Times you Disliked Being Deaf/HOH

I try not to be bothered when family members get a little impatient with my requests to repeat themselves. I always forgive them, but with others I get cold as ice when I express my disappointment.
 
Beowulf said:
I try not to be bothered when family members get a little impatient with my requests to repeat themselves. I always forgive them, but with others I get cold as ice when I express my disappointment.
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What's sad is that I have better relationships with Deaf, or hearies who understand Deaf world, culture, language and communication needs.

I have given up on my family ever understanding or accommodating. My own children I have hope for. In fact, my eldest daughter is expecting, again, :roll: (yeah, yeah, I *SHOULD* be happy) but she tell me she will teach that one ASL just like her other 3. That make me happy.
 
rebeccalj said:
What's sad is that I have better relationships with Deaf, or hearies who understand Deaf world, culture, language and communication needs.

I have given up on my family ever understanding or accommodating. My own children I have hope for. In fact, my eldest daughter is expecting, again, :roll: (yeah, yeah, I *SHOULD* be happy) but she tell me she will teach that one ASL just like her other 3. That make me happy.
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I guess my family is used to me. :lol: When we get together to have a dinner at the table, they don't tell me what is being said, but that is okay, because I am used to them as well. They look at me and smile and listen to everything I say, but they know I cannot follow the conversations. That is okay, too, because they know I am comfortable being the way I am, so they are comfortable as well.
 
For me being able to express myself to get a point across has always been important. I'm Oral Deaf...and when I express anger or sadness people confuse one for the other and I have to clarify that no, I'm not angry, I'm sad or no, I'm not sad I'm angry. You can insert any other emotion in that too. I have sometimes wished that I had a normal speaking voice because it's not as effective and thus it's just pointless for me to even speak at all.

for the most part I'm proud to be Deaf...but when I cannot express myself verbally it's when I wish I could be like " them ". How easy they make it look.
 
Jaspheth said:
For me being able to express myself to get a point across has always been important. I'm Oral Deaf...and when I express anger or sadness people confuse one for the other and I have to clarify that no, I'm not angry, I'm sad or no, I'm not sad I'm angry. You can insert any other emotion in that too. I have sometimes wished that I had a normal speaking voice because it's not as effective and thus it's just pointless for me to even speak at all.

for the most part I'm proud to be Deaf...but when I cannot express myself verbally it's when I wish I could be like " them ". How easy they make it look.
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That must be frustrating. For me, I can't speak properly when upset and prefer to sign. So much easier for me to express feelings through sign versus voice.
 
rebeccalj said:
That must be frustrating. For me, I can't speak properly when upset and prefer to sign. So much easier for me to express feelings through sign versus voice.
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I understand tough not easy because pretty you frustrated! Pretty

you hearing or deaf depend your voice hard!
 
Oh, many times. Just please don't preach - it's just life.

For example when my friends invite me to watch a newest PPV movie at their home, and turns out the TV or whatever dicks didn't provide
CC nor any subtitles.
They watch the pre-paid movie, and I sit like The Dog :(

Or when I waited for, say, a big kahuna dr's apmnt 12 months
to find out he speaks so quiet I understand nothing :(

Or when we are camping, it's dark and all my friends are having fun and I am bored.

Or when my daughter tries to emergency communicate with me on the phone
and I can't understand. :(

(Still, I value that I can hear and grew up in hearing environment.
But I wish I also was given an opportunity to sign and belong to D-C)

Fuzzy
 
Audiofuzzy said:
Oh, many times. Just please don't preach - it's just life.

For example when my friends invite me to watch a newest PPV movie at their home, and turns out the TV or whatever dicks didn't provide
CC nor any subtitles.
They watch the pre-paid movie, and I sit like The Dog :(

Or when I waited for, say, a big kahuna dr's apmnt 12 months
to find out he speaks so quiet I understand nothing :(

Or when we are camping, it's dark and all my friends are having fun and I am bored.

Or when my daughter tries to emergency communicate with me on the phone
and I can't understand. :(

(Still, I value that I can hear and grew up in hearing environment.
But I wish I also was given an opportunity to sign and belong to D-C)

Fuzzy
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Preach what?
 
Audiofuzzy said:
ahh, never mind...
thanks for your post.

Fuzzy
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*GASP*!!!! Did you just say "never mind"?!

;)

I was just wondering what preaching you were talking about in regards to the rest of your post, scrolled back a couple of pages and didn't get what preaching you were talking about. My curiosity was piqued.
 
Just that I always appear so pro speech, pro hearing pro CI
etc that I was truly expecting
peeps say "see, that's why it is better to know ASL and belong to "Deafies" :)

.. and it's right of course, too. that's why I regret not being sent to a SL courses, and not being introduced to a Deaf Comm early.
it's complicated.

Fuzzy
 
Audiofuzzy said:
Just that I always appear so pro speech, pro hearing pro CI
etc that I was truly expecting
peeps say "see, that's why it is better to know ASL and belong to "Deafies" :)

.. and it's right of course, too. that's why I regret not being sent to a SL courses, and not being introduced to a Deaf Comm early.
it's complicated.

Fuzzy
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Never too late to go to a class to learn sign language and immerse yourself in the deaf community, actually.

There are members here into their 40's and 50's doing just that.
 
posts from hell said:
Never too late to go to a class to learn sign language and immerse yourself in the deaf community, actually.

There are members here into their 40's and 50's doing just that.
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:wave: I'm 40! Just started studying ASL seriously in April. Never too late at all.
 
when I joined here in 2006 I didn't know a single shred of asl. :cool:

Starting 2008 after hanging around here for awhile I started picking stuff up online. Then took some classes and so on by 2009 and went to deaf events from 09 until now. 5 years of being here. So it's never too late, fuzzy. ;)
 
walrus said:
mostly when i cant hear the cat purr, and everyone says (cant you hear it....no duh you know I cant woman!) the birds whistling id like too hear nature but other than that my lifes peachy keen, oh and also it would be easier to hear an assassin creeping up on me if I was well hearing.
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I hated it that I could not hear my daugther whistle when she was 6 months old! My sister starting whistling at my baby and I asked why is she doing that
and my sister said my baby started whistling first! I never heard it! I feel so cheated!
 
I know it's never too late.

But I have a whole slew of health problems that make me very tired and limit my activities to practically sitting on couch day after day.
I see my actual friends very little. when will I have time for new ones?

I am not making excuses. It's just the way my life is - drained of any energy...
my drs are not interested in finding why. canadian medical system SUCKS!

Fizzy-ied-out...
 
Audiofuzzy said:
I know it's never too late.

But I have a whole slew of health problems that make me very tired and limit my activities to practically sitting on couch day after day.
I see my actual friends very little. when will I have time for new ones?

I am not making excuses. It's just the way my life is - drained of any energy...
my drs are not interested in finding why. canadian medical system SUCKS!

Fizzy-ied-out...
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Just an idea, but maybe you could learn online and collect video phone numbers from local deaf people and talk to them on a regular basis. Do a potluck once in a while at your home or other's homes. Taking it slow, one day at a time, one year at a time.
 
When I'd meet a hearing girl who happened to like me, then she'll notice my hearing aid, and go something like "Ew. What is that in your ear" or all of a sudden stop talking to me and walk away, or both. Happened a few times when I was a virgin teen, and I wished I wasn't HoH then. Now that I think about it, it's funny how it happened. :)
 
When wearing my watches....In fact I very rarely wear one anymore. Worried I might not sense the mugger coming from behind.
 
TXgolfer said:
When wearing my watches....In fact I very rarely wear one anymore. Worried I might not sense the mugger coming from behind.
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Solution. ;)

Seriously, though, yeah I'd be wary of walking in some places because I won't hear someone behind me. I agree with you on that one.
 
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