Interesting, no males have spoken yet.
The beginning of the thread was neutral. My own ex was quite verbally abusive, lied to me, had two affairs (one while she was pregnant with the second child. We weren't sure if the 2nd one was even mine for a while...), spent us into bankruptcy, didn't know when to shut up, and blamed everything on me. It wasn't until after we were divorced that she apologized. I wanted to beat the shit out of her almost every single day, but I never laid a hand on her.
She was a hearing person, I am HoH. Her frustration with my hearing was worn on her sleeve, sometimes, and I hated that, even though she knew what she was getting when we married.
And she is now living in my home helping me raise our two boys. She has her room, and I have mine. I hate it. I hate it so bad I could throw her out on her ass and would be happy if I never saw her again. But the boys are 13 and 10, and I think they need their mother as an active participant in their lives. And I need the break, regardless of the emotional shitstorm that goes on in my head. She has a job that does not pay her enough to rent her own place, and she is going to school for computer IT "to help make it better for all of us," so she don't have enough money to give me rent, help with the utilities, buy groceries (she does, sometimes, but not much).
She still gets stupid with her mouth, especially when she is tired, but I can put up with that cuz after 9 years of the boys living with me while she remarried and got divorced I simply need the help.
She dumped me emotionally and physically, and I refused to reconcile when she wanted to. What we have now is not a reconciliation...we do not have sex; she has her own fuck-toy that she visits occasionally, and I just simply do not have the time or energy for a social life after work.
She was as mean as they come without getting physically abusive, but she's changed and is useful to me AND the boys now.
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