Does Virginity Matter?

[SFShawn13]

It used to, but not anymore. I lost my virginity when I was 15 to my "first love." I don't regret it at all and it was a wonderful experience. I don't care if others wait until marriage. But I would rather test drive the car before buying it. Sex isn't all that matters, but it's a factor.

And I agree with what Jiro said about double standards between men and women.

 

[KarissaMann05]

interesting... I am not a virgin and I think it's not a big deal. I don't think kids as young as 12 years old should be doing it. I think an appropriate age for losing virginity is college year... which I did. Having sex during high school or younger is very risky and complicated - it hurts people (family members, jealous friends, etc.)... way too much drama and kids should be studying, not drama'ing.

If you want to lose it - lose it during your college year! At least you're far away from people you know thus less drama, less peer pressure, less etc.. and you're more informed about the risk and STDs. or maybe better - lose it during your honeymoon.
but you know what? this whole concept virginity is fascinating. It's ironic that the "world" or "society" expect women to be virgins and the men's virginity status is of no importance. Women have a long way to go to be on same level as men in terms of society's attitude toward to virginity because feminism just started only a memory ago.

Yes, I am pretty agreed with this bold font. Oh, well. =/

 

[KarissaMann05]

I am goin to re-tell my short story after my graduation...

I was told once by a non-virgin person that I never would forget his/her crappy comment: "If you are a virgin, they would not date or marry you. They will think you are really bored and have no experience. I feel so sad for you. You see, you should be loosen, otherwise, no one will want you. No offense, you are fuckin' very stupid if you save it for marriage. No one will want you unless you are wanted once you lost your worthless virginity, period."

Of course, I was utterly pissed off and was pretty upset by his/her comment...

Well, I blurted out at him/her: "Are you truly love your own girl/boyfriend (that was time he/she dated a person but he/she cheated on two persons anyway) or that panthers you had been spend together? Or is it just need more sex pleasure that you want more? Funny, I don't remember how you have no problem with cheatings because you can get away. Let's say - I think it's so smart to save my virginity for marriage rather than feeling so dirty and used right after having sex with you."

EDIT: I forget to add something. Somebody did make a good point. It's not my own word, it's someone's.

it was amazing for me though. I've always told myself to wait for the right person at the right time which I did. I was 19 when I lost my virginity...

I clearly remember this conversation between me and a girl from my class:
she to one of my friends: are you still a virgin
my friend (who was still a virgin at that time): no i'm not
she turning to me: oh good, but i bet you are!
me: yes, does it matter?
she laughs at me: that's so sad!
me: at least i don't spread my legs for every guy that gives me a bit of attention...

I still remember her face when i said that

 

[LuciaDisturbed]

I know the AllDeaf community here is pretty well mixed in ages, but it seems predominantly to be teenagers here. Right at the age where hormones run wild and sexual activity is becoming more and more the norm. Hollywood has almost put an emphasis on losing your virginity in high school with just about any teen movie made; American Pies series and most every TV drama. And the porn industry has never been more popular or accepted. But then we have also seen the counteracts. Whether true or not, people like Britney Spears and Jessica Simpson claiming to be virgins as it was almost the fad of the day. There does seem to be a rise in abstinence awareness programs, especially in high schools.

Even Outside the 'Religous' circles, people are finding it more rewarding to wait until Marriage. They hold onto it like a precious jewel of sorts, only wanting to give it to the person they marry. And of course, there are those who treat it like a hot-potatoe and get rid of it a quickly as possible. Whether it be for social acceptance with thier peers, or just personal satisfaction.

What are your thoughts on Virginity? Does it hold something special in your life, or it is just a label you don't want?

I don't see a lot of teens here...just a handful. It's mostly adults here.

 

[LuciaDisturbed]

Personally, as much as I like some of these teen movies but I think they put way too much emphasis on sex. The average age of a girl losing her virginity in U.S is 12 and a guy 13. It's too young, too soon, and not enough people know what the hell they're doing. Too many girls are getting pregnant and vanireal diseases are rampant among teenagers.

In my opinion, people need to hold out on sex, at least till 16/17. Earlier then that is way too young, and they should also know the risks.

I lost my virginity when I'm 19.

16/17 is still too young for sex. I don't care that much about virginity, but I think one should wait until she or he is at least 18 years old. I personally think that one should not have sex until she or he is emotionally and psychologically ready for it, and as long as both parties/partners are 18 or over, and they are both consenting adults.

 

[PowerON]

If you should ever die a virgin that would really suck!

Interest thing I read in ancient during Egypt, when they knowledge on women who are virgin and die. They are become the victims as other done on them is Necrophilia. Source is from the book called "Journal of Criminal Psychopathology"

 

[GarnetTigerMom]

Virgin matters a lot. It involves self-respect and respecting the relationship and many more.

Bottom line you don't want to go through many tragic emotional after you broke your virgin to someone and the someone left you because he want to use you or not looking for serious relationship or made mistake with you.

It is really the parent's job to teach the children about the sexual value. Many parents tends to leave that job to the school and the school took it a very horrible job handling with teaching the kids about sex thing.

Amen, I agree with you 100% and I wish I had waited for the right man. Some guys who just like to break women's and teenages girls virgin because they looking for a "score" and that really immature and stupid. But great posting.

 

[web730]

Virgin matters a lot. It involves self-respect and respecting the relationship and many more.

Bottom line you don't want to go through many tragic emotional after you broke your virgin to someone and the someone left you because he want to use you or not looking for serious relationship or made mistake with you.

It is really the parent's job to teach the children about the sexual value. Many parents tends to leave that job to the school and the school took it a very horrible job handling with teaching the kids about sex thing.

Couldn't say any better than this.

Peers must have done much of its job these days especially.

 

[wwefan007]

I'm still a virgin and 20 but I don't care if someone pokes fun at me about it since I want to be safe and not end up getting STDs or getting the woman pregnant without a job.

 

[shel90]

interesting... I am not a virgin and I think it's not a big deal. I don't think kids as young as 12 years old should be doing it. I think an appropriate age for losing virginity is college year... which I did. Having sex during high school or younger is very risky and complicated - it hurts people (family members, jealous friends, etc.)... way too much drama and kids should be studying, not drama'ing.

If you want to lose it - lose it during your college year! At least you're far away from people you know thus less drama, less peer pressure, less etc.. and you're more informed about the risk and STDs. or maybe better - lose it during your honeymoon.

but you know what? this whole concept virginity is fascinating. It's ironic that the "world" or "society" expect women to be virgins and the men's virginity status is of no importance. Women have a long way to go to be on same level as men in terms of society's attitude toward to virginity because feminism just started only a memory ago.

Yea, I concur..lost my virginity in my senior year of high school which was considered (for my high school) late but looking back, I ask myself about myself and my classmates...."What was the big rush?"

Yea, I wonder about why it is a big deal about women staying as a virgin as to keep herself pure but if men stay as virgins, they are considered losers?

 

[kazumi]

wow! alot of virigins here....i sure miss my virgin and wish i cud give it to right guy but oh well, things happen for a reason and since i have alex, my son, and i dont regret by having him but also wish it wud be from the right guy but end up having a wrong guy ugh and yes virigin are very precious and very innocent , wud rather to break it by right guy after marriage ofc its my opinion and yah i arent marry but no one are perfect, ppl made mistakes by careless or on purpose, who knows...