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Deaf258
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I just got home from going to court to watch a case between two of my friends, a dude and a chick. I admit I don't know all the details. But I am peeved and pissed that this is getting out of hand. They have been dating for a while last year, and started having problems. She ended up calling the police on him and filing reports and charges, accusing him of stalking her. I don't understand why she did that when she was stalking him, too! I saw her stalk him before. He went to court in early winter and was ordered to leave her alone which he did. But his former roommate, who is also the brother of the chick, encouraged those two to start talking and being friends again. The chick took this opportunity to try to manipulate the situation with her ex. So, this dude was on cloud 9 again. I tried warning him it is all just a game and should watch out. He yelled at me that I know nothing. I told him I do know, because I had experience of another woman stalking me for a while. Sure enough, she called the police on him as soon as the dude stopped seeing her. He was still stubborn and won't see her, then she threatened to kill herself unless he talks to her. I had another friend call in the suicide threat and the police went to investigate and put her on a citizen welfare check. When the chick confronted this other friend who reported her to the police, he admitted that he was the one who told on her. She smirked and tried to hide her smile. Damn!! It was just a game and that she only did this to get back at the dude! The dude just started dating this awesome gal. Then the chick got pissed and started harrassing the gal about the dude. It put a lot of strain and frustration in the gal's and dude's relationship. Is that fair? What is stalking when the victim becomes the stalker? With all the chick's and dude's legal problems going on, it drove the gal and a few local Deafies nuts. I happened to be one of those Deafies! The dude is one of my best friends and the chick is one of my good friends. Both were constantly telling me whose story is the right one. I told them I am not going to put up with their shit and that it is both of their faults they got into this mess! I based my decision on the proof of their actions, because action speaks stronger than words! A few more unrelated situations happened later and I finally got fed up with the Deaf community. I set some guidelines and boundaries with my friends. I made it known to them that they can either respect them or leave. I know I lost some friends, and some friendships got altered to a more distant relationships. Only the true friends stayed and the friendships got stronger. Did I do the right thing to tell other people with problems to fuck off? Is it the right thing to do to set those boundaries? I think I did a pretty good job of it and there are less problems around me lately!
