But it has not been easy on the reservation or First Nation because of the conflicts among us over what we had suffered. So the Band offices (Native office) will try to find jobs for them. Some can manage to find jobs outside of the reservation and First Nation. Life is hard when there were two clashes between the whites and the Natives because of the demand to expect the Natives to do what the Whites want them to do so that the Whites don't have to work on their languages and the way they dresses as a "savages". Whites have been very cruel to us. We were sad and disappointed at them.

So now you see what I have to go through being deaf and the teachers expect us to do what they want us to do their thing instead of our thing to get the accommodations. The hearing teachers, even the hearing principals refused to listen to our needs as a d/Deaf and hard of hearing children. We suffered also from this treatment making us go oral only method. Don't you see what the white society is doing to us? They don't want to learn sign language or adapt to us being as d/Deaf or Hard Of Hearing people. They want us to be like them all the way same like most Native children who had to go their ways instead of our ways. That is what make me mad so much. They just hurt me by treating me like that. I am not my own person (I felt trap), but their way of becoming the person they want. They never listened to our needs at all. We are born like that. Accept the way we are, not change the way they want. Geeze.

Westernization is a strange business. It makes us all pawns in a bigger game. Their game. Whoever they is they got us. I have always rebelled but it makes no difference.

It started long before we came along. I see the good in it but I see the bad in it too. Either way it is up to individuals to save what they can. Bebonang said it right when she said why can't they just let us be. That applies in so many ways.

My childhood was very traumatic....so were parts of my adulthood....and as I became older...many things that were buried deep in my mind came out just like clarity....Took me a while to realize that Happiness is not something you search for and can't seem to find....It's something you create in your mind....

I learned to distance myself from those who drug me down and made me feel unhappy/unwanted and "different"........Making my own happy memories....making "my own family.." is what I have and cherish.

It's normal to feel depressed at times....No one is expected to be happy-go-lucky all the time...people like that are phony....

Thank you all for your input



This is for Bebonang:

You have been wronged about 60 years ago and I can understand you what you are saying.
I live close by the native village and have a lot native friends in fact some are my neighbors.

They are very happy living in the community with white folks, together they make a happy community so we have had heard your story .

They tell me a different story how they grew up and I know there children too. Things are different then 60 years ago.

Some wish to live on the resv or they can can live elsewhere just like the white people.

They are the ojibway people.

Take it easy Bebonang you are a nice person i'm sure so let it go and I am happy for you to speak your mind.

Its a free country and that freedom was paid by those that fought in wars by all native and white people and others .

Trainman

I think we have some control on whether we are happy or not. There is situations that just really are messed up. And its ok to be sad for a time but must learn to be happy once more. It can be very hard at times and even look impossible...but it is if we try. Might take a while but we can be happy.

This says it all (I think?)

Too many people put off something that brings them joy just because they haven't thought about it, don't have it on their schedule, didn't know it was coming or are too rigid to depart from their routine.



I got to thinking one day about all those people on the Titanic who passed up dessert at dinner that fateful night in an effort to cut back. From then on, I've tried to be a little more flexible.




How many women out there will eat at home because their husband didn't suggest going out to dinner until after something had been thawed? Does the word 'refrigeration' mean nothing to you?




How often have your kids dropped in to talk and sat in silence while you watched ' Jeopardy ' on television?




I cannot count the times I called my sister and said , 'How about going to lunch in a half hour?' She would gas up and stammer, 'I can't. I have clothes on the line. My hair is dirty. I wish I had known yesterday, I had a late breakfast, It looks like rain' And my personal favorite: 'It's Monday.' She died a few days ago. We never did have lunch together.




Because we cram so much into our lives, we tend to schedule our headaches.. We live on a sparse diet of promises we make to ourselves when all the conditions are perfect!




We'll go back and visit the grandparents when we get Steve toilet-trained. We'll entertain when we replace the living-room carpet. We'll go on a second honeymoon when we get two more kids out of college.




Life has a way of accelerating as we get older. The days get shorter, and the list of promises to ourselves gets longer. One morning, we awaken, and all we have to show for our lives is a litany of 'I'm going to,' 'I plan on,' and 'Someday, when things are settled down a bit.'




When anyone calls my 'seize the moment' friend, she is open to adventure and available for trips. She keeps an open mind on new ideas. Her enthusiasm for life is contagious. You talk with her for five minutes, and you're ready to trade your bad feet for a pair of Rollerblades and skip an elevator for a bungee cord.




My lips have not touched ice cream in 10 years. I love ice cream. It's just that I might as well apply it directly to my stomach with a spatula and eliminate the digestive process. The other day, I stopped the car and bought a triple-decker. If my car had hit an iceberg on the way home, I would have died happy.




Now....go on and have a nice day. Do something you WANT to...not something on your SHOULD DO list. If you were going to die soon and had only one phone call you could make, who would you call and what would you say? And why are you waiting? I had a friend from high school that I was always going to call and never did. The other day her name was in the obituaries so we never had that chat.



Make sure you read this to the end; you will understand why I sent this to you.




Have you ever watched kids playing on a merry go round or listened to the rain lapping on the ground? Ever followed a butterfly's erratic flight or gazed at the sun into the fading night? Do you run through each day on the fly? When you ask, 'How are you?' Do you hear the reply?




When the day is done, do you lie in your bed with the next hundred chores running through your head? Ever told your child, 'We'll do it tomorrow.' and in your haste, not see his sorrow? Ever lost touch? Let a good friendship die? Just call to say 'Hi'?




When you worry and hurry through your day, it is like an unopened gift....Thrown away.... Life is not a race. Take it slower. Hear the music before the song is over.