What Ticks You Off (Most) About Hearies?

BrittBritt said:
Yesterday, my husband and I were arguing because I wanted him to go to a dinner party with me at a friend's house, and he didn't want to go. We argued about it, then I finally gave up and left by myself. 15 min after I drive away, he texts me and says, "I dont know why you left without me. I said I'd go like 5 times." :mad: NO he didn't! But because I am hoh, he thinks he can make up that he said something when he didn't, and that I can't argue back about it. And kind of, I can't really argue back because I can't say, "I hear perfectly fine." But I know he is lying because I was looking at him the whole time we were arguing, and I would have seen him say it (I read lips and I have risidual hearing). Now he thinks I can't be mad at him because he just going to lie and say that he said something he didn't, and blame my hearing to make it my fault. Ugh! Any of you have something like this happen?
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My ex hubby used to do that to me all the time and it put so much strain on us. That's why he is an ex and someone I hope to never see again.
 
naisho said:
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I'm just wondering if it is generic male behavior, we know the deaf guys are not exactly saints either...:ugh:
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:hmm: Hmmmm....You have a point! :giggle:

I really do adore my Lovebug. We have been together for 10 years. But this blaming my loss of hearing to lie about an argument is so LAME. I might bitch slap him next time he does it! :slap: I was so taken back and shocked by his strategy because my hearing loss has only recently become severe. It never even crossed my mind that someone would do that! Some say "all's fair in love and war," but I cry foul!! I had a feeling some of you had had this crap pulled on you before! This isn't your guys first rodeo.
 
Few days ago, I took my deaf/autistic son to a follow up appt. Prior to the appt, the interpreter sat with me and we had a conversation. I didn't know who she was, so I forewarned her that my son is deaf and autistic. The first question she asked me was, "Does he need to have taticle signs?" I was like, "No, he's not blind. He's autistic and he can see you." Ugh. It probably was an innocent question on her part but, still, inside of me, I was like, wow what a question it was.
 
BrittBritt said:
:hmm: Hmmmm....You have a point! :giggle:

I really do adore my Lovebug. We have been together for 10 years. But this blaming my loss of hearing to lie about an argument is so LAME. I might bitch slap him next time he does it! :slap: I was so taken back and shocked by his strategy because my hearing loss has only recently become severe. It never even crossed my mind that someone would do that! Some say "all's fair in love and war," but I cry foul!! I had a feeling some of you had had this crap pulled on you before! This isn't your guys first rodeo.
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I'd cry foul too. If my boyfriend ever did that, I'd kick his ass. Sometimes he says, "nevermind" but he's usually good about repeating himself. He's frustrated, me too, but he tries to fill in the gaps when I need him to. He's willing to to sign with me if I need him to down the line. I sign a few words while I'm talking to him and he's picked up enough this way so now if I sign something, he understands sometimes. VERY helpful during his huuuuge family get-togethers!
 
BrittBritt said:
:hmm: Hmmmm....You have a point! :giggle:

I really do adore my Lovebug. We have been together for 10 years. But this blaming my loss of hearing to lie about an argument is so LAME. I might bitch slap him next time he does it! :slap: I was so taken back and shocked by his strategy because my hearing loss has only recently become severe. It never even crossed my mind that someone would do that! Some say "all's fair in love and war," but I cry foul!! I had a feeling some of you had had this crap pulled on you before! This isn't your guys first rodeo.
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Yeah, it is lame. I've had that happen before on the relatives level, where my cousin would say "nothing" if I asked to repeat what I missed. Later on when I caught the information from someone else, I would be surprised "Oh, I didn't know that, alright." That cousin would jump in and say, "Yeah, I told you earlier but you didn't hear me anyway." It was pretty annoying because I knew it was a white lie, but my inability to hear conversations was being made into something to a scapegoat to blame. It was like my cousin wanted me to realize the fact that I have hearing loss again.

One of the ones I hated the most was back when most of my friends were hearing, I felt like I got left out sometimes.
They would say to me, "We're going to go over to ____ later. Want to go?" When it was time, I found out that they already had left without telling me.
 
naisho said:
Yeah, it is lame. I've had that happen before on the relatives level, where my cousin would say "nothing" if I asked to repeat what I missed. Later on when I caught the information from someone else, I would be surprised "Oh, I didn't know that, alright." That cousin would jump in and say, "Yeah, I told you earlier but you didn't hear me anyway." It was pretty annoying because I knew it was a white lie, but my inability to hear conversations was being made into something to a scapegoat to blame.
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That irks me to no end. I've had that happen to me too. Not so much from family but from former workplaces. Sometimes if a project went wrong I would have fingers pointed at me for not listening hard enough, even if the project going wrong had nothing to do with me.
 
ambrosia said:
"Never mind" Those have become the my 2 most hated words in the English language.
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Same for me. Somebody here had a quote that I really liked... I don't remember it exactly but it went something like this...

I hate it when people say nevermind it was not important. I did not ask if it was important. I simply asked you to repeat yourself.
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... or something like that. It really resonated with me.
 
dereksbicycles said:
My ex girlfriend complained that interpreting for me was a burden. I'm glad I didn't get her a ring.
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I think it was a litte more involved than that if I recall....you compared her to your former girlfriend who was deaf...and I had to wonder if she was so perfect, your deaf ex, why was she your ex? When people drop the biased attitudes, they find things are pretty much the same for everyone.....

Laura
 
I seriously think CPS need to realize Deaf parents are not terrible persons or incapable of raising their kids. I really hope none of you guys would have to deal with a stressful situation like someone I personally know. :(
 
NitroHonda said:
Same for me. Somebody here had a quote that I really liked... I don't remember it exactly but it went something like this...

I hate it when people say nevermind it was not important. I did not ask if it was important. I simply asked you to repeat yourself.

... or something like that. It really resonated with me.
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I love that, I am so using that!!
 
Lately, hearing people havent been ticking me off. Hearing people in the DC area (MD, DC, and Northern VA) have been exposed to Deaf people and ASL so they are pretty cool with us. :)

I love it here.
 
Lau2046 said:
I think it was a litte more involved than that if I recall....you compared her to your former girlfriend who was deaf...and I had to wonder if she was so perfect, your deaf ex, why was she your ex? When people drop the biased attitudes, they find things are pretty much the same for everyone.....

Laura
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There were a lot of stuffs, but I'll heal on away from this particular deaf/hearing relationship.
 
soulchill said:
Why do some people get so mad with me when I can't understand them? I'm frustrated too. Why you got to make it personal???
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Right? This happens all the time. To avoid getting snapped at, now sometimes I just give up. For instance, this morning, I asked my brother if the dishes in the dishwasher had been ran. He mumbled an answer, and I couldn't hear it or read his lips since he mumbled. So I asked him to repeat himself. At that point, since he knows I am hard of hearing, it would be nice if he made an effort to face me and give me a clear response. Instead, he mumbles in the same fashion. Of course, I couldn't understand. I didn't ask him to repeat again because I know by now that if I ask him to repeat for a third time, he will get mad and snap at me. So I just walked away. I figured, I'll just run the damn dishwasher either way. Even if they are clean, can't hurt to run them again, I guess.

I do this a lot now. I don't want to get my feelings hurt by someone snapping at me, so I ask them to repeat once. If I don't hear it, I just drop it. It bums me out though.
 
Britt, I know how you feel sister. About 50% of the hearies make me want to slap them on the head.
 
BrittBritt said:
Right? This happens all the time. To avoid getting snapped at, now sometimes I just give up. For instance, this morning, I asked my brother if the dishes in the dishwasher had been ran. He mumbled an answer, and I couldn't hear it or read his lips since he mumbled. So I asked him to repeat himself. At that point, since he knows I am hard of hearing, it would be nice if he made an effort to face me and give me a clear response. Instead, he mumbles in the same fashion. Of course, I couldn't understand. I didn't ask him to repeat again because I know by now that if I ask him to repeat for a third time, he will get mad and snap at me. So I just walked away. I figured, I'll just run the damn dishwasher either way. Even if they are clean, can't hurt to run them again, I guess.

I do this a lot now. I don't want to get my feelings hurt by someone snapping at me, so I ask them to repeat once. If I don't hear it, I just drop it. It bums me out though.
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I'm pretty crotchety, so do a good bit of snapping as well when things escalate. Things sometimes end in the dreaded "NEVER MIND!" from either side.
 
I work at an arts and crafts store.

Customer: *mumbles*
Me: I'm sorry, sir, can you speak up? I have issues hearing with all the noise here.
Customer: Oh! I'm so sorry! You're hearing impaired? Do you know Braille?
Me: *atomic facepalm*
 
Hey, everybody. Since I did not "get through" to Amazon why this product should not be showing up when searching for "Products for Deaf", maybe others here can contact them and if they get enough of us contacting them, they'll realize that this does not belong under that search.

First Alert SC07CN Battery Operated Combination Smoke/Carbon Monoxide Alarm with Voice Location by First Alert (May 2, 2007)

It shows up on the 2nd page when I do my search.
 
LoveBlue said:
Hey, everybody. Since I did not "get through" to Amazon why this product should not be showing up when searching for "Products for Deaf", maybe others here can contact them and if they get enough of us contacting them, they'll realize that this does not belong under that search.

First Alert SC07CN Battery Operated Combination Smoke/Carbon Monoxide Alarm with Voice Location by First Alert (May 2, 2007)

It shows up on the 2nd page when I do my search.
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Here from the description is the reason it should be in the products for deaf.

2 systems work independently to detect both fire and carbon monoxide View larger.


Where does carbon monoxide come from?
Two-in-One Alarm System Protects Your Family
The SC07CN is unique because it features two alarm systems that work independently to detect both evidence of fire and carbon monoxide (CO). Easily programmable, this device features separate audible and visible signals that indicate dangerous levels of smoke or CO.

For example, if a high level of CO is detected in your kitchen, you'll hear a clear message saying, "Warning: evacuate. Carbon monoxide in kitchen. Evacuate." You'll also hear a loud, 85-decibel alarm and see a flashing red LED that clearly indicates the nature of the threat. Together, these audible and visible signals let you know precisely where the danger is, so you can plan the safest possible escape route. This extra level of protection is something a standard alarm simply can't
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