What is it like to be hearing?

I was joking with my brother's date yesterday when I hung out with her for girls' night out. She was complaining that she couldnt sleep at the house she is staying because of the dogs barking all night. I told her that a deaf person would be perfect for her house and dogsitting job because we could sleep through the barking! :lol:
 
shel90 said:
I was joking with my brother's date yesterday when I hung out with her for girls' night out. She was complaining that she couldnt sleep at the house she is staying because of the dogs barking all night. I told her that a deaf person would be perfect for her house and dogsitting job because we could sleep through the barking! :lol:
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That's true. I have never heard a dog barking at night. Do they want to hire me?? :lol:
 
One thing hearies can sometimes do - they can tell where someone is from simply from his accent. One can usually pick out a born and raised New Yorker, Bostonian, Southern, etc.

When I could hear well, I had to really concentrate to understand some of the Brits. The Brits here can better explain about the various British accents. A friend from England told me there are different accents in different neighborhoods within London. Most of the people in my family can't understand anyone from England because of their accents.
 
Daft said:
One thing hearies can sometimes do - they can tell where someone is from simply from his accent. One can usually pick out a born and raised New Yorker, Bostonian, Southern, etc.

When I could hear well, I had to really concentrate to understand some of the Brits. The Brits here can better explain about the various British accents. A friend from England told me there are different accents in different neighborhoods within London. Most of the people in my family can't understand anyone from England because of their accents.
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I find that logic to be true in most cases. With my daughter's speech problems, she has an accent to totally belies where she's from. She still at 15 speaks with a Boston accent and we've never been to MA ever in our lives. She was born in WPB, FL and leaned to speak in Missouri. She did not speak her first clear word until she was 8, but had a sentence at age 2 that was something like, "loo ma, the hows ow eeing rass" for "look mom, the cows are eating grass." She has problems with the "r" sounds and still can't do a "th".
 
stealingmay said:
In my opinion, the most annoying sounds are the repetitive ones, like when girls tap their nails on the desk, clicking a pen over and over again, popping gum, tapping your foot, zipping and unzipping a zipper... things like that can be very distracting like someone following you around tapping on your shoulder all day. The sounds aren't really loud or high pitched or low pitched... they're pretty normal sounds but it's the repetitiveness that gets annoying. Those are the sounds I'm usually most sensitive to.
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Funny. I have an application on my iPod that mimics the sounds of field crickets. I use just about every night to help me get to sleep because I find cricket singing to be soothing.:giggle:
 
shel90 said:
I was joking with my brother's date yesterday when I hung out with her for girls' night out. She was complaining that she couldnt sleep at the house she is staying because of the dogs barking all night. I told her that a deaf person would be perfect for her house and dogsitting job because we could sleep through the barking! :lol:
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wow, I can't imagine how they feel with all the noises in the streets! :eek3:
 
Daft said:
One thing hearies can sometimes do - they can tell where someone is from simply from his accent. One can usually pick out a born and raised New Yorker, Bostonian, Southern, etc.
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Can't many Deafies do this with signing accents?
 
I am a hearing person. The same as everyone else who is hearing said, it is impossible to relate to a Deaf person. My boyfriend of two and a half years is Deaf. There are positive aspects to being hearing but the negative aspects are when you don't want to hear things. For an example, if you are in a negative environment (yelling, screaming, noise pollution) you are forced to hear it all, there is no filter; sometimes, there is no peace because of it. You take in the good and the bad. I also notice how I am distracted by sounds around me. When my boyfriend and I first started dating, he would watch me and my reaction to things and would turn aroiund when I turned around, but I noticed that it happened every minute or so. The beauty of Deafness or signing with a Deaf person is the intimacy of the conversation; you are COMPLETELY enthralled, you can't ignore what they are saying and you KNOW they're focused on what you are saying. I love that my 'listens' to every word I say. It's beautiful =)
 
To be hearing...

Quiet is something that hearing people don't think about until it happens. When hearing people are in a state of quiet, some find it a precious time, some find it bothersome.

For me, being a hearing person, I enjoy the noises around me and I couldn't live without them...but I always appriciate it when it is at least, a little quiet...esspecially in places when it is normally loud.
 
i used to be hearing and I love hearing but i also love at the end of the day when i get to take my "ears" out and just relax and not strain to listen. I have always been interested in ASL and wanted to learn since I saw it on the show Zoom I believe ...that was agessss ago but anyways I love being deaf and am not stressed out about not being able to hear etc.
 
AliciaM said:
i used to be hearing and I love hearing but i also love at the end of the day when i get to take my "ears" out and just relax and not strain to listen. I have always been interested in ASL and wanted to learn since I saw it on the show Zoom I believe ...that was agessss ago but anyways I love being deaf and am not stressed out about not being able to hear etc.
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love your spirit!!! most late-deafened adults just crumble away and succumb to long life of depression and self-denial. shame..... what a waste.

:ily:
 
AliciaM said:
i used to be hearing and I love hearing but i also love at the end of the day when i get to take my "ears" out and just relax and not strain to listen. I have always been interested in ASL and wanted to learn since I saw it on the show Zoom I believe ...that was agessss ago but anyways I love being deaf and am not stressed out about not being able to hear etc.
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:gpost:
That's a positive way to look at it!
 
Jiro said:
love your spirit!!! most late-deafened adults just crumble away and succumb to long life of depression and self-denial. shame..... what a waste.

:ily:
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Yea and you only live once. Just make the best of what time you have left instead of letting deafness destroy your lives.

I guess people need to go through stages of grief but to get stuck on one stage is definitely someone who needs serious help.
 
Jiro said:
love your spirit!!! most late-deafened adults just crumble away and succumb to long life of depression and self-denial. shame..... what a waste.

:ily:
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Glad I'm not one of those who "crumble" away life. I am finding as more time goes on, I appreciate the deafness more. I do miss some aspects of hearing, but there's no use crying over spilt milk and I love who I am now. I am still the mother of my children and still the loving wife to my hubby and still the loving daughter that my mother adores. Losing my hearing did not take those things away. I am gaining more acceptance with other family members as they realize what I am going through. If it weren't for AllDeaf, I probebly would not feel this strongly about it. Everyone on this board has been fantastic in one way or another. I take my licks as they come because I mostly deserve it, but I also try to help others who come along and find themselve in the same boat.
 
AliciaM said:
I have always been interested in ASL and wanted to learn since I saw it on the show Zoom I believe.
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:monkey: ASL USED TO BE ON ZOOM!?!?! OMG! I was TOTALLY OBSESSED WITH THAT SHOW! I am serious! My stuffed animals only spoke Ubby Dubby! HaHa
...*clears throat* excuse me, flashbacks came when I read your post...never saw sign language on Zoom...must have missed that episode... :fruit:

I don't know how I could take it if I went deaf. Were you freaked out? Did it happen suddenly or over a period of time?

I would flip if I went deaf, probably because I have hyperacusis. It is an intolernace to normal, everyday sounds and pairs with tinitus sometimes. I don't have tinitus though. Some people are born with hyperacusis, for others, it comes from hearing something too loud like a gun shot, or just because.
I don't know if I was born with it, but my ears really started bugging me when I was about 16. But I have always been particular to quiet environments...so who knows?
To me, the world is loud. I am use to hearing EVERYTHING. I couldn't imagine my life without sound because my life is never quiet.
I still love my ears though. I love sounds. My hyperacusis varies from day to day so much that I forget I have it. Today happens to be a bad day so I feel inclined to bitch *cough* inform about it. I am lucky. Some people have it so bad that they can't even whisper their own voice because it is too loud and it is impossible to forget you have it.
 
Kaelisabeth said:
:monkey: ASL USED TO BE ON ZOOM!?!?! OMG! I was TOTALLY OBSESSED WITH THAT SHOW! I am serious! My stuffed animals only spoke Ubby Dubby! HaHa
...*clears throat* excuse me, flashbacks came when I read your post...never saw sign language on Zoom...must have missed that episode... :fruit:

I don't know how I could take it if I went deaf. Were you freaked out? Did it happen suddenly or over a period of time?

I would flip if I went deaf, probably because I have hyperacusis. It is an intolernace to normal, everyday sounds and pairs with tinitus sometimes. I don't have tinitus though. Some people are born with hyperacusis, for others, it comes from hearing something too loud like a gun shot, or just because.
I don't know if I was born with it, but my ears really started bugging me when I was about 16. But I have always been particular to quiet environments...so who knows?
To me, the world is loud. I am use to hearing EVERYTHING. I couldn't imagine my life without sound because my life is never quiet.
I still love my ears though. I love sounds. My hyperacusis varies from day to day so much that I forget I have it. Today happens to be a bad day so I feel inclined to bitch *cough* inform about it. I am lucky. Some people have it so bad that they can't even whisper their own voice because it is too loud and it is impossible to forget you have it.
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Hyperacusis, is usually from some damage to the auditory nerve.
 
Being hearing isn't the best. you can hear people speak behind your backs about you and your friends. you can hear music or things you don't want to know. On the other hand you can get more jobs. you won't feel strange around others as much. you can enjoy music and movies. but then again it goes back to what if you don't want to hear it. just because you can hear doesn't mean you wish you were deaf. I wish I was at times then I wouldn't have to hear somethings that constantly happen in my family in the holidays. I would say you are absalutly lucky.
 
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