How do you handle certain situations?

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Here's the deal. I have a female friend who has a daughter, and the father is, shall I say, not very capable of doing things the way a father should be.

Now, this friend has been relying on me for various things, such as legal opinions (after looking up IL laws), and we have covered quite a few topics in a little more than 2 years, and I don't see it ending anytime soon, because not only do I know IL law, I am also the only person she trusts the most to help her with various aspects concerning her daughter.

Now..... as for you, have you ever had to help someone with their child's welfare or other matters?

I forgot to add one minor detail..... I've been at this for 32 months, and will soon be entering my 33rd month.
 
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It may help to mention whether the friend has full or joint custody and go from there.
 
dereksbicycles said:
It may help to mention whether the friend has full or joint custody and go from there.
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She has full custody, but a couple of years ago, she was freaking out about that very topic, and some research turned up a law here in IL that requires the father be declared present to be on the birth certificate, and he didn't bother to show up, so now he is paying the price for not being present when he should've been.
 
It is very nice your friend has you for support.
That said, it is a very sensitive issue that probably shouldn't be posted to a public forum by anyone other then your friend. She should be the one fully in control about what information is put on the internet. Her daughter may someday see it - or the father. If there is any legal action pending the lawyers may stoop to scouring the internet.
Yes, it is unlikely anyone who knows her will ever find this - but there is the chance - and it is not worth it.
 
ChicagoBlue2 said:
Here's the deal. I have a female friend who has a daughter, and the father is, shall I say, not very capable of doing things the way a father should be.

Now, this friend has been relying on me for various things, such as legal opinions (after looking up IL laws), and we have covered quite a few topics in a little more than 2 years, and I don't see it ending anytime soon, because not only do I know IL law, I am also the only person she trusts the most to help her with various aspects concerning her daughter.

Now..... as for you, have you ever had to help someone with their child's welfare or other matters?

I forgot to add one minor detail..... I've been at this for 32 months, and will soon be entering my 33rd month.
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If you aren't' a lawyer the best legal advice you can give is NONE. As a friend, you should help her find her way to real legal advice and help.

If she follows your "advice" she could end up in worse trouble and blaming you for the mess.

As to your question, I would never give so-called legal advice on something so serious as a child's welfare. That could be disastrous.

You are not helping your friend. You're preventing her from getting real help.

You haven't been also helping her financially, have you?
 
Involving with someone who has a child that involves with the legal, is not wise to be involved.

All i do is to encourage anyone to see the lawyer or anyone, not mine I dont want to be involved.
 
Reba said:
If you aren't' a lawyer the best legal advice you can give is NONE. As a friend, you should help her find her way to real legal advice and help.

If she follows your "advice" she could end up in worse trouble and blaming you for the mess.

As to your question, I would never give so-called legal advice on something so serious as a child's welfare. That could be disastrous.

You are not helping your friend. You're preventing her from getting real help.

You haven't been also helping her financially, have you?
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I think the woman is trying to get free legal advice and if Chicagoblues give some wrong advice that could made matter worst , he could end up having to deal with a very angry husband . He should not be getting involved with another guy's family that is only asking for trouble. Chicagoblues
needs to tell the woman he can't do any more for her . I don't he should even help her find a lawyer , he needs to remove himself from the whole thing ,or things could very messy.
 
If I were you, I'd tell her to get a lawyer to sort it out. Messing with the welfare that you do not know or experience can get you into a huge mess.

When it comes to any legal issues, the only advice I can give to anyone is to consult a lawyer.
 
Calvin said:
If I were you, I'd tell her to get a lawyer to sort it out. Messing with the welfare that you do not know or experience can get you into a huge mess.

When it comes to any legal issues, the only advice I can give to anyone is to consult a lawyer.
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Yes but I really think that would depend on who asking you. I think it's best not get involved with a man' family and just say "I am sorry you're having trouble but I can't help you. " You just never know how a guy is going to react to another man giving his woman any advice.
 
Any legal issues is sticky because you never know what the law is on the side... and you wouldn't know what a court would decide. Giving wrong advice can get him/her in a huge mess which can have emotional impact. An experienced lawyer is the best choice to consult with.


whatdidyousay! said:
Yes but I really think that would depend on who asking you. I think it's best not get involved with a man' family and just say "I am sorry you're having trouble but I can't help you. " You just never know how a guy is going to react to another man giving his woman any advice.
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Calvin said:
If I were you, I'd tell her to get a lawyer to sort it out. Messing with the welfare that you do not know or experience can get you into a huge mess.

When it comes to any legal issues, the only advice I can give to anyone is to consult a lawyer.
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For the record, there isn't any legal stuff going on right now, and I have never beem blamed for messing up, mainly because I check my facts first before giving the advice, and some people here seem to think I should remove myself, and I HAVE told her a lawyer is better than I am, but she still wants to rely on me. I have not yet messed up to the point I could get in major trouble, because I'm careful on what advice to give.

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If you check your facts, why can't SHE check facts herself. Google is everyone's friend.
 
Calvin said:
Any legal issues is sticky because you never know what the law is on the side... and you wouldn't know what a court would decide. Giving wrong advice can get him/her in a huge mess which can have emotional impact. An experienced lawyer is the best choice to consult with.
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That is not what I am saying. I just don't think it's wise for a guy to give any advice to another man's woman when they're having trouble with their marriage .
 
MangaReader said:
If you check your facts, why can't SHE check facts herself. Google is everyone's friend.
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Because some laws require certian keyword typing, and she's not good with finding what she's looking for, and I am more than capable of explaining what it means for her. I'm no lawyer, but I use what I have to explain it to her the best I can.

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ChicagoBlue2 said:
For the record, there isn't any legal stuff going on right now, and I have never beem blamed for messing up, mainly because I check my facts first before giving the advice, and some people here seem to think I should remove myself, and I HAVE told her a lawyer is better than I am, but she still wants to rely on me. I have not yet messed up to the point I could get in major trouble, because I'm careful on what advice to give.

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The point is, you should not give anyone any legal advice. It doesn't matter how careful you, you aren't qualified to give legal advice.

When your friend asks, just politely say, "I'm sorry, I'm not qualified to give that kind of advice."

It doesn't matter if she wants to rely on you. You're a grown man who can say "No."
 
whatdidyousay! said:
That is not what I am saying. I just don't think it's wise for a guy to give any advice to another man's woman when they're having trouble with their marriage .
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She's not married. Big difference.

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Reba said:
The point is, you should not give anyone any legal advice. It doesn't matter how careful you, you aren't qualified to give legal advice.

When your friend asks, just politely say, "I'm sorry, I'm not qualified to give that kind of advice."

It doesn't matter if she wants to rely on you. You're a grown man who can say "No."
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You're right, I'm not qualified, which is why I have encouraged her to hire her owm lawyer, and let me out of this. I do not want to one day find myself in that spot when I gave the wrong advice, but she does have family who can give her the advice I can't, but problem is, she's the only one who is deaf, and her family barely signs, so that's just one reason why I don't need to be doing this, and I'll be honest-- I've gotten weary of doimg this.

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