PrincessBetty1
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Lately, I've been aggravated each time I'm trying to listen on the phone and chances are accent, talks too fast, low voices, and/or background noises. It's never easy for me to handle and whenever I end up being on the phone like arranging a job interview and I'd have at least one person with me in the room. For the past four phone calls, mom is in the room with me and I look at her to make sure I'm hearing things correctly. If I didn't hear it, I'd turn to the person in the room like my mom to get help. I'd read her lip, but she does it so slowly to catch on that I did not hear whatever that person say. Once the call is over, my mom rant out that I need to start listening more!
The thing is, I'm more of a lipreader than listening on the phone. My ears can't hear that very well or adapt at all. She keeps saying that I need to listen carefully and deal with it. No matter how hard I tried, it never comes out perfectly. It would require me to ask the person at least two to five times to make sure I understand what they are saying or asking on the phone. I need time to process what they say and repeat it in my head before I can answer.
Yet, it's bugging me the way mom's expectation of me to "listen better on the phone". I'm deaf, but those hearing aids are just there to provide sounds. I tried to get mom to understand, but I'm having a complicated time to understand her. I've went to counselor and told him about it, he understood. He said that maybe she doesn't want me to fail. I talked to my sister and she said mom just don't understand, but my sister does.
I'm more of a text/internet/visual kind of a person. Trust me, she had me learned to speak when I was join and preferred that I am signing, texting, emailing, lipreading, and any visual related. Unless I grew up with that person, I'm used to and be able to know what they're talking or saying.
I'm just confused to why it is that big of a deal to be on a phone and really listen? Even on TV or movies I can't always listen so well either unless the caption is on. =\ I don't know what else to do anymore.
The thing is, I'm more of a lipreader than listening on the phone. My ears can't hear that very well or adapt at all. She keeps saying that I need to listen carefully and deal with it. No matter how hard I tried, it never comes out perfectly. It would require me to ask the person at least two to five times to make sure I understand what they are saying or asking on the phone. I need time to process what they say and repeat it in my head before I can answer.
Yet, it's bugging me the way mom's expectation of me to "listen better on the phone". I'm deaf, but those hearing aids are just there to provide sounds. I tried to get mom to understand, but I'm having a complicated time to understand her. I've went to counselor and told him about it, he understood. He said that maybe she doesn't want me to fail. I talked to my sister and she said mom just don't understand, but my sister does.
I'm more of a text/internet/visual kind of a person. Trust me, she had me learned to speak when I was join and preferred that I am signing, texting, emailing, lipreading, and any visual related. Unless I grew up with that person, I'm used to and be able to know what they're talking or saying.
I'm just confused to why it is that big of a deal to be on a phone and really listen? Even on TV or movies I can't always listen so well either unless the caption is on. =\ I don't know what else to do anymore.