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Alright, be prepared to be confused...

See, I'm attracted to guys in all ways, shapes and forms... but I really do enjoy cuddling with a girl, but never consider sex an option. Even if I watch porno, it's always guy on guy.

So... I'm just really confused... I was raised with Christian family who have always tried to get me to get a girlfriend (I've actually had several, and one fiancee) but I really like guys. Plus there's the whole Christian influence on that too...

Any advice?
 
DEAFdotDORK said:
Alright, be prepared to be confused...

See, I'm attracted to guys in all ways, shapes and forms... but I really do enjoy cuddling with a girl, but never consider sex an option. Even if I watch porno, it's always guy on guy.

So... I'm just really confused... I was raised with Christian family who have always tried to get me to get a girlfriend (I've actually had several, and one fiancee) but I really like guys. Plus there's the whole Christian influence on that too...

Any advice?
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Hmm.. Maybe I can help, but don't get mad if I can't ;)

First, how do you like about guys? When he was top or bottom? How his body look? If you were cuddling with a guy, what would you do?

The question #2 would be the same thing about girls.

I have been confusing myself for long time, I thought I do like both, but somehow I was starting finding out that I actually prefer cocks over female's stuff, and love when guys act like a man around me, so the girls or women doesn't have anything to attract me at all, really. It's no point for me to hiding myself or I will not be happy with myself because I was being dishonest with myself, ya know what I mean..

Anyway, hope I can help :)
 
Texan Guy, you made ignorant post, that sounds like Heath. :roll:

Back on topic, I haven't experience so much but my grandma was encouraged me to find girl and I'm personally don't like that about what she was said. I just prefer to go with guys cuz of behavior, cock and more attractive to me, like Puyo said.

If you prefer to goes on both of them then bisexual would be make sense but I used to be bisexual before switched into full gay.
 
If your confusion is related to what sort of "title" you should carry in terms of orientation, screw it. You like who you like and nothing on earth is going to change it.

In regards to the christianity aspect, I think making choices to act on or not act on your feelings depends largely on how you view God.

As a personal belief, I know that I trust in Him as a forgiving and loving God- I want to believe that He cares more about your devotion and goodness in life as opposed to the gender of the person you give that part of yourself to.

Some people think otherwise- that homosexuality is a sin and that you'll only be 'forgiven' for the sins you repent. Those people, ultimately, can make the choice of leading nonsexual lives, or they can make the choice to 'force' themselves to marry for the sake of doing the right thing, the one that's 'acceptable' if you're a christian. I've never met any of those people who turned out happy- because no matter how many times you try and spin it and tell yourself that you're "different" or "fixed" you will continue to be who you've always been- and if there's one thing I know, it's NEVER okay to hate even a tiny part of yourself, and this is no small part.

Ultimately, you get to decide which of those choices you want to make.
 
There are gay-lesbian churches/synagogues that can help you out dealing with the religious zealots. Also, you can be gay & Christian. There are many of us out there.....

Bottom line, be true to yourself.
 
Everyday, you have two choices:

be what you want to be and know who you are

or

be what others want you to be and know how to do it right

It's your call.

There is a huge difference between being religious and being spiritual. Religion is a tool while spirituality is a blessing. Listen to your heart.

In the end, you'll never be happy nor satisfied until you're among your own. "To thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man." (William Shakespeare) Everything good (and bad) will follow.

(If you believe, as Mexan Guy believes, that I'm a demon, then you should already feel that you're not doing it right.)
 
Texan Guy said:
*scoffs* Excuse me, Mr. Pacman, I was helping him. Alright?
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No, I'm usually found that your post are always disgusted to GLBT and trying convert us into straight, that make me to think that you have little or no respect to GLBT. Alex don't allowing us to post an religion belief in alldeaf, it has been adopted in last summer or so, plus I found that your post seems contain an religion belief. When new homosexual people are looking for this forum and would find this section is useless to be full GLBT friendly because of you and few other members who bash on GLBT, except if you are in Christian forum or related.

After suffer from bashing on GLBT then we wouldn't change our sex oreintation, that cause me or other members found that your post is so useless or offended us. I'm not going to bother you at next time but whatever. All of us are different and how can you respect our difference personality.
 
Maybe would be helpfully when you're talking with guy peoples. :dunno2: Don't let anyone control to you!;):)

Good luck! :)
 
Texan Guy said:
I think the demons poisoning your minds on that kind of the situation. :whistle:
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I noticed that this forum is getting more and more into heated controversy that involves with personal offenses. The result was claustrophobic which demoralizes the purpose of this forum. My recommendation is this, if you find someone offensive to you, then do not participate only to attack or to “degrade” their uniqueness of their identity. The creation of this forum is to edify the social acceptance of their difference. Please do not participate if you intend to attack or to offend instead of to encourage or to edify others. It will be greatly appreciated if anybody who deeply disagree with this forum not to participate and to focus into other forum in which they are most comfortable with.

Thank you,


Scott Hamm
A.k.a. LinuxGold

http://www.alldeaf.com/closet/5051-respect-forum.html
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Alright... I think I understand Puyo's point.

Yea I feel that way about guys myself.

Oh, as for the Christian... that's just a background... I'm Pagan!
 
DEAFdotDORK said:
Alright... I think I understand Puyo's point.

Yea I feel that way about guys myself.

Oh, as for the Christian... that's just a background... I'm Pagan!
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I am glad to hear that my point helped :) Btw, I do know some of Pagan too ;)
 
Pacman said:
No, I'm usually found that your post are always disgusted to GLBT and trying convert us into straight, that make me to think that you have little or no respect to GLBT. Alex don't allowing us to post an religion belief in alldeaf, it has been adopted in last summer or so, plus I found that your post seems contain an religion belief. When new homosexual people are looking for this forum and would find this section is useless to be full GLBT friendly because of you and few other members who bash on GLBT, except if you are in Christian forum or related.

After suffer from bashing on GLBT then we wouldn't change our sex oreintation, that cause me or other members found that your post is so useless or offended us. I'm not going to bother you at next time but whatever. All of us are different and how can you respect our difference personality.
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Don't worry about Texan Guy, afterall he is a closeted homosexual. Why would he be posting in here?

Afterall, why do you think they say, " Queers & Steers are from Texas?" :lol:
 
OMGs! That's so evil Byrdie!

Plus... I don't know much of the gblt "terminology"... I've not had that much social networking with the glbt community...

Maybe someone could start a post to get a "glbt dictionary" going?
 
DEAFdotDORK said:
OMGs! That's so evil Byrdie!

Plus... I don't know much of the gblt "terminology"... I've not had that much social networking with the glbt community...

Maybe someone could start a post to get a "glbt dictionary" going?
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Sure, will do ;)
 
DEAFdotDORK said:
OMGs! That's so evil Byrdie!

Plus... I don't know much of the gblt "terminology"... I've not had that much social networking with the glbt community...

Maybe someone could start a post to get a "glbt dictionary" going?
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I'm so bad, I scare myself sometime! :giggle:
 
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