Don't You Hate it When People Assume That Since You Have H.A.'s You Hear Perfectly?

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I find that often if I ask people to repeat something they will get angry or tell me that I'm not paying attention or that I have "selective hearing". I then try to explain that with hearing aids, they only amplify the sound and do not clarify the sound but people don't seem to understand. It makes me very angry. This also happens when I ask to turn on the CC... I am told that they will just turn it up. Well, that's nice that you are going to turn it up for me but it's not going to clarify the words. :mad2:

Ignorance. :roll:
 
Lucky me, no one thinks I can understand TV with no captions. Plus my husband is HOH so he needs them too.

But sometimes it is embarrassing in a store if a clerk talks to me and I don't understand. Then usually neither one of us knows what to do.

I love internet shopping!! :P
 
Loghead said:
I find that often if I ask people to repeat something they will get angry or tell me that I'm not paying attention or that I have "selective hearing". I then try to explain that with hearing aids, they only amplify the sound and do not clarify the sound but people don't seem to understand. It makes me very angry. This also happens when I ask to turn on the CC... I am told that they will just turn it up. Well, that's nice that you are going to turn it up for me but it's not going to clarify the words. :mad2:

Ignorance. :roll:
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OH I do get that Often!!

I hate it, when I do not hear them... They will holler out!! "Turn your hearing aids up!"

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Makes me just want to ......
 
I don't recall any time that someone has told me to turn my hearing aids up, but I do get told often that people think that as long as I'm wearing HAs that I hear perfectly fine. No !!!! I still can't even hear birds chirping or make out most words without lipreading.
 
I did have those problems Pre CI.

I am currently having same problem with my CI!! I was born profoundly deaf and would not be "hearing the phones overnight" people are getting funstrated now that i have CI and haven't yet used phone..... excuse me i was implanted like 11 months ago and I am long long away from using phone! OR stop using CC or expects me to listen without lipreading!!! I have been profoundly deaf/relied on lipreading for 30 years so it would take long time for my brain to learn the words or it may never happen.

I am still same as with HA's, the environmental sounds and lipreading only got better thats all.
 
I hear ok on the cell phone, but not perfectly like most would expect. I can hear my mom, sis, and gf pretty well on the phone and I like hearing their voices. Its more difficult with the guys in my family cause they have low voices. I think my dad's the only guy that I can understand well on the phone as he talks to me often.

Usually people repeat for me if I ask them. I haven't really met someone who was rude to me when it comes to conversations.
 
If people are going to be rude, just stop talking to them. No one's assumed I hear perfectly. When I don't understand everything they say, I kindly ask them to repeat themselves and they do. Ive met a few people who don't speak clearly and we just move on, unable to have a converstation.
 
I hate that shit it happens to me a lot just because I wear two hearing aids don't mean I can hear what someone is saying. :mad:
 
I think the problem here is that most people just don't understand hearing loss and think that it's just a matter of amplification. When I talk to people who really seem to care and want to learn they are amazed by the different degrees of hearing loss or what a hearing aid can and can't do, and all the things that a person with a loss needs to overcome in order to hear. Like a lot of things in life, for some people, if it doesn't affect them personally, then they just don't care. Then of course there are those stupid ignorant bastards that act rude and think they are funny, and make comments or gestures behind your back concerning your loss, the ones where you'd like to put your hands around their throat and slowly squeeze... oh sorry, got carried away.:Oops:
 
I've always had to grit my teeth when people would say...."Well, she can talk....so she can hear"!...Giving the assumption that I'm faking my deafness....Even had people go behind my back and hollar my name to see if I would turn around.....really, such stupid shyt!
 
Yup, gets frustrating at times, especially when they tell you to turn it up or get a new HA. "Well you speak so well" gets annoying too.
 
Loghead said:
I've never had anyone say that to me before. I don't have the "voice" but I think it is because a lot of people around here don't know a lot of deaf or HOH people.
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Ok, how about this one then, "but you are too young to be deaf"!
 
I get the samething all the time! It worst when I am talking to tech support on the phone, I will tell the person to slow down so I can understand them better, and they start YELLING at me! I ask why are you yelling and the jerk say" you said you could not hear me! " I had people come up to me when I had my hearing dog with his jacket on that had '"hearingdog' printed on both side and the person talk to me in a whisper ! I tell the idiot that I am really HOH! I went to a doctor that I had trouble understanding and he leaned over and spoke into my HA like it was a microphone for people to speak into!
We have a lot of work to do to educated the hearing public! Do you think they'll ever learn?
 
whatdidyousay! said:
You should say back "How old were you when you became so stupid or were you born that way!'
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Good comeback, I am typically pretty polite, but I have my days!

On the bright side of things, at least I still look young enough to get this comment, haha!:lol:
 
I went to motor Vehicle bureau recently and I explained to the woman behind the counter that I wear hearing aids and that even with them in I need hear to look at me when she speaks and to try to speak up. So what does she do? Looks down and speaks softly. I repeat my request, and again she looks down and speaks softly. The woman next to her tells her she needs to "speak up honey, he can't hear you", she continues to speak softly. My wife tries to intervene and answer her questions, but the woman now speaks up and says" he has to answer the questions madam". There's a certain point where being nice just doesn't matter.
 
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