Annoying ignorant hearing people stories

DianeR11 said:
First of all...I don't wish deafness on anyone, however I am so grateful to have found others who struggle with this everyday problem.

Everyday I have to tell someone, "I'm sorry, I'm deaf...can you look at me?" I suppose I shouldn't use the I'm sorry part...How do others out there address this to the hearing?

At a work related birthday celebration, everyone was gathering in the conference room to sing happy birthday. A co-worker said "When Diane comes in the room, let's everyone lip-sync so she's the only one singing." Man, people piss me off!
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DianeR11 said:
First of all...I don't wish deafness on anyone, however I am so grateful to have found others who struggle with this everyday problem.

Everyday I have to tell someone, "I'm sorry, I'm deaf...can you look at me?" I suppose I shouldn't use the I'm sorry part...How do others out there address this to the hearing?

At a work related birthday celebration, everyone was gathering in the conference room to sing happy birthday. A co-worker said "When Diane comes in the room, let's everyone lip-sync so she's the only one singing." Man, people piss me off!
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The bold statement that your co-worker wanted everyone in the room to know not to use the voice to sing so that they would know what sounds she made when she sang the birthday song like off key. That was a mean thing for the co-worker to make fun of her being deaf. She or he had no respect for her to be part of the group. She or he isolated her and humiliated her like that. That is terrible. Not only that, this is bully. Words hurts. :(
 
Today has been a particularly rough day so I will vent a little here.

I am taking a class and it is the first class I have taken since my hearing loss and let me say, I am really struggling. I'm 50 so not a kid. My hearing aids were stolen so I am just trying to get by as I can't afford a new pair.

I'm really angry about the way I am treated. The teacher thinks she is helping by talking really loud but all that does is make my tinnitus ring worse.

Then one on one she talks to me really slow. Umm I am just deaf, I'm not stupid. I feel she is very patronising to me.

I process slower and this one guy, the class know it all just blah blah on every topic blurting things out really fast. He is so annoying especially to someone who can't hear.

Then when everyone starts talking at the same time, I am done and I just give up and just sit there and put my head down and write in my notebook. The rooms just echos.

I get tired of telling people to repeat themselves and to talk straight to me and not talk to my back. By the end of the day, I am exhausted and depressed.

Lucky for me, someone is sending me their deceased relatives hearing aids so hopefully that will help.

Thank you for reading this.
 
One of the girls I coach asked me to ...totally not trying to be offensive btw...How do I know the difference b/w a yawn and a scream ...I was like haha seriously?
 
I have anotha one. I went to my doctor's appointment and finally the doctor came in the room. He saw my hearin aid with a surprise look on his face and asked me how it happened. I told him I've been deaf since birth. He wrote down deaf in left ear only. :roll: I had to tell him Im deaf in both ears. When you only see one hearin aid doesnt mean ya nawt deaf in the other ear. I thought he should've known better and ask me about my right ear.
 
I was in the line for the coffee shop at college today. In front of me was a girl, in front of her was a woman. The further cashier started calling next, but the woman was looking at her phone and didn't notice. The first cashier called several more times, and then the second cashier came back to her register and shouted at me and the girl "She's called you, you're next". By this point the woman had looked up from her phone and gone to the first cashier. I told her that the next person had already gone up. The girl was then served by the second cashier very quickly and then the second cashier served me.

While my coffee was being prepared I looked over at the woman and noticed that she was signing to the first cashier, pointing out which bagel she wanted, what size cup she wanted for her coffee. When the second cashier returned with my coffee I told her, "By the way, that woman over there is Deaf, she can't hear you shouting."

"Oh, I wondered why".

Ugh. I wasn't happy about the way they shouted at their customers like that. Even if the woman wasn't Deaf, it was still very rude, not least of all because she shouted at us too.
 
Whenever I try asking my boss something or telling him something.. there's always other employees who interrupt and my boss ignores me and talks to them then to me.. can be one to 4 employees who do that at a given time. So what do I do? If my boss texts me and says to meet him somewhere. I ignore the text and give my time to other people's texts. Read alldeaf.. etc then meet him. Of course he's upset im late. Asks me what happened .. I tell him oh I had other texts I needed to attend. Just like u do to me wwhen i tey to talk to u. Lol now if I need to speak with him we go to a office and he locks the door!!:laugh2: :grouphug::welcome: to equality
 
"But you don't LOOK deaf"
My reply is, "you don't look ignorant but..."
 
Had a neighbor ask why I had the stereo on if I was deaf today. I asked, was it too loud for him and he said no. He liked the Eagles. I told him, if I have it loud enough, I can feel the vibrations. He came inside and saw what I meant and was really surprised.
 
This one happens often. I tell a professor that I have severe to profound hearing loss and even with the most powerful hearing aids available I will ever only understand every third or fourth word that is said (and that is in quiet).
The professor almost always responds with, "I know EXACTLY what you are going through. I've had a cold for almost a week and I can't hear anything."

I usually just look at them and shake my head slowly.

Because understanding 30-40% of pre-recorded words at 100+ dB is EXACTLY the same as having a stuffy head. Also, when I get a cold, my tiny bit of residual hearing is useless.
 
KristinaB said:
Had a neighbor ask why I had the stereo on if I was deaf today. I asked, was it too loud for him and he said no. He liked the Eagles. I told him, if I have it loud enough, I can feel the vibrations. He came inside and saw what I meant and was really surprised.
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Yeah, that's why I have several massive subwoofers at home and in my car. BOOM BOOM POW! :dance:

BTW, I love the Eagles as well.
 
ecp said:
This one happens often. I tell a professor that I have severe to profound hearing loss and even with the most powerful hearing aids available I will ever only understand every third or fourth word that is said (and that is in quiet).
The professor almost always responds with, "I know EXACTLY what you are going through. I've had a cold for almost a week and I can't hear anything."

I usually just look at them and shake my head slowly.

Because understanding 30-40% of pre-recorded words at 100+ dB is EXACTLY the same as having a stuffy head. Also, when I get a cold, my tiny bit of residual hearing is useless.
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I hear ya!! you know what I mean ;) On the other hand, if one of my coworkers gets a head cold and complains they can't hear I'm all "welcome to my world" :giggle:

I went the doc last week, upper respiratory infection, the infection has cleared up but my head is still super congested....I can't hear diddly, everything sounds like I'm in a bubble. But I get that a lot anyway, I have problems with pressure, I have to pop my ears constantly!!
 
Last time I went to my chiropractor, I asked them if they had an e-mail I could make appointments through.

They gave me the business e-mail address and said, "Use this. Michelle checks this every day."

I say, "So I can use this to make appointments?"

"Yes!" they say.


Weeks later..

I e-mail them to make an appointment.

I get no e-mail reply at all.

Days later, I get a transcribed voice mail message through my Google Voice number that says that they received the e-mail and please call them to make an appointment.
 
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DeafBadger said:
Last time I went to my chiropractor, I asked them if they had an e-mail I could make appointments through.

They gave me the business e-mail address and said, "Use this. Michelle checks this every day."

I say, "So I can use this to make appointments?"

"Yes!" they say.


Weeks later..

I e-mail them to make an appointment.

I get no e-mail reply at all.

Days later, I get a transcribed voice mail message through my Google Voice number that says that they received the e-mail and please call them to make an appointment.
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I had a similar thing happen to me. I kept getting calls from my specialist, so I returned their call by ip relay. The receptionist, half-way through the call asked me for my email address and said she would email the specialist!s response to my queries. I never got that email. I also went in person a couple of weeks later to pay the balance of a bill. They said they had something from the specialist for me, as per my request and printed it out for me. At first when I received it I thought. 'Great, now they are 'getting it' ' . But it turned out the paper was a summary of all my appointments and his diagnosis. Although it was good to have in writing, I am still waiting on his rely to my queries.
 
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I had a similar thing happen to me. I kept getting calls from my specialist, so I returned their call by ip relay. The receptionist, half-way through the call asked me for my email address and said she would email the specialist!s response to my queries. I never got that email. I also went in person a couple of weeks later to pay the balance of a bill. They said they had something from the specialist for me, as per my request and printed it out for me. At first when I received it I thought. 'Great, now they are 'getting it' ' . But it turned out the paper was a summary of all my appointments and his diagnosis. Although it was good to have in writing, I am still waiting on his rely to my queries.
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I guess you'll have to pester them yet again for the answers you seek. I don't know why they tell people they'll reply by email or whatever, and then not do it.
 
ambrosia said:
I hear ya!! you know what I mean ;) On the other hand, if one of my coworkers gets a head cold and complains they can't hear I'm all "welcome to my world" :giggle:

I went the doc last week, upper respiratory infection, the infection has cleared up but my head is still super congested....I can't hear diddly, everything sounds like I'm in a bubble. But I get that a lot anyway, I have problems with pressure, I have to pop my ears constantly!!
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God that sounds painful….I remember an experience I had as a grad student, it was during the summer and I was taking an accelerated course: five days a week 8-4. If you missed a day, you were dropped…and I had the bad luck to have an ear infection. Because I had never had an infection, I had no idea what it was. The pain was so bad, I saw the school nurse who said “it looks fine.” It went on…till finally my hearing aid fell out and wouldn’t go back in. (The infection pushed it out.) We had an assignment to visit a Zen Center – but I couldn’t make it because I made an emergency appointment to see a doctor. The course I was taking was Eastern Philosophy; we had watched a video from the Dali Lama on compassion, and moments later I told her about my appointment. Everyone in the class knew I was in pain. In fact, one of the women, a Christian Missionary, prayed over me in class she felt so bad for me. The professor told me that since I was a grad student and missing this trip, I had to write a ten page report. I looked back to the Dali Lama video but she was unmoved.

Anyway, at the doctor, I crawled into the office and the secretary knew right away what it is (and the school nurse didn’t). It was a bacterial ear infection. The doctor asked me how I got it, and I gestured to his white coat saying I didn’t know. It was really bad so he went to clean the area but I was squirming so he stopped, said “Laura, don’t move” and gestured to the sharp instrument he was holding. Being afraid, I did as I was told and closed my eyes. Afterwards he says, “can you hear now.” I said “no, it’s the same,” so he looked panicked and tried cleaning the area again, and said “what about now.” I answered, “no, I never heard anything before either.” I looked at my mother as if to say, “who does he think he is, Annie Sullivan, the miracle worker?” My mother explained it for him as the poor man thought it was too late for me. I don’t want to call him an ignorant hearing person though as he was kind and a very good doctor, but it amused me to no end that for an ear specialist, it didn’t occur to him that I might be hearing impaired.

Laura
 
Lau2046 said:
God that sounds painful….I remember an experience I had as a grad student, it was during the summer and I was taking an accelerated course: five days a week 8-4. If you missed a day, you were dropped…and I had the bad luck to have an ear infection. Because I had never had an infection, I had no idea what it was. The pain was so bad, I saw the school nurse who said “it looks fine.” It went on…till finally my hearing aid fell out and wouldn’t go back in. (The infection pushed it out.) We had an assignment to visit a Zen Center – but I couldn’t make it because I made an emergency appointment to see a doctor. The course I was taking was Eastern Philosophy; we had watched a video from the Dali Lama on compassion, and moments later I told her about my appointment. Everyone in the class knew I was in pain. In fact, one of the women, a Christian Missionary, prayed over me in class she felt so bad for me. The professor told me that since I was a grad student and missing this trip, I had to write a ten page report. I looked back to the Dali Lama video but she was unmoved.

Anyway, at the doctor, I crawled into the office and the secretary knew right away what it is (and the school nurse didn’t). It was a bacterial ear infection. The doctor asked me how I got it, and I gestured to his white coat saying I didn’t know. It was really bad so he went to clean the area but I was squirming so he stopped, said “Laura, don’t move” and gestured to the sharp instrument he was holding. Being afraid, I did as I was told and closed my eyes. Afterwards he says, “can you hear now.” I said “no, it’s the same,” so he looked panicked and tried cleaning the area again, and said “what about now.” I answered, “no, I never heard anything before either.” I looked at my mother as if to say, “who does he think he is, Annie Sullivan, the miracle worker?” My mother explained it for him as the poor man thought it was too late for me. I don’t want to call him an ignorant hearing person though as he was kind and a very good doctor, but it amused me to no end that for an ear specialist, it didn’t occur to him that I might be hearing impaired.

Laura
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Poor doctor probably had a heart attack! :giggle: Accelerated courses are hard enough without being sick for them on top of it.
 
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DeafBadger said:
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I had a similar thing happen to me. I kept getting calls from my specialist, so I returned their call by ip relay. The receptionist, half-way through the call asked me for my email address and said she would email the specialist!s response to my queries. I never got that email. I also went in person a couple of weeks later to pay the balance of a bill. They said they had something from the specialist for me, as per my request and printed it out for me. At first when I received it I thought. 'Great, now they are 'getting it' ' . But it turned out the paper was a summary of all my appointments and his diagnosis. Although it was good to have in writing, I am still waiting on his rely to my queries.
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I guess you'll have to pester them yet again for the answers you seek. I don't know why they tell people they'll reply by email or whatever, and then not do it.
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I was thinking the same.
 
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Last week, I went to arrange an appointment to introduce myself to someone. The interpreter asked me if I needed her to interpret for me or whether I wanted to speak orally myself. Firstly, I am certain I can manage to introduce myself just fine on my own. Thank you very much! Secondly, I have always been voice-off since first meeting these people, although they know I grew up oral. Now, for 2 weeks in a row, the interpreter has asked me to go oral. :shock: Like I have often said, hearing people just cannot fathom life without speech. It seems they cannot get around their need to 'help' us poor Deafies. Grrr.
 
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