Autism and Puberty
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Smack his hand really hard and let him cry. He needs to learn the hard way. That's my answer.
It won't work that way.
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I don't know the full extent of your child's cognitive abilities, etc. But here's what I'm thinking:
For the initial direct instruction of expectation:
First, what things do he like to do? Let's say he likes to play a favorite game with the PS3. Take a picture of the game and paste on an index card. Make a poster with two columns...one with a checkmark (or a happy face) and the other with a frown face or "X" (use the color red). Use velcro so you can put the index card in either column. Now, find several women and men who are willing to role-play (smile). First, let a woman pass by you and you pull down the shirt. Immediately, put the card in the frown/X column. And show that you are taking away the game. When a person (man or woman) passes you and you do not touch that person, then move to the smiling face/checkmark column and play the game for about 30 seconds to show the correlation.
Explain that if he does not touch anyone, then he can play for "X" number of minutes (you decide). After he makes the correlation, then increase the tally to where he has to earn let's say 3 marks...then he can play.
Gradually, add the number of tally marks required for the reward, but make sure he is experiencing some success so he will be motivated to continue the appropriate behavior. Also, vary choices of rewards...up to three different things he likes to do and can choose from. Eventually you will apply this outside of the home, and can keep a small notebook to tally...use the symbols of the poster board to remind him of the consequences. For example, take a picture of the smiling face and frown face or whatever symbol you choose to you and print it...allow him to see it when you feel he might need it.
Also, he needs to know when he CAN look...allow him to explore catalogs such as Victoria's Secret, etc. to satisfy his curiosity. Explain that it's okay (but don't award him for it...only award him for not touching someone else to look).
Am I making sense? lol Modify as needed, of course. Do you have my next text number? I can use the VP at work during my prep if need. Hugs!
For the initial direct instruction of expectation:
First, what things do he like to do? Let's say he likes to play a favorite game with the PS3. Take a picture of the game and paste on an index card. Make a poster with two columns...one with a checkmark (or a happy face) and the other with a frown face or "X" (use the color red). Use velcro so you can put the index card in either column. Now, find several women and men who are willing to role-play (smile). First, let a woman pass by you and you pull down the shirt. Immediately, put the card in the frown/X column. And show that you are taking away the game. When a person (man or woman) passes you and you do not touch that person, then move to the smiling face/checkmark column and play the game for about 30 seconds to show the correlation.
Explain that if he does not touch anyone, then he can play for "X" number of minutes (you decide). After he makes the correlation, then increase the tally to where he has to earn let's say 3 marks...then he can play.
Gradually, add the number of tally marks required for the reward, but make sure he is experiencing some success so he will be motivated to continue the appropriate behavior. Also, vary choices of rewards...up to three different things he likes to do and can choose from. Eventually you will apply this outside of the home, and can keep a small notebook to tally...use the symbols of the poster board to remind him of the consequences. For example, take a picture of the smiling face and frown face or whatever symbol you choose to you and print it...allow him to see it when you feel he might need it.
Also, he needs to know when he CAN look...allow him to explore catalogs such as Victoria's Secret, etc. to satisfy his curiosity. Explain that it's okay (but don't award him for it...only award him for not touching someone else to look).
Am I making sense? lol Modify as needed, of course. Do you have my next text number? I can use the VP at work during my prep if need. Hugs!
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How about not.:roll:
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Jolie, are you SURE you want advice from us???
No doubt. Seems some think the first line of correction should be violence.
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dunno thats hard one, maybe try imagine in his autistic perspective and see if you understand why he think its okay and try to makes him understand in his own way?
dunno thats hard one, maybe try imagine in his autistic perspective and see if you understand why he think its okay and try to makes him understand in his own way?
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Smack his hand really hard and let him cry. He needs to learn the hard way. That's my answer.
Gee, Really? Is that the best you could come up with? Violence is not the answer to everything, autistic or not. Besides that, If I were to condone this kind of behavior towards my son, it will render him to aggressive behavior. That's not what I want.
No, It's a co-ed classroom.
The school does not have a behavior specialist. They do have a counselor, though. However, he has been attending behavior therapy sessions off the site working with his social skills starting with the introduction and such. It's only for once a month. So, Clearly, I will need to work on that with his behavior specialist.
Jolie, are you SURE you want advice from us???
Why not? It doesn't hurt to seek out for more information/answers.
It's funny that you mentioned about the happy/sad face reward system. That is what I have exactly been doing with my son. The behavior specialist also recommended me to use it. So far it has made some progress.
As for getting volunteers to do role-play, I hadn't thought about that but it's an excellent idea! Thanks!
I think I do have your text number, I'm not sure? lol
No doubt. Seems some think the first line of correction should be violence.
I know. It's unbelievable especially when there's a lot of "preaching" that violence shouldn't be condoned.
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I agree I used to babysit two autistic boys. One was hitting the almost pre-teen age and I could tell he would stare at me and grab me sometimes...I would explain to him "no not nice to do (instert behaviour)" and re-iterate it the same way whenever it happened again. I don't know where on the spectrum your son falls but the older boy was more autistic than his younger brother so it was a lot harder to explain what was "not acceptable" to him ..
My family uses the happy face and check mark system for my younger cousins and they're 3 and 5 and we have newer toys on a shelf and if they have 10 good checks for the 5 year old 6 for the younger one and they have to keep those checks for a month or if they're bad they lose a check and only once they get back to 10 checks and keep it they can get their toy
My family uses the happy face and check mark system for my younger cousins and they're 3 and 5 and we have newer toys on a shelf and if they have 10 good checks for the 5 year old 6 for the younger one and they have to keep those checks for a month or if they're bad they lose a check and only once they get back to 10 checks and keep it they can get their toy