LuciaDisturbed
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I am wondering why so many parents think it is OK to put their babies or toddlers through pain and trauma to get their ears pierced at such a young age? Without their consent? I have seen and heard poor babies and toddlers scream at the top of their lungs and cry hard when their ears get pierced (I have a CI). I feel absolutely sorry for them. They never had any say in it. It seems very traumatic for them. Poor babies.
I believe that parents should wait til the child is like 5 or 6 years old and is able to communicate either vocally or using sign language and can understand that ear piercings may hurt and can say if they can handle it or not. I asked my mom to get my ears pierced at age 6 after seeing girls my age with earrings (on my dorm floor at my state school for the deaf), and it didn't hurt because I was able to handle it and I understood that there could be some pain involved with a ear piercing, but I was still insistent on getting mine pierced anyway, even after my mom warned me many times about the pain. It was worth the wait because I had no traumatic experience. I now have 3 holes in one ear and 4 holes in the other. I did not get the additional piercings after the first pair until I was over 18. I am thankful to my mother for waiting until I ASKED for it, and not forcing it upon me. She waited for my sister to ask, too. My sister did not get hers pierced until much later, though, after my mother passed away. I don't know how old she was when she got hers done, I will have to ask her.
Why do parents think it is necessary to put their VERY young infants through pain just so they can "look cute and pretty"? I think parents should wait until the child is able to communicate what they want and if they are ready for the ear piercings and if they can handle the pain that sometimes comes with piercing their ears.
If I have a child I will not have my child's ear pierced until she or he ASKS for it or if I ASK and if the child understands that pain is a possibility and still wants the piercing anyway. If the child does not understand that pain is a possibility or if the child says no or is scared of it then I will NOT have her or his ears pierced until the child actually WANTS it and says she or he can handle the possible mild pain.
I know parents think "it's best to get it over with" but I don't agree with that and I think it's wrong. What may seem mildly painful or is painless to a ten years old can seem like extricating pain to a 6 month old baby. I had a friend who pierced her 3 months old baby. I felt sorry for the poor baby.
I also believe that Claire's and other such cheap chain jewelry stores are bad for ear piercings because with a piercing gun the stud is blunt and not sharp and can end up damaging your ear, especially if you get a upper ear piercing done (where the cartilage is). It can cause the cartilage to crack in the upper part of your ear and you can end up with a bent ear (I've seen it happen). I believe that having your ear pierced with a proper piercing needle (SHARP) is best for your ear because it does less damage to your ears due to the sharpness of the needle. You can go to a body piercing shop for that.
Just my thoughts.
What are your thoughts?
I believe that parents should wait til the child is like 5 or 6 years old and is able to communicate either vocally or using sign language and can understand that ear piercings may hurt and can say if they can handle it or not. I asked my mom to get my ears pierced at age 6 after seeing girls my age with earrings (on my dorm floor at my state school for the deaf), and it didn't hurt because I was able to handle it and I understood that there could be some pain involved with a ear piercing, but I was still insistent on getting mine pierced anyway, even after my mom warned me many times about the pain. It was worth the wait because I had no traumatic experience. I now have 3 holes in one ear and 4 holes in the other. I did not get the additional piercings after the first pair until I was over 18. I am thankful to my mother for waiting until I ASKED for it, and not forcing it upon me. She waited for my sister to ask, too. My sister did not get hers pierced until much later, though, after my mother passed away. I don't know how old she was when she got hers done, I will have to ask her.
Why do parents think it is necessary to put their VERY young infants through pain just so they can "look cute and pretty"? I think parents should wait until the child is able to communicate what they want and if they are ready for the ear piercings and if they can handle the pain that sometimes comes with piercing their ears.
If I have a child I will not have my child's ear pierced until she or he ASKS for it or if I ASK and if the child understands that pain is a possibility and still wants the piercing anyway. If the child does not understand that pain is a possibility or if the child says no or is scared of it then I will NOT have her or his ears pierced until the child actually WANTS it and says she or he can handle the possible mild pain.
I know parents think "it's best to get it over with" but I don't agree with that and I think it's wrong. What may seem mildly painful or is painless to a ten years old can seem like extricating pain to a 6 month old baby. I had a friend who pierced her 3 months old baby. I felt sorry for the poor baby.
I also believe that Claire's and other such cheap chain jewelry stores are bad for ear piercings because with a piercing gun the stud is blunt and not sharp and can end up damaging your ear, especially if you get a upper ear piercing done (where the cartilage is). It can cause the cartilage to crack in the upper part of your ear and you can end up with a bent ear (I've seen it happen). I believe that having your ear pierced with a proper piercing needle (SHARP) is best for your ear because it does less damage to your ears due to the sharpness of the needle. You can go to a body piercing shop for that.
Just my thoughts.
What are your thoughts?