freckles
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I've been thinking about this long weekend, still not sure whether to tell or just leave out of this.
sticky situation it is. last may I was babysitting two kids of my friend's, their mother, R. a long time friend. all of sudden R came home way early than usual and she was crying, sobbing. I asked if anything I could do. she said to not worry, just "bad news" she got about her work.
fast forward to last weekend, july 4th party. saw R with her family, 2 kids and hubby, M there. at one point we, R & me, just us out by corner of lawn--we were talking about stuff and work, I asked if everything's good at work now. she finally told me the truth yet have never told her hubby M yet and "never will." that she, uh, had an abortion whose baby "accidentally" was from a different guy.
part of me truly want to slap her and say what's matter with you?? (affair, abortion and secret). part of me want to just tell M the truth. I love that guy, a very good guy, a father who loves his kids more than his passions (he has 4, two are still minors). a former cop, I consider him my father too. I feel M deserves to know the truth... but I am afraid I'll make it worse or maybe it's not necessary at all since it's really between them? I'd hate to lose both of them either way. not telling him or telling on her.
what would you do?
I could tell it was an 'accident'. R wouldn't mean anything and loves M very much just equally--just that she drifts out of her mind sometimes. I sure hope that was her last (and first) time; she swore it'll never happen again.. what bothers me most is I'm still and will still babysit the little kids --I'll be walking around and see the father with guilty of 'secret' in back of my head for next few years.
too bad. too bad this happened.
sticky situation it is. last may I was babysitting two kids of my friend's, their mother, R. a long time friend. all of sudden R came home way early than usual and she was crying, sobbing. I asked if anything I could do. she said to not worry, just "bad news" she got about her work.
fast forward to last weekend, july 4th party. saw R with her family, 2 kids and hubby, M there. at one point we, R & me, just us out by corner of lawn--we were talking about stuff and work, I asked if everything's good at work now. she finally told me the truth yet have never told her hubby M yet and "never will." that she, uh, had an abortion whose baby "accidentally" was from a different guy.
part of me truly want to slap her and say what's matter with you?? (affair, abortion and secret). part of me want to just tell M the truth. I love that guy, a very good guy, a father who loves his kids more than his passions (he has 4, two are still minors). a former cop, I consider him my father too. I feel M deserves to know the truth... but I am afraid I'll make it worse or maybe it's not necessary at all since it's really between them? I'd hate to lose both of them either way. not telling him or telling on her.
what would you do?
I could tell it was an 'accident'. R wouldn't mean anything and loves M very much just equally--just that she drifts out of her mind sometimes. I sure hope that was her last (and first) time; she swore it'll never happen again.. what bothers me most is I'm still and will still babysit the little kids --I'll be walking around and see the father with guilty of 'secret' in back of my head for next few years.
too bad. too bad this happened.