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School is what fears me the most.
Hi hearingaidmama! I grew up with a hearing loss. School is important, but so is being included in family conversations including those that happen around the dinner table.
I wasn't and when I tried to be, at best I was ignored. You said you want to be the best mom you want to be so I don't think you will do that to your little girl intentionally -- but I thought I'd mention it anyway.
At your daughter's current degree of hearing loss, I would guess that she will do will at one on one conversations. I suggest being on the lookout to see how she does in group settings -- with family, friends and later school.
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ETA: I also had a very difficult time hearing what other kids were saying unless I was in a one on one situation. Luckily for me the kids I made friends with when I was probably only 2 or 3 were willing to talk much louder for me and we mostly lived in the same neighborhood for about 10 years. But in school and other neighborhoods that I lived in when I was older I didn't get that cooperation and I couldn't hear most of the conversation. IMHO, that caused social deficits. At any rate, it certainly wasn't fun. )
If she doesn't hear well in groups settings IMHO that can make acquiring some of the social knowledge and social skills often taken for granted more difficult. It can also make it more difficult to acquire language including grammar. And I use the word acquire vs. learn intentionally. It seems to me that in our society we expect kids to absorb a lot of knowledge passively vs being explicitly taught it. And if they can hear well or are fluent in sign, I think most kids can. But if they fall in between, they will flounder without intervention.
I was born in 1959 and hearing aids weren't as good while I was growing up as they are now. I missed a lot and most of the time no one stepped in to help close the communication gap. As a result I had lags in certain areas that I hoped I closed later in life -- but obviously I'm sure that you would prefer your daughter learn these things on the same time table that most kids do.
I regret not being taught ASL while I was a child and having that be one of my resources to connect with others.
It's possible that with your child's degree of hearing loss and the current state of HA technology that she may do well in group situations -- but I suggest being on the lookout for that.
AFAIK, its common for hearing loss to increase vs stay stable and since its easier for children to learn foreign languages than adults -- if you can I'd suggest teaching her at least some ASL now. It could be a fun for you both!
FWIW, I'm new to the thread and this post just reflects my personal opinions. I have no formal training in education or hearing loss issues.
ETA2: I got interrupted while writing this post and now I see that you, jillio and ash345 already started talking about the advantages of ASL. Wasn't ignoring you all -- I just write slow!