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Romance
There has been much said about romance at one time or another. Probably more books have been written about this subject than any other throughout the history of the world. However, there is much confusion about what exactly romance is, and how a couple can be romantic.
Throughout the world, people say that the Latinos are romantic people, probably the most romantic of all. But, to be honest with you, Latinos aren't romantic. In fact, most Latinos can't even tell you what the word romantic means.
First of all, romance isn't sexual intimacy. Sex can be romantic, but that doesn't make romance sex. Romance can include sex, and really, when a couple is romantic it becomes a preparation for sexual intimacy.
By definition, romance is a demonstration to the other person that they are important to you. Whatever acts that we do, which make that person feel important can be considered romantic. It doesn't matter if they are large things, or small, just as long as the other person feels that they are special in some way.
Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
1 Peter 3:7
Giving honor is the same thing as treating the person as if they are special, precious, or valuable. If an important person walks into the room, it is customary to stop talking, stand up, and pay attention to that person. That's called giving honor to them. When your spouse walks into the room, they are more important in your life than the president of the United States. You need to treat them as such.
Peter uses the term "weaker vessel" in this verse. Notice that he doesn't say that the wife is a weaker vessel, only that she should be honored as if she is a weaker vessel.
How do we treat weak, precious, valuable vessels? With much care. That's how a man needs to treat his wife. He must constantly act towards her as if she is that weak, precious, valuable vessel that's been entrusted to his care.
Romance is part of meeting the emotional needs of women for affection. However, this doesn't mean that only men need to be romantic. Just as men need to be romantic towards their wives, women need to be romantic towards their husbands. Both parties need the demonstration that they are important to the other one.
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There has been much said about romance at one time or another. Probably more books have been written about this subject than any other throughout the history of the world. However, there is much confusion about what exactly romance is, and how a couple can be romantic.
Throughout the world, people say that the Latinos are romantic people, probably the most romantic of all. But, to be honest with you, Latinos aren't romantic. In fact, most Latinos can't even tell you what the word romantic means.
First of all, romance isn't sexual intimacy. Sex can be romantic, but that doesn't make romance sex. Romance can include sex, and really, when a couple is romantic it becomes a preparation for sexual intimacy.
By definition, romance is a demonstration to the other person that they are important to you. Whatever acts that we do, which make that person feel important can be considered romantic. It doesn't matter if they are large things, or small, just as long as the other person feels that they are special in some way.
Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
1 Peter 3:7
Giving honor is the same thing as treating the person as if they are special, precious, or valuable. If an important person walks into the room, it is customary to stop talking, stand up, and pay attention to that person. That's called giving honor to them. When your spouse walks into the room, they are more important in your life than the president of the United States. You need to treat them as such.
Peter uses the term "weaker vessel" in this verse. Notice that he doesn't say that the wife is a weaker vessel, only that she should be honored as if she is a weaker vessel.
How do we treat weak, precious, valuable vessels? With much care. That's how a man needs to treat his wife. He must constantly act towards her as if she is that weak, precious, valuable vessel that's been entrusted to his care.
Romance is part of meeting the emotional needs of women for affection. However, this doesn't mean that only men need to be romantic. Just as men need to be romantic towards their wives, women need to be romantic towards their husbands. Both parties need the demonstration that they are important to the other one.
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