Does a person's eating habits matter when you date someone who avoids junk food ?

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Since , I have been learning about nutrition and eating right. Just curious, does a person's eating habits ruin relationships?
 
If there is love in a relationship, it shouldn't matter if both love each other unconditionally. If one eats junk food, the so would try to encourage to eat healthy food for a change but can not push/force him/her to eat healthy foods. Encouraging as giving support and make for the better to take care of one's another's well being and health.
 
Not necessarily, just make sure the two of you agree on a destination. If he surprises you, consider the best fare that meets your standards, but it really shouldn't be something that may lead to a bad evening.
 
If I were dating a woman that is skinny and eats junk food all the time, it would not bother me so much, but if she is grossly overweight, eats junk food, and tells me to piss off if I suggest that she eats healthier, I definitely would not want to be in a relationship with her.

You cannot change other peoples' habits....only they can.

The most you can do is offer suggestions. If the other person values your opinion, he/she will compromise. If you try to force the other person to comply to your rules, the relationship will be doomed.

As I have learned....you need to evaluate the other person's bad habits and determine whether it is worth losing the relationship over.
 
and sometimes junk food can trigger off their weird moods , i dont like it.
its a sign they have deeper problems than just eating disorders...people craving is often a reaction or inability to deal with something which bothers them
 
green427 said:
If I were dating a woman that is skinny and eats junk food all the time, it would not bother me so much
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But there's people who eat only junk food who are grossly anorexic. that isn't OK either -- they could get so skinny that their body starts to eat the muscles that make up the heart .. then what?
 
shimo, i never thought of that, i mean anorexics dont crave junk food because its 'fattening'? so im abit confused, care to explain bit more there?? thanks
 
shimo said:
But there's people who eat only junk food who are grossly anorexic. that isn't OK either -- they could get so skinny that their body starts to eat the muscles that make up the heart .. then what?
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Are you thinking of bulimics? Anorexics don't eat. Bulimics binge eat junk then throw up. Not that it matters, end result is pretty much the same, I think that either fall into the "bad habits" that green was talking about, and everything he said still applies.

AND some people just have really overactive metabolisms.
 
shimo said:
But there's people who eat only junk food who are grossly anorexic. that isn't OK either -- they could get so skinny that their body starts to eat the muscles that make up the heart .. then what?
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How old are you? If you are under 25, you ain't been around long enough to understand people.

You are missing the point of my statement, which is pretty general. What I am implying is, there are thin people out there that have bad eating habits. If they eat nothing but junk food, it would bother me, but if they do something to offset the bad habit like lots of exercise, it will make me focus less on their bad eating habits.

if a woman is grossly skinny, the outcome for me would be the same...if she is aware of being bulimic, and doing harm to herself, and does not want to do anything about it, resists any kind of help.....I would not want to continue a relationship with her. If she is seeking help and working on it, I would be more inclined to be at her side and help her too.

No matter what, serious mental and physical issues cause problems within relationships. When addiction, emotional issues, or illnesses get out of hand to the point where it affects the significant other's happiness, health, or finances.....it is time to reconsider, especially when that person does not respect how she/he is affecting the relationship.

And, being skinny or fat is not a deal breaker...it is the consequences & issues that follow that cause problems.
 
All of my kids are vegetarians, didn't get that from us. Their significant others all are meat eaters and they don't seem to have any problems. My one daughter who likes to cook will make their meals with and without meat.

As long as you respect each others choices, I don't see a problem.
 
Well -- your question can go either way. it can ruin relationships or it may not bother each other. It all depends on WHAT kind of eating habits and how you are doing it.
One person could be a health freak buying organics and no junk/caffeine. The other buys healthy food- no organics and enjoys morning coffee may get along fine but may resent his/her budget being blown on all organic stuff that cost 2 to 3 times more.
On the other hand- one person might be a athletic and no junk food, but the other eats sauage,bacon, chips, etc could feel disgusted in the relationship as they may feel relationship connection is not there.
What do you think?
 
green427 said:
If I were dating a woman that is skinny and eats junk food all the time, it would not bother me so much, but if she is grossly overweight, eats junk food, and tells me to piss off if I suggest that she eats healthier, I definitely would not want to be in a relationship with her.

You cannot change other peoples' habits....only they can.

The most you can do is offer suggestions. If the other person values your opinion, he/she will compromise. If you try to force the other person to comply to your rules, the relationship will be doomed.

As I have learned....you need to evaluate the other person's bad habits and determine whether it is worth losing the relationship over.
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If someone ate junk food all and they where really skinny I wonder be wondering if that person had any health issues.
 
As long as you are not forcing your view on someone, it should not be a big issue. You should be able to handle going out to eat and making smart choices without causing issues for your partner. And, if have invite a large amount of people to your home, you should realize you may need to serve some unhealthy food.

Your partner should understand what you are going through and be supportive. By the same token, if you are seeking a partner, your lifestyle should influence your decisions.
 
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Grummer said:
it depends if they are kinky lol:giggle:
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You can't get that food porn out of your mind :giggle:
 
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VacationGuy234 said:
As long as you are not forcing your view on someone, it should not be a big issue. You should be able to handle going out to eat and making smart choices without causing issues for your partner. And, if have invite a large amount of people to your home, you should realize you may need to serve some unhealthy food.

Your partner should understand what you are going through and be supportive. By the same token, if you are seeking a partner, your lifestyle should influence your decisions.
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What he said, I think that's what it really boils down to. A lot of "foodies" are almost as bad a new convert to a new religion, if one person in the relationship is trying to change their lifestyle, on one hand I think that the other person should respect that decision and not do stuff like offer the new foodie junk food. On the other, the person going through the new life style change shouldn't push that on the other person. That's where you going to run into problems.
 
I think it's what your do w/the information or the actions of the person - that makes the most difference. A person with an actual eating disorder or clinical depression that impacts their eating - that in itself-could - also certainly "ruin" a relationship. But if the difference is that one person eats "healthier" or "better" than the other one, than I think the bigger thing is how the two people deal with the disparity. My husband eats a lot of things I won't eat - more like the SAD-Standard American Diet - lotta meat and potatoes are what he naturally likes the most. And things like pizza, soda...he does know more about nutrition than he used to, because of me and has changed some of his eating habits. But we still eat very very differently. My diet is very whole-foods, plant-based, raw-ish. He also has a number of physical issues caused by or related to what he eats. I know I can't change him, or use tricks or play games with him to "make" him do things differently. If there are two people in a relationships and one person is attached to having someone eat a certain way, or be a certain way, and that one person can't step aside from that, that in the end will affect the relationship. One's feelings, actions or mental health can't be predicated on the other person-
 
food is none of their business unless, they agree to eat together in about same page.
 
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