Online Dating

My sister met her husband through a dating site 12 years ago. They have been married for 10 years...

For me, I won't try... as my sister suggested.
 
I used to have a long soapbox about how online dating was a really bad idea, on so many levels.

Then I met someone. Online. OUCH.

To make it worse on my ego - I married him. We're happy as can be! lol
 
deafbajagal said:
I used to have a long soapbox about how online dating was a really bad idea, on so many levels.

Then I met someone. Online. OUCH.

To make it worse on my ego - I married him. We're happy as can be! lol
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:aw: Sweet :)
 
SneakerNet said:
I'll give you an response. I met a woman through online dating, which now I'm married to her.
Really, the reason I use Deaf online dating is because deaf population are very sparse. I was hoping to find one locally but there's alway a perfect match elsewhere, you know 1000 miles away. I took my time and patience to search for one. If I met someone online, I take my time to talk with her via IM or webcam or VP. The more I spent time with her to see if there's any "Catch 22", or hidden "lie" or whatever. You know if we are smart enough to questions her then weeks later ask her again. You know you can't remember what you lied before.
So the biggest problem is that we are far apart. It's a big decision to have her move in with me from 300 miles away. You know it's hard if I should move or she should move, why? because of children. IF she move, she have to bring her children but her ex will get very angry and not able to have visitation with children. Then whole thing will become a mess, you know lawyer, court and such. Luckly that she have 2 kids who are 20 years old and over. They can decide if they want to move with her or stay with her.
Online dating are not that bad at all, if you are being careful and be smart.
It's very different than hearing online dating.
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Congrats with your finding true love.

May I ask you what kind of online dating did you use? I tried Deafsinglesconnection but so far it sucks :(
 
I think it works somewhat but I think after a few emails, meeting in person might be better.
 
Ahhh see now here is a good point two of you have touched on what if you meet someone and they live thousands of miles away, one woman here met the love of her life online and he lived on the other side of the ocean. Well then what?
 
ember said:
Ahhh see now here is a good point two of you have touched on what if you meet someone and they live thousands of miles away, one woman here met the love of her life online and he lived on the other side of the ocean. Well then what?
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Walk?
 
craigm26 said:
Walk?
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:laugh2::laugh2:

Vanessa Carlton wrote a song about that!!!

Really though if you met a girl and she lived on the east coast and you found her cute in her pics and the emails you two exchanged were exhilarating, so you walk away and say nice to meet you or do you try it out and make it work?
 
ember said:
A story I read today sparked a question for me, do you believe in online dating, does it work, do you really get to know a person really by way of emails and chatting online? why or why not?
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I met my husband on line back in 1999.. we got hitched in 2001( so we took our time to get to know each other before we did the deed ). I have seen some relationships fail and some succeed. I can only say, from my personal experince, you have to work harder with an on line relationship ,if it is LONG distance, before you actually GET TOGETHER, then you either trust the person or you don't, if you feel in your gut something is not right, then for heavens sake get out of the relationship, and make a clean break, no backward glances.

If you are already IN a relationship with some one else ( married to some one else, or engaged, or even dating ) do the RIGHT thing, make the right choice. My mom always says, the grass is not always greener on the other side of the fence, this also applies to on line dating. Just becareful. And think carefully before you start "cheating" on your spouse, fiance/fiancee with some one you have met on line,not every one on line is who they say they are. The computer is a wonderful communication tool and it also can be very deceptive.

On line dating is fine, but when you decide to meet up in person, a rule of thumb is, do not go alone, take a friend, and have your own transportation.
Keep the first meeting simple ( this can be an icebreaker) If the person is NOTHING like they are on line, then what you see for real is WHAT you get.

In my case I had been divorced for 9 years, so I was single, my hub was obviously single too :cool2: So folks just be careful.. AND have fun too :D
 
Both; and I'd try to meet her. I mean if you're great friends online no reason you can't be in reality but the point of meeting in person is to see if the chemistry is there and you probably would want to that part relatively quickly because you're not going to stop flirting or seeing other people if you havent actually met the person.
 
ember said:
Ahhh see now here is a good point two of you have touched on what if you meet someone and they live thousands of miles away, one woman here met the love of her life online and he lived on the other side of the ocean. Well then what?
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:hmm::hmm::hmm: well sounds like me, i met my hub on line as I said in an earlier post, I forgot to mention I am a Yank he is from Western Europe, so we worked on our relationship, to make sure things were peachy keen, we have been together since 1999 , some on line relationships work some fail:dunno:


PS TO THE AUTHOR OF THIS THREAD... I think this is a great topic,,, I may start another one, which may throw ALL DEAF into a tizzy LOL
 
Stroopewaffels said:
:hmm::hmm::hmm: well sounds like me, i met my hub on line as I said in an earlier post, I forgot to mention I am a Yank he is from Western Europe, so we worked on our relationship, to make sure things were peachy keen, we have been together since 1999 , some on line relationships work some fail:dunno:


PS TO THE AUTHOR OF THIS THREAD... I think this is a great topic,,, I may start another one, which may throw ALL DEAF into a tizzy LOL
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thank you.... and I am anxious to read your thread
 
craigm26 said:
Both; and I'd try to meet her. I mean if you're great friends online no reason you can't be in reality but the point of meeting in person is to see if the chemistry is there and you probably would want to that part relatively quickly because you're not going to stop flirting or seeing other people if you havent actually met the person.
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Now I would argue that depends on what stimulates a person, for some its physical means and other its more mental and you don't need to physically be with someone to be stimulated mentally.

So here is my next question for you I agree you can meet someone and be great friends online, so if that friendship grows and you two decide to hang out with one another in person is that when you suddenly become attracted?
 
ember said:
Now I would argue that depends on what stimulates a person, for some its physical means and other its more mental and you don't need to physically be with someone to be stimulated mentally.

So here is my next question for you I agree you can meet someone and be great friends online, so if that friendship grows and you two decide to hang out with one another in person is that when you suddenly become attracted?
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No. And if we weren't physically attracted after meeting, that's ok perhaps we're "soulmates" even. I think you can be attracted to someone without meeting someone, but I think meeting in person really cements/deepens an attraction.

Would you test drive a car before you bought it? Would you also like that car to be somewhat "attractive"?
 
craigm26 said:
No. And if we weren't physically attracted after meeting, that's ok perhaps we're "soulmates" even. I think you can be attracted to someone without meeting someone, but I think being it person really cements/deepens an attraction.

Would you test drive a car before you bought it? Would you also like that car to be somewhat "attractive"?
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LoL I don't know if asking Frugal Fannie that question is applicable. I did test drive my car but only to make sure it ran I bought it off craigslist, its not pretty but I bought it cash so no car note and that's how I like to live debt free. Its not an eye sore but I don't know that I would call it attractive :giggle:

I am not disagreeing with you I think its important to meet in person to see if what is there apart will still be there when you are in person, you very well can't live a lifetime with a person over the internet.
 
all my relationships - thru friends. I'm old school. I'm wary when it comes to dating a girl with no known associations.

why I use this strategy? better than dealing with psycho girl later in the relationship :lol:
 
ember said:
LoL I don't know if asking Frugal Fannie that question is applicable. I did test drive my car but only to make sure it ran I bought it off craigslist, its not pretty but I bought it cash so no car note and that's how I like to live debt free. Its not an eye sore but I don't know that I would call it attractive :giggle:

I am not disagreeing with you I think its important to meet in person to see if what is there apart will still be there when you are in person, you very well can't live a lifetime with a person over the internet.
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:). Yeah it's just a stupid analogy my brother made up when he was trying to explain to me what dating is kinda like.

Precisely :). Making it work in person can make life much more interesting too I think.
 
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