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Hello, I'm a lifelong hard of hearing person from a family that was totally oblivious. As a parent now, I don't want to complain about things that happened so long ago, but my parents were pretty passive about this and I also think they might have been sort of embarrassed about my hearing loss as it was never mentioned while I was growing up. In my twenties I made my own appointment with the audiologist and bought my own hearing aids. Recently I updated to the wonderful world of Bluetooth, streaming, AND!! the remote mic!!

I looked around to find this group because I've got a severe case of anxiety about my work transfer next week to a new position, new town, larger work site. I keep worrying about meeting all these new people and whether I'll be able to hear and keep up in this new job. So, I decided to look around and see if I could find a community of friends who face similar issues and might share some laughs and successes and struggles.

I was so happy to find this group. I have always felt isolated and different, no Deaf or young HOH friends in my small towns. I wish I'd been able to access a group like this when I was in college and struggling to take notes, listen/lipread/body language read. One teacher in all those years magically moved my seat up to the front row. How I adored his class!! Did no one ever ask for help in the 70's and 80's??

Today, I'm a wife, mom, librarian, voracious reader, laundry-avoider, wanna-be gardener, Rotarian trying to live out "service above self" and doing my best to never bluff again. Oh, dear, I think this was a long rant.

Has anyone else changed/started a job and have some good advice for me?

Thanks in advance, looking forward to meeting some new friends and learning about better ways to communicate about being HOH.
 
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librarylady said:
Hello, I'm a lifelong hard of hearing person from a family that was totally oblivious. As a parent now, I don't want to complain about things that happened so long ago, but my parents were pretty passive about this and I also think they might have been sort of embarrassed about my hearing loss as it was never mentioned while I was growing up. In my twenties I made my own appointment with the audiologist and bought my own hearing aids. Recently I updated to the wonderful world of Bluetooth, streaming, AND!! the remote mic!!

I looked around to find this group because I've got a severe case of anxiety about my work transfer next week to a new position, new town, larger work site. I keep worrying about meeting all these new people and whether I'll be able to hear and keep up in this new job. So, I decided to look around and see if I could find a community of friends who face similar issues and might share some laughs and successes and struggles.

I was so happy to find this group. I have always felt isolated and different, no Deaf or young HOH friends in my small towns. I wish I'd been able to access a group like this when I was in college and struggling to take notes, listen/lipread/body language read. One teacher in all those years magically moved my seat up to the front row. How I adored his class!! Did no one ever ask for help in the 70's and 80's??

Today, I'm a wife, mom, librarian, voracious reader, laundry-avoider, wanna-be gardener, Rotarian trying to live out "service above self" and doing my best to never bluff again. Oh, dear, I think this was a long rant.

Has anyone else changed/started a job and have some good advice for me?

Thanks in advance, looking forward to meeting some new friends and learning about better ways to communicate about being HOH.
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Welcome! Be open and honest with the people you will now be working with about your hearing loss, they will do whatever they need to do in order to be heard because after all everyone wants to be heard and everyone thinks that what they have to offer is the most important thing you will hear on any given day. Good luck!
 
seb said:
Welcome! Be open and honest with the people you will now be working with about your hearing loss, they will do whatever they need to do in order to be heard because after all everyone wants to be heard and everyone thinks that what they have to offer is the most important thing you will hear on any given day. Good luck!
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Thanks, you are right! In their shoes, they will want me to be able to understand and help them. So I should not get hung up about just telling people some basics, please face me, get my attention, give me a clue about where you are...behind me, look to your left...etc. Thank you for the encouragement!!
 
runner6771 said:
welcome sites like this do help. a hearing loss can really make you feel isolated.
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Thanks, I am looking forward to being a part of this group. This summer during meetings at work two different times I made big mistakes in hearing/understanding/commenting back about what I thought had been said--and the room burst into laughter. I know it's wasn't meant meanly, it just happened, and I don't work directly with most of those people. So, I'm through with asking questions for a while. And appreciate that now that I found this group I have some new friends who will really get how less than fun that actually was.

Thanks and hope you have a fun holiday weekend!
 
Yes :welcome: this little person lives here all year long and can be use as you like . Just click on the' little face ' and you will find more little people . No one knew I was HOH until I was 8 yo and it was my teacher you realize it. She kept me after school and gave me my first hearing test, my family and family doctor who lived 3 houses from me was totally
oblivious about my hearing lost too.
 
whatdidyousay! said:
Yes :welcome: this little person lives here all year long and can be use as you like . Just click on the' little face ' and you will find more little people . No one knew I was HOH until I was 8 yo and it was my teacher you realize it. She kept me after school and gave me my first hearing test, my family and family doctor who lived 3 houses from me was totally
oblivious about my hearing lost too.
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Thanks for showing me that :wave:!

Your story is so similar, I was in 3rd grade and had a school screening, 3 times before the nurse and the teacher accepted that I was actually telling the truth. One visit to the old guy "specialist," and then I made do...until I was in my 20's and wanted to have better days at work and stop missing half of what was being said around me. Did you stay in touch with that teacher who helped you?
 
librarylady said:
Thanks for showing me that :wave:!

Your story is so similar, I was in 3rd grade and had a school screening, 3 times before the nurse and the teacher accepted that I was actually telling the truth. One visit to the old guy "specialist," and then I made do...until I was in my 20's and wanted to have better days at work and stop missing half of what was being said around me. Did you stay in touch with that teacher who helped you?
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I too failed my first hearing test in the 2nd grade and my mother dismissed the letter that was sent home figuring I must of had a cold on the day of the test. then when I failed it again in the 4th grade and the letter arrived, this time I went to an ENT who diagnosed me with hearing loss. I didn't get HA's until my sister let me try hers on and I could not believe what I was missing.
 
I'm so sorry. Thank you for sharing that, it's sad to hear that another kid went through that just like me. Did you finally have your hearing aids to use while you were still in school? The people we love can present us with an amazing mix of challenges.
 
librarylady said:
Thanks for showing me that :wave:!

Your story is so similar, I was in 3rd grade and had a school screening, 3 times before the nurse and the teacher accepted that I was actually telling the truth. One visit to the old guy "specialist," and then I made do...until I was in my 20's and wanted to have better days at work and stop missing half of what was being said around me. Did you stay in touch with that teacher who helped you?
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She lived on the next street over from our house and it was funny b/c her last name was the same name as the street I lived on . The mailman would deliver our mail to my teacher and we would get her so we had go my teacher's house to exchange mail. Our house numbers were the same too so the mailman kept getting our mails mixed up.
I kept telling my dad I didn't hear him when he called me but he didn't believe so he would slap me on my right side of head .
 
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