Had a friend that sort of felt the same way you do....She stayed home all the time..I told her she had to get out there if she wanted to find someone....guys are not gonna be knocking on ur door if they don't know ur there!.....
You have to get out there, make urself visible...join clubs, art galleries...whatever floats ur boat. There are many singles everywhere, all ages looking for a mate. The only other word I can give, is don't lower ur standards when looking for a date, (as long as they are reasonable)....and don't seem (to the opposite sex) "desperate" either. Be confident and sure of ur self-worth. If the guy smokes or don't go to Church, then it's not to ur liking...so it's no skin off ur nose, lady!....Dating guys who are "liers" to begin with are nothing but imposters in wolf's clothing.....I would much rather stay home with a good book than date someone who was absolutely "not my type".
But, also remembering, that geting married, having a mate..is not everyone's destiny. Life works out in mysterious ways...it did for me.