Childs behavior

deafdyke said:
I do think this may be a lot more common...having bilingal dhh kids. I do think that with my generation of kids becoming parents, that they may be more open to a bilingal route. It does seem that a lot of parents who chose the oral only route in the past, were doing so in part b/c a) They thought of ASL as something that had a HUGE stigma of "disablity" They saw oral only as something more "normal" That attitude is still around, but has lessened and b) Most parents of past years really didn't have a lot of exposure to kids with disabilites while growing up. That in turn freaked them out b/c they didn't know what a real live dhh person's life was like growing up.
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I'm hoping that some of what we see is generational. It could go one of two ways. The generation becoming parents more open to bilingual education and environments, or a greater reliance on "advanced technology". The 20 somethings appear to be very tech oriented, which would make them more prone to less technological interventions. I think we are seeing a lot of this in the attitude toward CI. I am hearing the same thing said about CI that I heard about digital aids 20 years ago. This is the newest technology that will change the world of deafness. It has been said about technology for my lifetime. And the thing is, with each improvement, we don't see much changing in the world of deafness, because for real change to occur, we have to approach it from the deaf perspective.
 
I totally agree with you! I think there will be superstars, as there are in every generation. But what the "yay deaf kids can hear and talk" people do not understand, is that implanted kids are HOH. Yes, some of them are gonna be "almost hearing" But hoh kids still have lots of social emotional and educaitonal delays too! Their theory is that hoh kids don't "need" ASL.......:roll:
The generation becoming parents more open to bilingual education and environments, or a greater reliance on "advanced technology". The 20 somethings appear to be very tech oriented, which would make them more prone to less technological interventions. I think we are seeing a lot of this in the attitude toward CI. I am hearing the same thing said about CI that I heard about digital aids 20 years ago.
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I think we'll have a bunch of parents going full toolbox. And I mean, not to mention with the sky high cost of health care, it won't be soon before they start cracking down on who can or can't have CI. And I mean.....god, parents from for example, inner cities or whatever will still have a lot of problems finding good speech therapists or avters or whatever.
 
jillio said:
I'm hoping that some of what we see is generational. It could go one of two ways. The generation becoming parents more open to bilingual education and environments, or a greater reliance on "advanced technology". The 20 somethings appear to be very tech oriented, which would make them more prone to less technological interventions. I think we are seeing a lot of this in the attitude toward CI. I am hearing the same thing said about CI that I heard about digital aids 20 years ago. This is the newest technology that will change the world of deafness. It has been said about technology for my lifetime. And the thing is, with each improvement, we don't see much changing in the world of deafness, because for real change to occur, we have to approach it from the deaf perspective.
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I am soooo sick of people approaching deafness from their hearing perspective. :roll:
 
I know tell me about it shel, BUT I do think that this generation of parents will be less "Oh I want to pretend I have a healthy normal kid, so I'm just going to give them ONLY speech and only mainstreaming with minimal accomondations" AG Bell and more " My kid can be bilingal. A lot of twenty and thirtysomethings find ASL to be wicked cool and something fun, rather then something with the stigma of "oh boo hoo hoo my child has SPECIAL NEEDS!"
 
We'd never have growth with the bilingual approach as long as we are still lacking resources to help parents/family members acquire ASL as well. That's a major problem right now. How can we expect the child to acquire ASL alongside English if the parents don't have access to ASL resources to learn the language themselves? Before we can use a toolbox, we need to make sure they have the tools in the box.
 
deafbajagal said:
We'd never have growth with the bilingual approach as long as we are still lacking resources to help parents/family members acquire ASL as well. That's a major problem right now. How can we expect the child to acquire ASL alongside English if the parents don't have access to ASL resources to learn the language themselves? Before we can use a toolbox, we need to make sure they have the tools in the box.
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Good point. Govt should subside ASL resources for parents.
 
deafskeptic said:
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So, what are any of you out there doing to help parents of newly ID'ed deaf kids? Are you becoming deaf mentors? Volunteering with organizations that serve these parents? Checking out the Early interventions in your area to see how to help? Or are you merely applauding each other on a Deaf message board?
 
faire_jour said:
So, what are any of you out there doing to help parents of newly ID'ed deaf kids? Are you becoming deaf mentors? Volunteering with organizations that serve these parents? Checking out the Early interventions in your area to see how to help? Or are you merely applauding each other on a Deaf message board?
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Nice degrading attitude.
 
KJackgirl said:
Im a parent with 3 years old son too who have BI-CI too..I am going through the same thing as you. Its just a testing stage and he has been driving me crazy too. But the best thing is to..when he/she acts like that. Calmly walk her to the timeout spot and tell her that you're giving her a TO until she stop screaming or crying or acting out. I did that with my son..its getting better every time..so he knows that Im not gonna "fight" with him..nor put up with his "behaviours" every time. That is the key. If she run away..take her again and sit her down. Don't talk to her or make eye contact. keep doing it until she calm down and then after 3 minutes (one minute per age) then you tell her that you gave her TO cuz of what she did wrong.."screaming or fighting.." and now that she is calm ..you can reason what you want her to do or tell her what you want to say. Remember keep to her level..eye contact level too. stay calm..I know it;s easy to get rev up but this best example to "role model" so you can expect the best behaviour from her.
if you want you can email me privately..let me know. Im an Early Childhood Educator with Sp. Needs for almost 20 years and work with children who have hearing loss. PLUS my son is deaf as well..we used BOTH speech and ASL. (and I also have profound hearing loss too..)
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mmm... My daughter never had this problem. My parenting style was different though.
 
faire_jour said:
So, what are any of you out there doing to help parents of newly ID'ed deaf kids? Are you becoming deaf mentors? Volunteering with organizations that serve these parents? Checking out the Early interventions in your area to see how to help? Or are you merely applauding each other on a Deaf message board?
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I have done more to assist parents of newly diagnosed children than can be listed here. And the people on this forum make themselves and their personal experiences with living with deafness available to anyone who wants to access it. And it is their experience that is most valuable to both parents and deaf children. I know that deaf individuals went out of their way to help me after my son was diagnosed. Never once did I encounter a single soul that was too busy to make time for me or my son. The deaf community has, historically, been very willing to help hearing parents with raising a deaf child. And I find that it is the same today.

My question would be, how do you manage to do all you claim to do, and still spend as much time on a message board and your website dedicated to your daughter as you do. I can safely assume that you only have 24 hours in a day the same as the rest of us.

And a +7.
 
jillio said:
My question would be, how do you manage to do all you claim to do, and still spend as much time on a message board and your website dedicated to your daughter as you do. I can safely assume that you only have 24 hours in a day the same as the rest of us.
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:laugh2::laugh2::laugh2::laugh2::laugh2::laugh2:

Says Jillio in post #39,222: Wherever DO you get the time to post here?
 
posts from hell said:
mmm... My daughter never had this problem. My parenting style was different though.
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I agree. My son had sign available to him shortly after diagnosis. Every single day he interracted with deaf signers so that he was able to develop communication skills very quickly. A child that is acting out is doing so because they have reached the age where they should be able to express not just their needs and wants, but to be able to talk about the world around them and to express feelings. A child without sufficient communication skills for their age is terribly, terribly frustrated. When you punish them for simply not being able to communicate, you add to the frustration, and the behavior gets even worse. Address the communication issues and the behavior will take care of itself.
 
I have done more to assist parents of newly diagnosed children than can be listed here.
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And I wish there were more of you!!!! Seriously, I do think that if more parents were referred to adocates like you, people who understand that "yes deaf kids need speech and hearing, but it shouldn't come at the expense of using other tools in the toolbox."
then AG Bell and the oral programs would be struggling for funding.
Oral only assumes that a dhh kid will be able to access all the advantages of being hearing. It does not. Virtually all of the people raised orally, even thou they have access to the hearing world, and hearing and speaking still express a lot of issues and frustrations with being dhh!
 
GrendelQ said:
:laugh2::laugh2::laugh2::laugh2::laugh2::laugh2:

Says Jillio in post #39,222: Wherever DO you get the time to post here?
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Well - all I can say is, she's been here 2 years longer than FJ and she has time between client most likely. Having worked with people in her profession, there is always time between clients. She probably spent a lot of time on AD at the beginning either getting info for herself and son, or helping others. She also has quite a few posts that are smilies and a few words here and there. I like having her here and value what she has to say, so it's all good in my opinion.
 
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