I thought GLBT folks would cheer for him? or even try to defend him? Aren't you guys happy to know that there is a gay governor?
Well, you're obviously baiting, but I'll go ahead and bite.
What kind of pride are we supposed to have for a man who ruined the lives of his family, which he created under false pretenses? Whatever a person's sexuality, I have little respect for someone who doesn't honor the oaths that they undertook, whether it's matrimony, and oath of office, the Hippocratic Oath, etc. I find his behavior just as distasteful as I would a straight man who cheats on his wife with another woman.
Of course, at the time that this scandal broke out, there were other controversies swarming around the governor, and some people said at the time that his "admission" was a calculated move to detract from some of those other issues.
I have issues with gay people who knowingly enter into a relationship (marriage, or otherwise) with someone of the opposite gender because it's "easier", socially. Normally, though, I shake my head and move on. If those folks aren't at a point in their lives where they feel that they can be who they really are, then I can't judge them for THAT. However, once they enter into that relationship, in my opinion, they are bound by that decision to uphold whatever vow they take. If McGreevey was determined to finally "come out and be himself", then he should have ended his marriage (which, of course, would've been painful... but in the long run, healthier for all involved), which could've been done privately (well, as privately as any public official can manage). There was no need to subject his wife to that kind of public humiliation. I feel sorry for her, too.
Of course, if society were different, then this kind of thing wouldn't happen. Don't get me wrong, he's certainly responsible for his own actions... but it'd be nice if we lived in a world where some gay people didn't feel compelled to try to "fit in" by marrying someone of the opposite gender, if they know in their heart who they are, and who they love. It's SO not fair to the person they marry, and to any children that they manage to conceive. How many lives are ruined because of those kinds of decisions? Of course, when ANYONE cheats on their spouse, regardless of sexual orientation, lives are ruined... so let's be sure to keep that in perspective. This is certainly not a gay-only phenomenon.
though native means a person growing up locally...
