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It was happened to me last Tuesday. I decide to put those thread to share my feeling with you all. I feel being discriminated by work colleagues... Would you tell me how you feeling when you were in my shoes.
Well, there are only 3 ladies of us who work together with 15 men in the division where I work for many years & the 4 other men at other division also belong to our division. We shared our birthday celebration for years... We (3 ladies) received a big lovely flowers from 15 men for birthday greeting with no problems but with 4 men is the different. I'm only one who are being treated different than 2 ladies is received a little & lousy bunch flower like cyclamens, begonia, blue daisy, blazing käthchen, gloxinia, primrose, Hydrants etc every year. All what I watched for years is 2 ladies (Rosemarie & Ingrid) received a big lovely flowers from them. I said nothing & keep smile... Oh lovely bah bah....
My hubby, my Dad & few of my friends said it's not nice what 4 men did to me because they should treat us the same because we work together in the same division everyday. Their opinion that I should do something to STOP it like that than let them treat me differently like this is no good because they all know I'm too softie. I should do something is not invite them anymore etc. I can't do that because they would think I'm selfish to expect too much or what. It would be worst if I don't invite them over this. I can do is make an excuse for not invite my friends etc is better than fighting or hassle at privately because I didn't see them everyday but work?
Well, a new lady (Rita) who started work with us last July 2003 ..... The 4 men gave me Hydrant last month. I said NOTHING when 15 men stared & made Mickey out of those "Hydrant" (they thought I don’t' understand what they talk about but they forget quickly that deafie have the strong feeling). My face burnt red like tomato when they laughed at Hydrant & 4 men because it's them who gave me. Well the 4 men also laughed 15 men off, too. The 3 ladies looked at me strangely when I tried to laugh, too & say that it's nice... I like it. Deep in my heart I was real hurt & feel being pissed by them. One month later after that, last Tuesday we were at Rita's (new lady) birthday celebration in canteen. I was REAL :jaw: & can't believe when I saw 4 men gave Rita a big lovely flower like they did to 2 ladies. It finished me totally. I tried to smile & say "how lovely" but the tear come out automatic but I tried to control my emotion down but it's too strong. Rosemarie noticed something wrong with me but I pretend that I'm cold or something wrong with my eyes... Maybe smoking. Sad is I lost my appetite on lovely foods, Rita treated us & walked away to leave my colleagues with puzzled faces. I had a good cry at bathroom until I calm down myself then back to office to leave them celebrate Rita's birthday.
Few hours later after that I apologized Rita for my behavior at her celebration because I know she, Rosemarie & Ingrid are not the blame to being treat different as me from 4 men. Rita accept my apologize saying that it's not my fault & know why because of those flowers... We talked & talked... Rosemarie & Ingrid are very quiet as 15 men, too. T think they knew why but said nothing to me...
The 4 men didn't say once something to me yet. It look like that they don't want to admit their mistakes. They only said that they didn't do it purposely... They claimed that the flowers they gave me is "expensive", that's what I learn from Rosemarie. I was laugh real hard & told her that why can't they take a big flower like they did with 3 ladies if they are not expensive than Hydrant, etc? If 4 men are offense over my behavior is not my problem because I can't see any excuse why I had been treated differently than 3 ladies. Is it reason because of my deafness or what?
I'm thinking about not invite 4 men to birthday celebration in the future if they won't solve those situation with me. I wouldn't join their birthday celebration, too. I got enough to being discriminated by them... Mobbing?
I would forgive them after what they did to me for the past years if they come to solve with me but they didn't.
How you feeling when you are in my shoes?
Please share your opinions with me..... Disagreed or Agree are welcome.
It was happened to me last Tuesday. I decide to put those thread to share my feeling with you all. I feel being discriminated by work colleagues... Would you tell me how you feeling when you were in my shoes.
Well, there are only 3 ladies of us who work together with 15 men in the division where I work for many years & the 4 other men at other division also belong to our division. We shared our birthday celebration for years... We (3 ladies) received a big lovely flowers from 15 men for birthday greeting with no problems but with 4 men is the different. I'm only one who are being treated different than 2 ladies is received a little & lousy bunch flower like cyclamens, begonia, blue daisy, blazing käthchen, gloxinia, primrose, Hydrants etc every year. All what I watched for years is 2 ladies (Rosemarie & Ingrid) received a big lovely flowers from them. I said nothing & keep smile... Oh lovely bah bah....
My hubby, my Dad & few of my friends said it's not nice what 4 men did to me because they should treat us the same because we work together in the same division everyday. Their opinion that I should do something to STOP it like that than let them treat me differently like this is no good because they all know I'm too softie. I should do something is not invite them anymore etc. I can't do that because they would think I'm selfish to expect too much or what. It would be worst if I don't invite them over this. I can do is make an excuse for not invite my friends etc is better than fighting or hassle at privately because I didn't see them everyday but work?
Well, a new lady (Rita) who started work with us last July 2003 ..... The 4 men gave me Hydrant last month. I said NOTHING when 15 men stared & made Mickey out of those "Hydrant" (they thought I don’t' understand what they talk about but they forget quickly that deafie have the strong feeling). My face burnt red like tomato when they laughed at Hydrant & 4 men because it's them who gave me. Well the 4 men also laughed 15 men off, too. The 3 ladies looked at me strangely when I tried to laugh, too & say that it's nice... I like it. Deep in my heart I was real hurt & feel being pissed by them. One month later after that, last Tuesday we were at Rita's (new lady) birthday celebration in canteen. I was REAL :jaw: & can't believe when I saw 4 men gave Rita a big lovely flower like they did to 2 ladies. It finished me totally. I tried to smile & say "how lovely" but the tear come out automatic but I tried to control my emotion down but it's too strong. Rosemarie noticed something wrong with me but I pretend that I'm cold or something wrong with my eyes... Maybe smoking. Sad is I lost my appetite on lovely foods, Rita treated us & walked away to leave my colleagues with puzzled faces. I had a good cry at bathroom until I calm down myself then back to office to leave them celebrate Rita's birthday.
Few hours later after that I apologized Rita for my behavior at her celebration because I know she, Rosemarie & Ingrid are not the blame to being treat different as me from 4 men. Rita accept my apologize saying that it's not my fault & know why because of those flowers... We talked & talked... Rosemarie & Ingrid are very quiet as 15 men, too. T think they knew why but said nothing to me...
The 4 men didn't say once something to me yet. It look like that they don't want to admit their mistakes. They only said that they didn't do it purposely... They claimed that the flowers they gave me is "expensive", that's what I learn from Rosemarie. I was laugh real hard & told her that why can't they take a big flower like they did with 3 ladies if they are not expensive than Hydrant, etc? If 4 men are offense over my behavior is not my problem because I can't see any excuse why I had been treated differently than 3 ladies. Is it reason because of my deafness or what?
I'm thinking about not invite 4 men to birthday celebration in the future if they won't solve those situation with me. I wouldn't join their birthday celebration, too. I got enough to being discriminated by them... Mobbing?
I would forgive them after what they did to me for the past years if they come to solve with me but they didn't.
How you feeling when you are in my shoes?
Please share your opinions with me..... Disagreed or Agree are welcome.