I have a profoundly deaf 9 mo dd. a couple things I've noticed are that 1- I am with her 24/7, I saw MUCH earlier than my husband that something wasnt "right" with Abigail. I've had 9 months to cope with her hearing status. My husband, tho, didnt really begin to accept that she is different until after 9 OAEs, an unsedated ABR, an ASSRT, a sedated ABR, and a Bone Conduction Test. I have had 24 hours a day, 7 days a week for 9 months, he has had maybe 4 hours a day for about 3 months. So OBVIOUSLY I'm coping better than him! I've had longer to deal with it!
2- As other have said- daddy's want to "fix it" and he can't. And that kills him. Makes him feel inadequate as a husband, father, provider, worthless as a man. Add to that the fact that its probably genetic, which means it could be HIS FAULT....yea.
I would get in touch with your state deaf school and see if they have a family education program. Ours does and we have a lady that comes to our house just to answer questions, make sure everything is ok, gets us in touch with whatever resources we need. They also have a mentor program so a Deaf adult will also come out to teach us about Deaf history and culture.
Look into lifeprint.com. It's an entire ASL course taught online, for free by an HOH professor. Very good and he's really funny. Just be aware that its voices off. I'd tell your husband about it, ask him to check it out and then drop it. Don't nag him about it or I doubt he'll do it!
As far as the Deaf community. While I would recommend looking into getting connected in your area, I would gently suggest that you make your decision about whether you are going to implant (if your audio is talking about that) BEFORE you get involved. We have met some really great people, amazing, love them, but they are extremely opinionated about what we should do with our child and, for us, I think it's making the decision harder.