Cheating Boyfriend wants me back
Writing by Laura
She dated a man 2 years ago who admitted to me that he was seeing another woman, after we had become intimate and agreed to be exlcusive.
Since then, in between women "friends" he has written her e mails and told me he cannot forget me, I have told him that I could never go back to him because of trust issues I would have. He is 71 years old!!! a widower and is always looking for the next opportunity with a woman. I finally used reverse psychology on him and told him if he wanted to come back to me he would have to earn my trust. He made all kinds of excuses why it would not work!!! I think he just was wanting to see if I would come back to him and pick up where we left off. Told him this was impossible. He forever altered our relationship when he cheated. I sent him this e mail from a friend of mine and her slant on the whole thing...
I don't think cheating is about anyone other than the person doing it. It speaks volumes about their integrity. So the real question is, not will he cheat again, but are you prepared to be with a man who is capable of it, due to his lack of integrity? We choose to allow ourselves to be hurt or not, but a cheater lives with the reality that he's hurt someone who trusted them whether they discover the truth or not. So, cheaters really cheat themselves and compromise their self-respect. Would he be willing to work on that?
Since this e mail...I haven't heard a word from him. I am finally feeling that he will not contact me anymore because he really would not want to "work" on the trust issue...it is beneath him. What do you think of a guy like this? I am 62 years old and attractive and young looking for my age...and everytime he sees my profile on a dating site...he writes to me and keeps asking me to come back to him. Even has done this while I was dating someone for a long period of time. I don't know what to make of him except that he is like a kid in a candy store...doesn't know what to touch first!!! I am looking for the "real deal" when it comes to a long term partner. It seems that even the older men do not know what they want...it is most discouraging to say the least.
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I doubt this guy is going to do much changing, and I think he's just looking for some intimacy from her while he continues to play the field. Why is he still perusing dating sites when he can contact her directly? I dated a marriage man few months ago who admitted to me that he is still with his wife, after we had become intimate and agreed to be exlcusive.
Since then, in between women "friends" he has written me e mails and told me he cannot forget me, I have told him that I could never go back to him because of trust issues I would have. Also, the communication barrier effect us misunderstand. He is worthless ! Since this e mail...I havn't heard a word from him. I am finally feeling that he will not contact me anymore because he really would not want to "work" on the trust issue...it is beneath him.
Otherwise, I prefer to dating with Deaf men more fun and communication better. As long as he respect my wishes because I am not ready for long term relationship.
Writing by Laura
She dated a man 2 years ago who admitted to me that he was seeing another woman, after we had become intimate and agreed to be exlcusive.
Since then, in between women "friends" he has written her e mails and told me he cannot forget me, I have told him that I could never go back to him because of trust issues I would have. He is 71 years old!!! a widower and is always looking for the next opportunity with a woman. I finally used reverse psychology on him and told him if he wanted to come back to me he would have to earn my trust. He made all kinds of excuses why it would not work!!! I think he just was wanting to see if I would come back to him and pick up where we left off. Told him this was impossible. He forever altered our relationship when he cheated. I sent him this e mail from a friend of mine and her slant on the whole thing...
I don't think cheating is about anyone other than the person doing it. It speaks volumes about their integrity. So the real question is, not will he cheat again, but are you prepared to be with a man who is capable of it, due to his lack of integrity? We choose to allow ourselves to be hurt or not, but a cheater lives with the reality that he's hurt someone who trusted them whether they discover the truth or not. So, cheaters really cheat themselves and compromise their self-respect. Would he be willing to work on that?
Since this e mail...I haven't heard a word from him. I am finally feeling that he will not contact me anymore because he really would not want to "work" on the trust issue...it is beneath him. What do you think of a guy like this? I am 62 years old and attractive and young looking for my age...and everytime he sees my profile on a dating site...he writes to me and keeps asking me to come back to him. Even has done this while I was dating someone for a long period of time. I don't know what to make of him except that he is like a kid in a candy store...doesn't know what to touch first!!! I am looking for the "real deal" when it comes to a long term partner. It seems that even the older men do not know what they want...it is most discouraging to say the least.
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I doubt this guy is going to do much changing, and I think he's just looking for some intimacy from her while he continues to play the field. Why is he still perusing dating sites when he can contact her directly? I dated a marriage man few months ago who admitted to me that he is still with his wife, after we had become intimate and agreed to be exlcusive.
Since then, in between women "friends" he has written me e mails and told me he cannot forget me, I have told him that I could never go back to him because of trust issues I would have. Also, the communication barrier effect us misunderstand. He is worthless ! Since this e mail...I havn't heard a word from him. I am finally feeling that he will not contact me anymore because he really would not want to "work" on the trust issue...it is beneath him.
Otherwise, I prefer to dating with Deaf men more fun and communication better. As long as he respect my wishes because I am not ready for long term relationship.