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I would like know why is it a deal breaker for men when looks are involved but not when a woman in mentally or emotionally unstable?
 
It might be the man who wants to "save" her or he wants to cling on to somebody who will accept him.
 
craigm26 said:
haha sooooooooooooooooooooo untrue
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Craig really :|

I have a friend who is great, funny, intelligent, etc... but she isn't mainstream attractive and I watch her over and over meet guys online and things seem to be great as long as they are talking thru email but as soon as they see her its over.

Then there is Halle Berry and she is crazy as all get out and men drool over her
 
eh...you gotta have *some* physical attraction.

but you can't also be crazy either. Not saying the dudes are *right* but it's better to not force it and let them grow up.

I didn't know Halley Berry was crazy. Never met her, I'll give her the benefit of the doubt.
 
craigm26 said:
eh...you gotta have *some* physical attraction.

but you can't also be crazy either. Not saying the dudes are *right* but it's better to not force it and let them grow up.

I didn't know Halley Berry was crazy. Never met her, I'll give her the benefit of the doubt.
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I'm just saying if "all" your exes claim your are mentally altered everybody can't be lying, but every new guy falls for her anyway because she is beautiful. Now is she were some other actress or a fuller figured woman I bet the same would not be true
 
ember said:
I'm just saying if "all" your exes claim your are mentally altered everybody can't be lying, but every new guy falls for her anyway because she is beautiful. Now is she were some other actress or a fuller figured woman I bet the same would not be true
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people have different meanings to "beautiful" some (errr probably most men) probably think it's more physical than it is about her mind/soul.
 
craigm26 said:
people have different meanings to "beautiful" some (errr probably most men) probably think it's more physical than it is about her mind/soul.
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which is my point exactly, why is it that the physical attractiveness out weighs the mind/soul


*disclaimer*
I am not asking for personal reasons or because this is something that affects me personally, I am just interested in a males perspective, I know what females think.
 
what do females think?

For men, I think it's part of it...but definitely not all of it. There's no real "formula" or whatever...it's just preferences and probably some "preferred" attractiveness that most men would agree on
 
Not to seem rude, but maybe your friend is chasing after guys that are out of her league? I have to agree with Craig.. There has to be some physical attraction.
Besides, women are the same way. Looks matter.. for some men and women, it matters more than it should.
 
Females think for men its all about the physical either you are "hawt" or not. Its all about the physical and if you aren't that physically attractive he has to "grow on you" what!

Most guys could care less about the level of my intelligence they just think I am cute and I have a soft voice so they think I am sweet... lol I don't know about all that
 
maybe she has amazing eyes...an incredible depth of some subject...or she's just amazing period....the dudes that go "well she must have this or that" are full of it and they know it cause it's incredible how unique everybody is and it's up to them if they want to care as much as to know and love that person.
 
warpedpink said:
Not to seem rude, but maybe your friend is chasing after guys that are out of her league? I have to agree with Craig.. There has to be some physical attraction.
Besides, women are the same way. Looks matter.. for some men and women, it matters more than it should.
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Why is there a league?
 
warpedpink said:
shrugs. good question.. there shouldnt be but there are.
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Probably because there's different types of intelligence out there...?...I know "league" is a figure of speech, but usually when someone uses it, I think about how they might perceive or could be masters/not so much a master in different areas of intelligence. Like...social intelligence, emotional intelligence...and so on...

My friend (30-year old virgin) uses that phrase but I tell him to enjoy the ride and know himself first and then try to "correct" basic "weird"/creepy-guy stuff like ...not making eye-contact. He doesn't have to, but I tell him that because I know that'll help him in many ways that are beneficial in the long run...it might be painful at first but he'll get over it. I hope.

Anyways...yeah "league" kinda relevant ..kinda not...depends on how you use it I guess.
 
craigm26 said:
Probably because there's different types of intelligence out there...?...I know "league" is a figure of speech, but usually when someone uses it, I think about how they might perceive or could be masters/not so much a master in different areas of intelligence. Like...social intelligence, emotional intelligence...and so on...

My friend (30-year old virgin) uses that phrase but I tell him to enjoy the ride and know himself first and then try to "correct" basic "weird"/creepy-guy stuff like ...not making eye-contact. He doesn't have to, but I tell him that because I know that'll him in many ways that are beneficial in the long run...it might be painful at first but he'll get over it. I hope.

Anyways...yeah "league" kinda relevant ..kinda not...depends on how you use it I guess.
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........ what he said. lol
 
ember said:
Why is there a league?
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It's primitive.

We are wired to look for and choose the best mate possible in order to propagate our lineage. If our instincts are telling us that the other person doesn't match up physically, then it's a no-go. Can't really do anything about it. It's nice to think that humans can be attracted to each other because of their inner beauty, intelligence, etc., but the truth (sad or not) is that physical attraction is an extremely important part of the equation.

For me, I definitely wouldn't date a nujob, no matter how beautiful or sexy she is. I'd like to think that most non-douchebag men are the same way. The problem is, finding out that someone is mentally unstable usually takes more time than determining that they are physically beautiful...
 
TheWriteAlex said:
It's primitive.

We are wired to look for and choose the best mate possible in order to propagate our lineage. If our instincts are telling us that the other person doesn't match up physically, then it's a no-go. Can't really do anything about it. It's nice to think that humans can be attracted to each other because of their inner beauty, intelligence, etc., but the truth (sad or not) is that physical attraction is an extremely important part of the equation.

For me, I definitely wouldn't date a nujob, no matter how beautiful or sexy she is. I'd like to think that most non-douchebag men are the same way. The problem is, finding out that someone is mentally unstable usually takes more time than determining that they are physically beautiful...
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Truer words never had been spoken.

But yeah, once I did have the chance to discover a lady was a nutjob within minutes. I kicked her out of the jeep to the curb.
 
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