Casperman said:Cutie, I do understand ya just fine... i see where ya are coming from...
Cheri said:Cutepommie,
I am confused with your story, I don't see anything wrong with a guy who accept your children within a short period of time, Do you rather him not to accept your children at all? And having your children not liking him? Is there any reasons why they don't like him?
With me I rather to have a guy who accept my children as their own, there is no time limit, could take a while, it could take several days. That's how I did with my dad's new wife, It took me a while to get used to her and accept her in the family.
I used to date this one guy who told me he wanted to started a family with me, wanted me to leave my children behind with their father and start a family with him. I was shocked and told him, You either accept my kids that comes with me in one whole package or or there a door on the way out don't hit let it hit your ass.
Now, I'm dating diehardbiker, he accept my children the same way I accept his son. That's what family are all about accepting each others.
Cheri said:Ohh I got it Cutepommie perfectly I understand how you feel, If I was in your place I'll feel the same, Yep, that's creepy!
yea i remmy that story.. i am glad that he is very good father to ur daughter and give her lot of love...RebelGirl said:When I first met my fiance, he told me he didn't want a woman with kids (that was before I told him I have a daughter). I told him right there that I have a child and if he doesn't want to be a part of it then its time to depart. He was like.. you have a child and I said yes. I told him to think about it before he go too far with me. A few days later, he said he'd like to be a part of our lives and give it a try. It was hard at first because he was strict with her.. he never spanked her. We just had a different theory of how to discipline a kid. I told him that he was raise in a military type of discipline. I was raise to love and listen and be a friend to the child. When that mixed, I got confuse how to raise my kid at first. I realize that my daughter is doing really well by the mixture of discipline. She's definitely a mommy's girl and depends on me about 90% of the time. She's got a lot of love coming from my fiance as well.
My point is that it takes time to find the right person to share the same theory of how to discipline kids. You have to make sure that you are in more control with your child.. not your girlfriend or boyfriend. The girlfriend/boyfriend is basically the helper. Your child/children definitely comes first but when it comes to being in a relationship.. yes, you have to balance. Make sure your kid/kids get a lot of attention as well.