hm my friend needs some advice but she is too shy to get on forums or ask anybody so ill ask for her. ill use false names
julie is very frustrated because her boyfriend joey would not talk to her about any problems. every time julie noticed something is up, like joey is acting all sad or distant... she would ask joey whats wrong and joey would shrug and says im fine ill get over it. results.. julie still do not know what was the problem or more than one problem perhaps? because joey would not tell her even after it was resolved. she wonder if she will make same mistake again? and lot of bunch of questions especially this one.. how can relationship work if they cannot work together when crisis appears? julie tried direct approach only to have him saying "OUT!", she tried saying like this "ok ill wait till you are ready" (apprantly joey never will be ready). julie wants to sit down and talk to joey but she dont know if joey is even willing. joey kept making up excuses to postpane the talk. julie is running out of patience and she has been worried for long time every single day. shes afraid that she might end up being a bitch and order joey to sit down... joey will not deal with that too well. this problem has been in her mind for over a month...that was when joey said they will talk but never did.
when julie asked joey if hes still in love with her...joey said he will talk to her later. instead of assuring her that he still love her... he just said "we will talk" so shes pretty nervous about it. that day was over a month ago. She still is waiting. i felt bad for her and tried every suggestion i can think of for her but she said nothing works. by the way joey did act like nothing happened after a crisis appeared/disappeared and gave affection and everything.
shes tired of having "what ifs" running in her mind, tired of tiptoe around him, and wants him to be able to open up more. especially when something is bothering him. relationship supposed to mean to be a team. julie feels like joey do not trust julie when it comes to the problems. they have been dating for almost a year now and every time crisis shows up... its not agruements that bothers her... its the silent treatment she gets that really really bothers her. julie HATES to be kept in dark with all the unanswered questions.
can any of you give her advice?
julie is very frustrated because her boyfriend joey would not talk to her about any problems. every time julie noticed something is up, like joey is acting all sad or distant... she would ask joey whats wrong and joey would shrug and says im fine ill get over it. results.. julie still do not know what was the problem or more than one problem perhaps? because joey would not tell her even after it was resolved. she wonder if she will make same mistake again? and lot of bunch of questions especially this one.. how can relationship work if they cannot work together when crisis appears? julie tried direct approach only to have him saying "OUT!", she tried saying like this "ok ill wait till you are ready" (apprantly joey never will be ready). julie wants to sit down and talk to joey but she dont know if joey is even willing. joey kept making up excuses to postpane the talk. julie is running out of patience and she has been worried for long time every single day. shes afraid that she might end up being a bitch and order joey to sit down... joey will not deal with that too well. this problem has been in her mind for over a month...that was when joey said they will talk but never did.
when julie asked joey if hes still in love with her...joey said he will talk to her later. instead of assuring her that he still love her... he just said "we will talk" so shes pretty nervous about it. that day was over a month ago. She still is waiting. i felt bad for her and tried every suggestion i can think of for her but she said nothing works. by the way joey did act like nothing happened after a crisis appeared/disappeared and gave affection and everything.
shes tired of having "what ifs" running in her mind, tired of tiptoe around him, and wants him to be able to open up more. especially when something is bothering him. relationship supposed to mean to be a team. julie feels like joey do not trust julie when it comes to the problems. they have been dating for almost a year now and every time crisis shows up... its not agruements that bothers her... its the silent treatment she gets that really really bothers her. julie HATES to be kept in dark with all the unanswered questions.
can any of you give her advice?