from my guess is that, if you befreinded a woman and you supported her...with NO expectation of returns (and Woman DO know that they know it right away)...and say later on you have a down day or some bad crappy happen then you say 'something what you really feel' then lkie just before you get to say 'nah i sound like a wuss'...Real girls/women who are real, like they not 'after the hero' to brag in front of their girlfriends' -- wil tell you, they Dig guys showing real emotion...(not because they are emo's or anything its probably likely they're sick of pretending and sick of not finding guys who really talks about feelings, not the gayish, hippish shit , just raw and being real about life...AND, surprise some Do dig it...and admittingly I'd want to meet one of those because i can 'see' that if you happen to find her and really got alot of other things in common, like alot, you can be sure she's a wife material and that saying I mean a LIFE TIME freind, (which really saying its a true meaning of marriage) ARGHH i have to say this right now though...im not talking about marriage and shit
im just using this example to 'highlight that some people actually do have depths, not depth of complex knowledge or business savvy or success crap (too many of that now, and it yuck)...i mean simple things (which ironically can, indeed be one of the most complext because half the time people DON'T have time to search within themselves to bring up a reflection to speak (or sign ) off...sign off..to communicate..
there are people who do realise 'not talkers' are 'doers' and actually knows this is not shyness , just self-quietly confident...and thats the kind of confidence women seeks...
its not being the showtime-material..or the conversationalist or having the gift of the gab...(yes people tend to draw to them but its not fool proof and indeed they do find out talkers are shallow)... you see..people are confidence-seekers sometimes they seek to hang out with someone better than themselves...only to find not much as improved ..or a big crash like big divorce in mid-life and all that cuz all that time its the Material part of life that succeeded (and the fobbing of their ownn lies keeping face..it does wears out)...
so there...its not being 'not about to talk' to draw in the 'wanted crowd' its more about 'being able to talk as so you Are yourself' that's the confidence people Knows... people are not stupid to notice but also stupid enough to ignore it...weird i know.
hope this helps ..i dunno..just remember this 'you have to believe in yourself' forget about worrying if people believe you (or the fake yourself, which i mentioned above it Does have a due-date life period, not worth considering unless if you can hack it, not me) believing in yourself, is the key to confidence, dont get me wrong, its not saying you can do Anything, dont deluded yourseif with that, its saying, believeing that what you're doing your life, (be it study, your hobbies you pick, your favourite colours, music, fav sport, some sport you like (even if youre not that good but actually enjoys it (Is more important, than 'winning' but winning against yourself is the goal, as in bettering your skills, thats where the passion lies) all this mentioned just now, is what the things you need to believe in yourself, about.. so people 'knows' who you are, and they will (the chicks) will dig that, they will KNOW you have a passion and kind and straight up, thats what they really are, after all what you're really after is women who are real, not worrying about 'losers' or 'winners', oftentimes they are both the SAME, interchangable because of the 'competition' element which signals to them then men/boys are just all about being a hero, its all bullshit...cuz its the Wrong meaning of heroism...
forget it, duh i dunno if i wrote up some crap...but for all else, i hope it kind of makes sense...
and really, being hurt is NO fun..and indeed if you read back what i jsut wrote ive probably unwittingly hinted that, in times of crappy (or good) best thing is to be kind to yourself, your feelings , yourself belongs to you, no one else, no one else have any rights to make your feel less, especially if you didnt ask for it, while all you wanted to is experience, love, companionship, sex, togetherness with the opposite sex (or same sex if that what some wants, same thing, its the importance of connectedness which people seeks, no one like rejection)...
just be kind to yourself do what you love most, skateboarding, then dont sit at home wallowing in hurt (others would look form outside and mistake to you for 'self pitying' which is really bullshit and actually quite mean...just (and yes forget about it" HARD to do, I hate it too when it happens, but yah do what you like doing, remind yourself, you have skills, somethig to value for , partners/girlfreinds isnt the MOST important thing in life...people are crazy to get tragic about it...you still have a life, Fuck tetraplegics can even get to Paint (painfully slow with tongues properly if they want to), but hell imagine No body want to get laid with them! , chicks, probably is bt dull if she doesnt think you're as good as a next guy who happens to be a hearie.pathetic aye?
so there...
above all, remembering you're as good as the next person, not better not less, seems like a riddle? indeed it is, life is a riddle too
Cheer up
: ), I will NEVER tolerate rape attempts either. But it is different from what you want. It's like a goal you want to achieve. Intuition lets you know how well you are getting closer to that goal from all your experience. I also think when that happens, it should be effortless thought. If you have to think about it, you're not ready to accept and handle what might suddenly arise. Time to put more time into it, then see if your ideas will work out. Life is unpredictable, if it weren't, you'd miss out, but at the same time, don't sacrifice safety unless you know what's involved. It all comes down to how much experience and time you have put into it. Hope that helps.
