FadedRose
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I had an interesting lip reading incident today and I'm not sure if it's what the person said or not but regardless its left me confused and somewhat hurt. I just about broke down and cried but told myself that it's possible I misread the persons lips. As a Deaf person hearing people can be quite cruel and at times not understanding that I'm just Deaf. A shy one nonetheless....nothing else.
The person in question isn't someone I know well so it's quite possible I misread but here is what happened. I had my back turned to whoever was talking and could have sworn I heard my name called but figured it wasn't for me and turned to the person next to me to see what his reaction was. I figured if it was for me I'd know because this person would be looking at me and this is how I am able to tell if someone is calling for me. I could have sworn I lip read him to say no, I'm not the retard. He was not facing me but facing sideways. I turned around rather confused after seeing that on his lips to the person who was either talking to me or him and she had this look on her face like it was towards me and here I am dying inside literally but hiding it well trying to act like I didn't see it or hear it rather. She was looking right at me and just mouthed oh! I'm not sure if she understood what he said either as she seemed confused as well and someone next to her quipped up and was looking at me during this time as well...thus giving me the impression that this was directed towards me making me feel like shit and put on the spot wondering what the hell is going on... and she said " oh, he said he was cold" the girl who looked confused appeared to me to play along but maybe I misread her as well and she offered the guy her jacket which to me was just...it didn't fit what has just occurred because I would know the word cold on someone elses lips right? Maybe not...I just don't know but I ignored whatever was said figuring maybe I had misread the guys lips.
I'd like to think I did because I have done this before and being Deaf...
it's already confusing enough not being able to hear what is being said. This guy had no reason to say what he did if he did at all and if he did he just lost all of my respect and not only that but I will not bother acknowledging his presence...I kind of already do because he's an intimidating figure at least to me. A nice guy but just comes off as the alpha leader and those types I tend to be quite submissive to...it annoys the tar out of me that I do .
what to do when you are not sure if you misread someones lips? I would have said something if it had been something else I thought he said. But due to what I thought I had lip read I just played dumb and decided to pretend it didn't happen and I didn't want to get all up in his face being a bitch causing a uh, scene which I would have gone on his butt because no one says that around me and gets away with it. I don't think there is a Deaf person that would but considering that our ears cannot be trusted and lip reading is not accurate what would you have done if this were you? would you have done as I did?
I must admit that although I consider myself to be a good lipreader...this has just left me stumped and hurt and I'm not sure if I should be feeling this way to begin with-just imagine how self conscious you'd feel in this situation-I just wanted to hide and still do actually .
S.
The person in question isn't someone I know well so it's quite possible I misread but here is what happened. I had my back turned to whoever was talking and could have sworn I heard my name called but figured it wasn't for me and turned to the person next to me to see what his reaction was. I figured if it was for me I'd know because this person would be looking at me and this is how I am able to tell if someone is calling for me. I could have sworn I lip read him to say no, I'm not the retard. He was not facing me but facing sideways. I turned around rather confused after seeing that on his lips to the person who was either talking to me or him and she had this look on her face like it was towards me and here I am dying inside literally but hiding it well trying to act like I didn't see it or hear it rather. She was looking right at me and just mouthed oh! I'm not sure if she understood what he said either as she seemed confused as well and someone next to her quipped up and was looking at me during this time as well...thus giving me the impression that this was directed towards me making me feel like shit and put on the spot wondering what the hell is going on... and she said " oh, he said he was cold" the girl who looked confused appeared to me to play along but maybe I misread her as well and she offered the guy her jacket which to me was just...it didn't fit what has just occurred because I would know the word cold on someone elses lips right? Maybe not...I just don't know but I ignored whatever was said figuring maybe I had misread the guys lips.
I'd like to think I did because I have done this before and being Deaf...
it's already confusing enough not being able to hear what is being said. This guy had no reason to say what he did if he did at all and if he did he just lost all of my respect and not only that but I will not bother acknowledging his presence...I kind of already do because he's an intimidating figure at least to me. A nice guy but just comes off as the alpha leader and those types I tend to be quite submissive to...it annoys the tar out of me that I do .
what to do when you are not sure if you misread someones lips? I would have said something if it had been something else I thought he said. But due to what I thought I had lip read I just played dumb and decided to pretend it didn't happen and I didn't want to get all up in his face being a bitch causing a uh, scene which I would have gone on his butt because no one says that around me and gets away with it. I don't think there is a Deaf person that would but considering that our ears cannot be trusted and lip reading is not accurate what would you have done if this were you? would you have done as I did?
I must admit that although I consider myself to be a good lipreader...this has just left me stumped and hurt and I'm not sure if I should be feeling this way to begin with-just imagine how self conscious you'd feel in this situation-I just wanted to hide and still do actually .
S.
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